I don't really like my friends?

[Shatter]

Has anyone ever suddenly realized that they can't stand their friends? Please excuse the long explanation but hopefully some other people can relate.

So let me start off by saying I used to be a very different person. I had an attitude that from what I understand rubbed people the wrong way. I had a few friends but not too many.

Fast forward, I've changed a lot. From what I understand I've become a much more tolerable personality. And recently I've realized that what few friends I have are the most annoying people in the world. I can't stand them. They seem to have very few brain cells, social awareness, and are very simple minded. Not in a good way.

My female "friends" only care about Instagram and how stupid they can appear to others, because apparently they think that's attractive. They're bad at interacting in real life.

My guy "friends" only care about their pitiful or desperate attempts to hook up with girls and seem incapable of deep thought. Nobody has any chill. I don't feel close enough to genuinely express my feelings to anyone.

Nobody will get drunk or high with me.

I don't like girls anymore. I used to have some stupid vision of meeting some girl and falling in love for the first time or whatever (I've never really had a relationship other than "failed almost relationships") but honestly girls my age are pathetic, shallow, and childish. (I'm 17, senior in high school) Besides, everyone has had relationships and slept around by now and my vision of finding someone who also hasn't been with anyone is impossible now.

So I don't really have any desire to interact with anyone. I'm very good at it and I know all the games, all the tricks, I can play people and manipulate people and sometimes I feel like I can read people's minds just by looking at their body language. The game has gotten old, everyone is so predictable. Girls, don't even get me started. It's the whole "don't give them attention, be a dick then be nice, make them need to impress you, etc" rinse repeat, alter formula based on personality. It's gotten easy and boring and I don't like any of them anyway. Every time I actually liked someone I wouldn't play the games and I would lose. I wouldn't play the game because I actually wanted a relationship based on truthful attraction and not games. I haven't felt attraction to anyone in a while though.

I'm sure I'm not the only one who has seen their desire to interact with others dwindle. It's like slowly you realize everyone's a robot.

Thoughts?

 

[flannery oh]

You're wise beyond your years. The world is full of shallow basic bitches, but it is also full of truly inspiring people. Finding them can seem near impossible, but don't give up hope. Stop looking for them, but never fail to treat everyone you know, and people you don't, with decency and kindness whenever possible. That is one of my favorite lyrics from all the songs ever created...

There are a lot of sheep-like robots out there, but don't ever forget that everyone is facing some sort of battle.

You can't get rid of me now, shatter! Please honestly keep in touch. I look forward to hearing how things will surely turn out better for you.

 

[Cliffy78]

You're wise beyond your years. The world is full of shallow basic bitches, but it is also full of truly inspiring people. Finding them can seem near impossible, but don't give up hope. Stop looking for them, but never fail to treat everyone you know, and people you don't, with decency and kindness whenever possible. That is one of my favorite lyrics from all the songs ever created...

There are a lot of sheep-like robots out there, but don't ever forget that everyone is facing some sort of battle.

You can't get rid of me now, shatter! Please honestly keep in touch. I look forward to hearing how things will surely turn out better for you.

Basic bitches!!!! Lmfaoooo!
I concur lol.

 

[Shatter]

Hahaha basic bitches is exactly the right description. Actual humor has been replaced with showing memes and "funny" pictures on phones. My one friend literally tries to flirt with girls by showing and sending them pictures he thinks are funny non stop. Girls have almost no capacity to function without their phones either, the majority I've encountered get very awkward and uncomfortable with direct conversation that doesn't involve talk about social media or whatever else. I'm by no means anything like a grumpy old fashioned person but it just gets intolerable. The fact that I don't have snapchat means I'm constantly "out of the loop" on all the jokes and stories.

 

[flannery oh]

All the best people I know are social media less. Seems you were born in the wrong decade. There are surely people out there your age who are intelligent enough to hold a decent conversation without clutching their phones with a deathgrip.

 

[bingey]

Hahaha basic bitches is exactly the right description. Actual humor has been replaced with showing memes and "funny" pictures on phones. My one friend literally tries to flirt with girls by showing and sending them pictures he thinks are funny non stop. Girls have almost no capacity to function without their phones either, the majority I've encountered get very awkward and uncomfortable with direct conversation that doesn't involve talk about social media or whatever else. I'm by no means anything like a grumpy old fashioned person but it just gets intolerable. The fact that I don't have snapchat means I'm constantly "out of the loop" on all the jokes and stories.

I feel yoo on the phone thing. Whenever I'm with a chick and she's reaching for it I feel like I couold have been spending the time with a hooker (who will automatically grab her phone after 25 min but not during!)

 

[GolemGolem]

Yeah, sounds like you're growing up. You going to university? Don't worry, there are both better and worse people out there and you can go and find them shortly. Maybe even a girl worth caring about.

