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Mental Health I feel really awkuard around people, what can I do against it?

I told my mom. She exsepted it and promissed to take me and not tell anyone.
How will it be ? Do I confest that I used drugs and that I like to experinment sometimes on special ocations every now and then?

I dont think these depressions and the dark down feeling were caused by drugs they were consitant before already.
 
Dude at 15 weed and alcohol are definitely gateways to worse shit down the road. I'm all for legalizing recreational drugs, but at your age it's very dangerous. I know many potheads I was friends with at 15 who never developed themselves socially and are now hardcore heroin and meth addicts selling their bodies on the street so they can score more drugs. Just think about that for a minute. Your story sounds identical to how a lot of their stories started off.
 
Keep practicing talking to people. I used to experience social anxiety and it was seriously the worst thing ever. I got over it by facing my fears head on and just talking to people. The biggest, most helpful thing for me was to learn how to LISTEN to others. Focus on them, not you. Surround yourself with positive people whenever possible. Be true to yourself and honest, don't try to impress anyone.

The least helpful thing that exacerbated my anxiety was drug use.
 
That's what we call anxiety, most people have it especially as a teenager... I still have it in certain situations but I have developed mental coping skills to counter them and plain just stop caring so much. I used to take loads of benzos to counter these feelings and felt I couldn't be normal without them.

I personally think humans are becoming less social because of all the anti social programs we have now, we are social creatures and everyone needs some sort of socialization but now you can just hop on a video game and never speak a word like I'm doing right now to socialize. This makes it so you don't develop certain skills to interact with people face to face and it adds in a whole other language to the mix of socializing, body language. Drugs can make it better or far worse because anxiety is in the mind and certain drugs can make you obsess over little things.

Also it sounds cliche, but find a hobby that involves physical activity...Humans were not meant to be still all day every day and I've found exercising has done loads of help for my mental shape, also it can't hurt your physical shape either.
 
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lonewolf05 said:
Dude at 15 weed and alcohol are definitely gateways to worse shit down the road. I'm all for legalizing recreational drugs, but at your age it's very dangerous. I know many potheads I was friends with at 15 who never developed themselves socially and are now hardcore heroin and meth addicts selling their bodies on the street so they can score more drugs. Just think about that for a minute. Your story sounds identical to how a lot of their stories started off.
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I have, the diffrence is I moderation. I dont drink like my other frinds. I only seldomly very seldomly. Dont go on house partrys anymore. I am really carefull :)


kayladelmo said:
Keep practicing talking to people. I used to experience social anxiety and it was seriously the worst thing ever. I got over it by facing my fears head on and just talking to people. The biggest, most helpful thing for me was to learn how to LISTEN to others. Focus on them, not you. Surround yourself with positive people whenever possible. Be true to yourself and honest, don't try to impress anyone.

The least helpful thing that exacerbated my anxiety was drug use.
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I I think i got that down now..

liftedgift said:
That's what we call anxiety, most people have it especially as a teenager... I still have it in certain situations but I have developed mental coping skills to counter them and plain just stop caring so much. I used to take loads of benzos to counter these feelings and felt I couldn't be normal without them.

I personally think humans are becoming less social because of all the anti social programs we have now, we are social creatures and everyone needs some sort of socialization but now you can just hop on a video game and never speak a word like I'm doing right now to socialize. This makes it so you don't develop certain skills to interact with people face to face and it adds in a whole other language to the mix of socializing, body language. Drugs can make it better or far worse because anxiety is in the mind and certain drugs can make you obsess over little things.

Also it sounds cliche, but find a hobby that involves physical activity...Humans were not meant to be still all day every day and I've found exercising has done loads of help for my mental shape, also it can't hurt your physical shape either.
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Go riunning twice a week, go to the finess studio 4 times a week, go to free running twice a week, and play tennis once a week. Exercising really isent the problem nore is speaking to others its more of the group Im scared of. Once im with allot of people like 3 to 5 to how every many friends and I dont have a really really really good bud with me on my side I just cant talk when I try to say something my voice goes down when I try to make a joke it doenst sound funny to me I just stop in the middle and remain silent for a long period. And yes drugs make it allot more worse than it usally is. But thats usally just the come down my worse was of XTC but im not goign to do that for a while...

I can listen perfectly fine Im good at talking but only if I have one person to talk to. I am a very opden person and you can fun with me but only if your alone with me or if Im fucking drunk with allot of others that are really drunk. I have a few personality disorders. Like I cant stand it if people just seem like their using me, or if people dont wait for me I get really angry and could smash my into something.
 
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hah you sound exactly like myself especially at 15 years old. I know what you mean when you try to make conversation and it feels like it just went nowhere and you think people are thinking " the fuck is this guy? retarded?" ... Sounds like anxiety with maybe a bit of paranoia in there.

I think you said you speak with a therapist or doctor and that's good man it certainly can't hurt. Some people have extreme anxiety disorders that may require medicine but I'd say most of us with anxiety just have to live with it the best we can, I know benzos for me helped at first but down the road just messed me up.

Really, you are still developing. I think brains don't stop developing until around age 25 so the more practice you do (more social situations) the more your brain will make certain connections and probably have better skills to deal with uncomfortable situations cause I can tell you they don't ever stop in life, they just become more manageable.
 
The only thing that can be holding you back from your experience of true confidence right here and right NOW is thought. And what is thought? It's an illusion bro. The only power it has is in direct perportion to the amount of focus you put on it. Forget about it bro. Your not awkward. You just sometimes think you are. We all do. The only difference is that you think its REAL and I know it's just a thought.
 
I started smoking weed at 14 and it did bring out anxiety in me, i still love the stuff but in moderation and not every day. Thats the problem with weed it makes you very inward. Doesent have that effect on everyone but it does on others and i guarntee if you stop the weed and drink the Anxiety will calm down or even disappear.
 
All teenagers feel like this. If it gets to the point where you feel it is effecting your life then go see a professional before it becomes ingrained in your subconscious. Try smoking and drinking less and exercising more, try to find a hobby (with friends) that doesn't involve getting shit faced. You should start feeling better pretty soon, if not go talk to someone I speak from experience. Just remember you have all sorts of mood swings and emotions when you are a teenager but really look at your interactions... are you really nervous or are you just nervous about being nervous? If it is the latter just pay attention to make it go away.
 
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The only thing that can be holding you back from your experience of true confidence right here and right NOW is thought. And what is thought? It's an illusion bro. The only power it has is in direct perportion to the amount of focus you put on it. Forget about it bro. Your not awkward. You just sometimes think you are. We all do. The only difference is that you think its REAL and I know it's just a thought.
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Wow that was a really good post man! Thanks for that.
 
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