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I'm a shy guy and am in my second semester of college. I have made friends here but they treat me very different compared to how they treat each other. On top of that I hear people talking behind my back all the time, including my friends. Its so frequent I sometimes wonder if I'm hearing things. Another thing that really bothers me is that I adopt peoples laughs. I can't help it, it just happens. I start laughing the same, I mean the same, as other people. I just feel so different from everyone all the time and I kind of feel like people are out to make my life shit. What the hell?
 
Well, I've got two things to say to you man. Firstly you should make sure these people are actually talking about you in some concrete way like using your name or eluding directly and descriptively to something that you have recently done or said. I had a friend once who was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and when this first showed up for him he was talking quite a bit like you. Very interested in the workings of the human mind I had him explain this phenomenon to me in great detail. Basically he was sure that he was being monitored all of the time and that everyone around him was aware of all of his actions. When he would overhear conversations between anyone he would make whatever they were talking about fit him or something that he had done even in private. He believed that all of these people were part of a large conspiracy aimed at doing him harm. Most people are more concerned with themselves than making someone whom they just mets life a living hell. It is true though that people can be cruel. This leads me into the second thing I wanted to say, if you're not having a psychotic break then you should just come to terms with the fact that there is no such thing as normal, everyone is unique and honestly the more unique you are the more likely you are to be interesting to other people. It sounds to me like you have a bit of social anxiety, I used to suffer from it myself. I have since come to realize that my anxiety was far worse then what the situation called for and caused me to be awkward which in turn made my anxiety worse, it is a viscous cycle.
I would like to know more about what it is you think these people are saying about you, what it pertains to and how exactly it's worded, if your comfortable with that.
Is this your first time being around so many people for extended periods of time? I assume you're staying on campus.
Though I have experience with the world of mental health I am far from being an expert and even further from being a doctor. I do suggest that you get a screening for social anxiety and possibly even schizophrenia/psychotic break.

Best of luck to ya man.
 
i felt the same way growing up.. i had friends, but they weren't really my friends.
after a while of soulsearching, you too will find the right crowd.
this is a great place to start searching :)
 
When social anxiety starts turning into paranoia it is time to get yourself some outside help. Have you thought of getting some counseling while you are at school? It's usually free and can be a great help.<3
 
I have thought of counseling but idk. I do overhear conversations that I believe are about me but I realize that is unlikely. However these conversations still bother me. I have tried to talk to one of my "friends" about this and my ex, but they both insisted I'm not weird. Yet my friend i told this i overheard him say i was "fucked in the head." And that is for sure. Am i just fucked? I dont see how i can live like this forever. I still always feel different. People just don't treat me the same. I realize everyone is different but why do I feel so different?
 
HAhaha what is "wierd" I was a football star in high school, was very popular, now i have no friends except my cats :) and work a comission-sales job....many girls who know me say i'm very hot but very "wierd" in my taste of music, job choice, and just the way i act...haha...

Oh and i barely had any friends in college, i studied hard and tried hard in classes....the hottest girls (physically) found this unattractive....but i didn't care...took me a while to understand what other people think of you is none of your business (of course it matters what your family, bosses, etc. think of you) You sound pretty NORMAL to me bro!

Edit, i dont mean to sound arogant...i am nothing special...i prefer sitting at home watching its always sunny in philedelphia than going out chasing girls, socializing, etc.....and ALOT of people talk bad about me....i am 23 now it took till i was about 20 to fully grasp it doesnt matter when other people "gossip"...i garuntee they are insecure about themselves if they are taking about you.
 
Being "Weird" is being unique. It's being an individual. It's having a colorful personality. If you were normal, how would you stand apart from the rest of the crowd?

It's our differences, our flaws that make us, humans, who we are. Accept it, and learn to love who you are. Otherwise you will forever despise waking up in the morning.
 
i totally agree with logan1314, college and esp. high school are full of judgmental and insecure people, maybe see a doc but im guessing once you get out of the BS social system, you'll realize that it doesnt matter what other people think because you'll be set with good friends and thats all that really matters.
 
how is it affecting other areas of your life? Do you sleep normal? exercisse? Got to class and study?
 
Well it's taken a serious impact on my social life. My friends I had last semester I now almost completely avoid. My sleep is normal for any other college student, and I almost always go to class unless I know it's a class I can miss. I rarely study. I've always been shy but I find it extremely difficult to talk most of the time. I have no idea what to say, it's not that I do not want to talk. Women also cause this behavior to increase. I feel so fucked for making friends or even attempting to find a new girlfriend. I can't even talk to women!

Nobody commented on my odd laughing. Is this normal? I've heard people talking (again overheard) people talking about how I have many different laughs. It really creeps me out that I take over peoples laughs like that but it just happens :\
 
sounds like a bad case of social anxiety which i can relate to. i think its very likely that its causing you to have these irrational thoughts and over analysing situations and being overly concious of yourself like your laugh. there are some good self help books on social anxiety that have helped me just do a search on amazon.
 
I went through a thing with accents, I still do it every now and then, My stepmum who died of an OD was Peruvian and i used to get Spanishy when i spoke to her, My dads with a chinese lady and i sometimes speak in a very kind of "clipped" way...
Its just a habit, like chewing your fingernails, i think..People may say your weird because of this, so just really try and stop it...

I know if i had a different sort of laugh and i heard you doing it also, i would prob think " WTF is up with this guy?...Is he screwing with me or what.?"

So that may be that prob dude...People notice when i do the accent thing...Ive been told to stop it..Soo i really try now when i am near any one who i8s ethnic...All my neighbours are Italian, and i do it them too!!! Agrrrrhhhhhhhh :?8(8o:!:!8o

Now am i weird too?????
 
NO...i dont find it "wierd"...i had friends who would start using adjectives only i would use jjust from being around me....i have picked up hand motions, laughs, accents, and just ways of talking subconciously...from groups of people i have hung around for an extended period of time.
 
I'm not trying to scare you man but it sounds like you might be suffering from symptoms of some form of pre-psychosis how do I know I also suffer from psychosis and that's how it all started I thought people were constantly talking about me for years and then I finally broke my junior year of high school. Look me or nobody else is saying for sure that you are suffering from any form of psychosis but it is a possibility and if so it will only get worse with time especially in my experience. So I suggest that you see a psychiatrist or doctor or even a counselor to assess your problems so they can talk with a doctor to better treat you. Hey maybe you don't even need treatment (with medicine) and just need some counseling for your anxiety. Just one question do you "think people are talking about you or does it actually sound like they are? These two are connected but can be totally different.
 
We're all fucking weirdos man. You gotta embrace that weirdness, be unapologetic about it! Life becomes a lot more positive when you adopt that sort of attitude.
 
kaywholed said:
There never was a normal. The media tried to sell us the idea of house, car, picket fence and kids, but it was always a lie.
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Exactly. Normal doesn't exist. It's just an idea created by the mainstream media and it's completely false.
 
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