 

[Shatter]

I feel yoo on the phone thing. Whenever I'm with a chick and she's reaching for it I feel like I couold have been spending the time with a hooker (who will automatically grab her phone after 25 min but not during!)

Yo that's so true tho! I reconnected with a girl I've known since we were both little kids and she was less like that. I guess I always had a soft spot for her. There was something going on for a little while but as per usual she got scared and backed out because deep inside I guess she also had the maturity of a child.

I bet she'll eventually find some football player from her local high school team, fuck him and then he'll forget about her in a week. Then complain about how evil guys are.

Typical.

 

[GolemGolem]

Not all the way grown up yet.
Advice time:
Don't fall into the nice guy mind trap unless you are a nice guy. Just because you don't pull any Cosby's you are not automatically a nice guy. Real nice guys don't feel like their owed anything accept for what has been promised. Girls spot that shit a mile away and the smart mature ones keep their distance.

 

[Shatter]

Not all the way grown up yet.
Advice time:
Don't fall into the nice guy mind trap unless you are a nice guy. Just because you don't pull any Cosby's you are not automatically a nice guy. Real nice guys don't feel like their owed anything accept for what has been promised. Girls spot that shit a mile away and the smart mature ones keep their distance.

Please don't assume this of me, I know the whole scheme and the whole pity parade and it's hilarious and ironic. I was just making a joke. It was more about the typical lack of commitment that goes along with immaturity.

But back to friends, as that was the original topic

 

[The80killer]

Being more mature than everyone in high school is a curse, don't worry though it gets better after high-school for 99% of the population. I had fun at your age, I guess I would have been considered a bro (kinda hard to accept now that I'm an adult) but after high-school the whole cliques thing just kind of disappeared. It's also normal to our grow friends, I barely talk to my civilian friends from home after the Army. If you ever seen the movie idiocracy, stupid shallow people are always going to out number people you can have meaningful conversations with, but as you get older you'll find more like minded people just because others will mature. Don't let stupid people bring you down, just remember friends are replaceable and don't let them hold you back.

 

[smokeymcpot42088]

First of all I am 27 so I am still fairly young but I'd say were a generation apart and I apologize, our generation let yours down in big time ways. Your 17 and you think your hopes of a girl falling in love with you as her first love are MORE THAN POSSIBLE. At 17 most of my female friends were virgins, or maybe liars but I believe a good percent based on there actions were honest to god virgins. Secondly who cares, if you think your gunna marry your hs sweetheart that rarely works out when it does.

Met a girl in HS at 14, dated her for 8 years till I was 22, im ring shopping and x-mas rolls around, she gets me coat hangers. No shit honest to god coat hangers, you know the kind you ask for and they give you for free...... anyways that left a bitter taste about women.

So I focused on my "friends" who I quickly learned were only here for a chunk of this or could you roll one of these or oh man you should share that script. Half of them are currently detoxing and working on undoing all that shit. (myself included)

So your 17, you realize how fucked the world has became, your not uber dependant on anything that you mentioned. From your post I can tell you that your more intelligent than most 17 year olds.

don't take offense but it sounds like you don't like women too much right now. My advice take a year to get to know yourself, if during that year the right comes along don't be like NO THIS IS MY YEAR. but just don't worry about it, sounds like you've fucked substantially more women than me at 28 and I rotate between 13 hand tailored suits from Milan Italy and plenty of cool toys. I dated a girl for 8 years that cheated on me and another for 4, I still talk to all my exes except the 8 year one (she was cheatin and got caught home invading for a pill I could have easily gave her, bye bye) But she is not ALL women, since than I've enjoyed a beautiful green eyes big boobies girl of Mexican descent and the second place amateur stripper at "myrtle beach strip off" (no my cock hasn't fallen off) ......and frankly for one year, for me ata least that's enough. The girl of Mexican descent I made call and break it off with her bf before fuckin her and the myrtle beach girl was on her celly and shoplifting while I was with her, caught her in my moms jewelry told her to take a hike. Point being that getting laid isn't more important than the value you assign it; love you can not just go im going to find someone to fall in love with, just doesn't work that way. I missed some opportunities that i'd kill to get back I just gotta hope I recognize the next one....

summary, dude other than a slight complex toward women your sittin on top of the castle. Your smarter than your peers and realize it, find new peers your about to be hucked into Academia find friends there.

Take Orientation and go to the stupid school events that's also a great way to meet girls that aren't basic, they have a passion, a cause, w/e you wanna call it. In 30 years when you tell them you never gave a crap about saving the whales you just protested to be with her she'll find it romantic anyways.

if your worried about girls MEET ONE AT UNI don't be the creepy guy that hits on every chick but believe me they are just as excited as you to get a new set of "higher educated" men...... Now your worth more and can get a higher caliber woman who knows to turn the phone off at dinner and if she doesn't it should only take one, "Could you not text while were cuddling/at dinner/ w/e and if she says no cast the pole again......

as far as friends go I have NONE either, just mooches, could I get a chunk of that, will ya burn one, eh meng can I grab a couple of these, so I decided to count and the last 12 ppl that visited asked for something so I too plan to take a year of solitude and furthering my degree.

