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i don't know if I'm too sensitive or my boyfriend is a jerk

As a psychology major I realize telling people "CALM DOWN" - it doesn't help them calm down at all. The best you an do is empathize and try to work with them and how they're feeling... not to command them to do or feel a certain way, it often backfires in a severe kind of way.
 
ntnl said:
Fixed for you

As I've gotten older, one of the biggest turn offs is girls that can't deal with themselves, it's ridiculous. You don't need me every ten minuts for ANYTHING, if you do, you need to wear a helmet full time....even in bed.

It comes with youth or lack of ability to process the things around you. You will find yourself, and when you do, it'll be freeing as hell.....the truth of life: CARE ABOUT YOURSELF and the ones you want around you. FUCK what the rest of us say/do/eat/wear.
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Yep, I hear ya. Being alone doesn't suck at all really, but it's an adjustment. It saddens me to see posts like the OP's where they continue to allow themselves to be a doormat just so there is a warm body in the same room. Hopefully, no kids come of this situation.
 
he sounds like a jekyll and hyde character to me honey. half the time he wants to be around you and half the time he dosen't. if i'm being honest i would say break up with him, but that decision would have to be yours. i feel that you could do with a man who appreciates you more, and has a bit more respect for you. you sound like a cool chic to me, and i think he would lose more than you if you split up. i hope i've given you something to chew over honey.
 
Sometimes people don't realise that they are hurting their partner in the way they are. I was extremely inconsiderate to my ex gf in many ways (and her to me), I was just blind to how much I was hurting her even though I would have done literally anything for her. I'm not saying this guy is like that, but humans often fail to gain perspective on their behaviour, it doesn't mean they're evil.
 
OP, not prioritising you on new year's eve sounds wrong to me - I'm not the needy type but this is one of a few days in the year where spending time with a SO should be his priority, and with the heroin issue... I'm also thinking he's not that into you and not who you should be wasting your time worrying about.

And for the record, being each other's emotional security blanket doesn't make this a relationship.
 
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