Lunchboxor
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Recently my ex of three years and I broke up. It was mutual(It actually was lol) And we both hurt from it, but we both knew the way we were treating eachother was unacceptable. We tried so many times over the last three years, its just time to call it quits for now. That happened three months ago.
Ive been with a girl, and two guys since then, so im not in the stage where I feel like I have to fuck something to get over her. I know im not over her yet, but,im not thinking ive gotta fuck the pain away anymore.
Alright, so, I work at a super market. Big one, lots of coworkers (around total of 84, at any given time 25 are in the store) Theres this girl ive worked with for the past three years, we have always been friends, not as close until recently, but she holds slight position over me. Not to the point where she is my supervisor, but, where she doesnt have to do the menial tasks I and most of the rest of the employees have to do.
At my job, the group of people who are young, from 16-28 basically, (me 19, her 21) all flirt and hit on eachother really hard, on purpose. Its basically a game. Even with guys, we all do it, because its funny, and hearing nice things, and telling people nice things in general makes you happy, makes working at a supermarket slightly more bareable since all we do all day is here how much we suck from customers.
The girl I caught feelings for got out of a relationship about a month and a half ago. Three month relationship. She hasnt had expierence with long term relationships. My only two relationships have been for 1.5 yrs and 3yrs 3 months. Much longer then her 4 month longest, and shes had only a few more then me, four relationships I believe.
Recently, we started talking alot more about how to cope with all our stress from our exes, I talked to her about one of the biggest reasons my exgirlfriend left me, me being a crossdresser. As it turns out, one of her closest friends is a crossdresser, and she was very accepting of me about it. We smoke weed together on our breaks while at work once a week or so, and just talk. She has amazing wit, good comebacks, and a great sense of humor, grim, dark humor, just like mine. Our personalities mesh very well, and anyone around us is just brought into our laughter. Where my ex hated all my jokes because they were dark or harsh, would always get mad when I made sillies, and just all around our personalities didnt compliment eachother well. The sex did, not much else though.
In the past week or so, ive come to realise that im really starting to like her more then a friend, more then someone who I can talk to, and someone who has came to me many times asking for help. I obviously dont love her, im no idiot, but I cant deny I caught a case of the feelings for this girl. Im just so thrown off that I work with her. I dont want to just fuck her, shes my friend and thats not how I am, and I dont want to ruin our good friendship by telling her I got a case of the feelfeels. But the things we say to eachother, holy crap. Some may border on sexual harrasment, and some may be things only lovers would normally say to eachother. She is the initatior 6/10 times, so its defiantly mutual.
Our age actually isnt a big difference either, She was only a grade above me in school, and I graduated six months after she did. We both in the same point with college at the moment, besides that, the maturitiy level with the girl is much higher then my ex, which is really a big plus to me.
Could it just be ive just gotten too into flirting with her, and I should just let this go? Mind that Ill probably work here for another two years, and so will she. Maybe more.
Tl:dr should I give workplace crush a try by letting her know how I feel and possibly lose a friend?
Ive been with a girl, and two guys since then, so im not in the stage where I feel like I have to fuck something to get over her. I know im not over her yet, but,im not thinking ive gotta fuck the pain away anymore.
Alright, so, I work at a super market. Big one, lots of coworkers (around total of 84, at any given time 25 are in the store) Theres this girl ive worked with for the past three years, we have always been friends, not as close until recently, but she holds slight position over me. Not to the point where she is my supervisor, but, where she doesnt have to do the menial tasks I and most of the rest of the employees have to do.
At my job, the group of people who are young, from 16-28 basically, (me 19, her 21) all flirt and hit on eachother really hard, on purpose. Its basically a game. Even with guys, we all do it, because its funny, and hearing nice things, and telling people nice things in general makes you happy, makes working at a supermarket slightly more bareable since all we do all day is here how much we suck from customers.
The girl I caught feelings for got out of a relationship about a month and a half ago. Three month relationship. She hasnt had expierence with long term relationships. My only two relationships have been for 1.5 yrs and 3yrs 3 months. Much longer then her 4 month longest, and shes had only a few more then me, four relationships I believe.
Recently, we started talking alot more about how to cope with all our stress from our exes, I talked to her about one of the biggest reasons my exgirlfriend left me, me being a crossdresser. As it turns out, one of her closest friends is a crossdresser, and she was very accepting of me about it. We smoke weed together on our breaks while at work once a week or so, and just talk. She has amazing wit, good comebacks, and a great sense of humor, grim, dark humor, just like mine. Our personalities mesh very well, and anyone around us is just brought into our laughter. Where my ex hated all my jokes because they were dark or harsh, would always get mad when I made sillies, and just all around our personalities didnt compliment eachother well. The sex did, not much else though.
In the past week or so, ive come to realise that im really starting to like her more then a friend, more then someone who I can talk to, and someone who has came to me many times asking for help. I obviously dont love her, im no idiot, but I cant deny I caught a case of the feelings for this girl. Im just so thrown off that I work with her. I dont want to just fuck her, shes my friend and thats not how I am, and I dont want to ruin our good friendship by telling her I got a case of the feelfeels. But the things we say to eachother, holy crap. Some may border on sexual harrasment, and some may be things only lovers would normally say to eachother. She is the initatior 6/10 times, so its defiantly mutual.
Our age actually isnt a big difference either, She was only a grade above me in school, and I graduated six months after she did. We both in the same point with college at the moment, besides that, the maturitiy level with the girl is much higher then my ex, which is really a big plus to me.
Could it just be ive just gotten too into flirting with her, and I should just let this go? Mind that Ill probably work here for another two years, and so will she. Maybe more.
Tl:dr should I give workplace crush a try by letting her know how I feel and possibly lose a friend?
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