 

[Burnt Offerings]

Yeah there are a lot of young women who are completely fake and full of shit. Both genders have some tendencies I dislike...with guys it's mostly about overzealously protecting their fragile egos & thinking they're the shit (when in reality they're far from it), and with girls it's mostly about presenting a false image of themselves to others & not being genuine.

With that being said it's far from universal and I've met some really cool chicks in my life.

I've also been lucky in that I've had a core group of about 4 or 5 really solid friends, all of whom I've known for over 15 years, since we were in elementary school basically. And yeah, friendships experience rough patches...I've seen my friends beat the crap out of each other before and then laugh about it the next day, though. One time when I was 14 I shot my best friend in the head (with a pellet gun) and he punched me so hard for that lol...he had to go to the hospital to get the pellet removed but he refused to say anything to the cops when they asked him about it. I know that my friends would have to get the info beaten out of them before they'd betray me, and the same applies to me when it comes to them. That's true friendship. and yet I've personally disliked them all at one point or another.

 

[Shatter]

Don't let stupid people bring you down, just remember friends are replaceable and don't let them hold you back.

That is very true, I will keep that in mind for friends.

but just don't worry about it, sounds like you've fucked substantially more women than me at 28 and I rotate between 13 hand tailored suits from Milan Italy and plenty of cool toys

Actually I haven't haha, I've never fucked anyone. The farthest I've gone is kissed some girl one time while completely smashed and then I puked and blacked out later. Don't remember it much. I've had ample opportunity to, it's not hard for me to attract girls. But I guess nobody ever strikes me as someone I want to emotionally invest in. And if they do, the whole "you get everything you don't want and nothing you really want" proves to be true.

 

[Tinker55]

Considering some of the attitudes I've seen in postings here (not talking about you, OP) it's no surprise some aren't getting laid.

 

[weekend addiction]

OP: I've been just like you most my life. I have had a hard time making real friends and being in real relationships because I moved around all my life. So for the most part I just avoided it. Be glad your not insecure enough to have a bunch of fake relationships and fake friends they are a waste of time on a good day. And social media is such a joke I rarely even have minutes on my phone. If your not hanging out with me theres a reason for it and I don't want to read your fucking facebook.

 

[smokeymcpot42088]

well go get laid a couple times, guarantee almost you fall in love with the first girl. the world will seem perfect. than she'll tear your heart out (even if you dump her) than come back and ask again.

This would be like me saying I don't like ketamine, well have you ever done it. No but its a douchebag drug. open your mind man, think of how difficult life would be as a woman. Don't focus on meeting someone again, for me I met the girl I dated 4 years cuz I was tripping balls and she was the only one that could keep up in Mario. shrooms=no sense of time. Next thing you know im sitting around trying to beat Mario and everyone but her has wandered off, why hello beautiful (evil deceiptful witch). and there it was.

 

[smokeymcpot42088]

and damn you for quoting me bragging, let me humble myself, my # is 6 and a kind of (long story lol)

 

[Burnt Offerings]

Also, OP, if you don't like the stupid & petty "game" that society/your peers want you to play in regards to your interpersonal relationships, why not just refuse to play it?

I mean it seems like you aren't playing it anyway, but you still seem somewhat bothered by how stupid and utterly fucked up mainstream culture is. Yeah it's completely soulless and fucked up, so why not just embrace nihilism and view it with the same kind of sardonic irony that all of those who have truly given up on life do?

The drug-addled degenerate pondscum that populate this fine website can give you pointers I'm sure.

 

[gettheFoutofmyhead]

all of those who have truly given up on life.

I don't understand what people mean by "giving up on life". I guess "life" in our culture is having a job, having a house, having a car, and having a bitch who you can fuck with to produce more humans. In reality, life is reproduction. Everything in this universe reproduces, and we are no different. Our sole purpose is to reproduce, that's about it. If i choose to sit on the edge of a sidewalk for the rest of my life, i'm not entirely sure what i'm giving up on. Am i supposed to stick my cock into a vagina several times until white stuff comes out of my cock? Am i supposed to acquire a box on wheels? Am i supposed to acquire shelter? No. You are a life form whose purpose is to die. Whoever says you're giving up on life is just straight-up dumb.

I've been told several times in my life to "go out and do things". My response is "why"? Their response to that is "because you have to live life". *sigh* *facepalm* *long exhale* *head slams on desk several times* *punches the wall several times*