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TDS I am terrified . Help.

nuttynutskin said:
Not to derail the thread but it's legal for a citizen to own a rifle or shotgun right? I guess the next best thing would be to have a vicious dog but that could bring it's own set of problems. Also as far as owning a gun, you'd best be ready to use it which some people just aren't. In most self defense scenarios a second's hesitation could result in your gun being taken away and potentially used against you. And I know absolutely nothing about how the UK is as far as self defense cases, so I guess unfortunately it would probably be best to just get away from the situation even if it means losing some belongings.
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Yeah, NO GUNS ALLOWED. I've seen video of when they took everyones guns and destroyed them apparently their crime rate has went up pretty bad too. But that's just from what I've heard, I don't live in the UK
 
Yeah here in the uk we really don't have many rights when it comes to protecting ourselves. Guns are illegal you really need to know some dodgy people to get a hold of one. Both teasers and mace are illegal to carry too. I couldn't even be able carry a knife because knife crime has been so high here a first time offender would do time just for carrying it. Oh and owning any dog under the 'dangerous dogs act' would be an offence too. But I thinks one of these rules may have to be broken. I need to be able to defend myself some how I'm only a 5"7 woman this guy is 6" and probably 15-16 stone.
 
Wow I never realized how oppressive the UK was when it comes to people protecting themselves.
 
I think you need to run. Yeah, it sucks, but I don't think the situation leaves you with much choice. No choice you have open to you now is great, but there is a real risk he could kill you if you don't get away. Running is the better option. This guy sounds impulsive, so I don't think 'rational' solutions will work on him. I like the idea of saying you're hot, that you're under suspicion, but I think it's too risky to try with someone who doesn't seem to have much forward planning. Same with a restraining order. For someone whose behaviour is guided by sudden impulses, threats of punishment or consequences for actions often don't work well as deterrants.

I've experienced a similar situation so I can relate to the fear. My ex bf was a career criminal, very violent, diagnosed with anti social personality disorder. He would tell me often how easy it was to kill someone, how it could be done so you'd get away with it. I had no doubt he could kill me. I remember going for jogs and wishing so badly that I could keep running and never go back home, but knowing I had to and just feeling that overwhemling fear and despair of having to walk back into a situation like that. I called up some domestic violence lines but found them pretty useless, though they might be better where you are. To get away, I found a family member who lived an hour away who let me stay at his house for a couple weeks while I figured out my next options. I had to move out of my house in half a day so my ex wouldn't realise. I left that place even though I'd paid for it for a couple more months. Keeping the secret and pretending everything was good in the weeks leading up to the execution of my plan was a nightmare. I changed my number. I thought I'd be living the rest of my life in fear, that I'd always be looking over my shoulder in case he was there. The fear doesn't last forever though, and things do go back to normal.

You really need to run for your life <3
 
If you don't get away from this nut you're going to end up being referred to in the past tense. Run and take only what cannot be replaced (personal papers, photos). Get on the Eurostar, take the ferry to Holland, go up to Sky Island, go to rehab, whatever. This freak is getting his kicks intimidating and humiliating you. Eventually, he will get bored and his bullying will get worse and worse. Change your number and legally change your name if you can. You may have to stay away for a long time; six months, a year; and/or move to a different part of the country; a place where no one would expect you to go, e.g. if everyone knows you hate the beach no one would be looking for you in a sea side town.

Do keep us posted please.
 
This may be the inner psycho in me talking but.. why not make him take what he's been dishing out?
Make him run.. find someone who will help you. I'm good at this shit. It's too bad I live far away and am a felon and can't leave my country..
I'll give you this advice.. act normal, gain his trust as much as possible, figure out is fears and weaknesses and exploit them.
Yes this is more dangerous than running, but what if running doesn't end up working?
Play his game but be better at it.
You're obviously smarter than him so use that to your advantage.

In hindsight this may be bad advice but it is another option.
 
Go to a women's shelter.

Other option is to go to the housing office and tell them you have been forced to leave your home and you are in fear of your life and get rehoused.

You can go to another town and make a case for housing there.
 
Violence isn't the answer to violence, I'm not saying its this easy, but trust me there are always ways. Look at his current situation, look for any weakness you can expose to get him out of your picture. Do what you have to do, even if it seems lowly to you, this guy is women beating scum, fuck him. Find his weakness and use it to your advantage, pull strings behind the scenes...take that how you will
 
Yes, I would second the "no violence" and the main thing is to cut all ties with this person.
Bambooshoot, I hope you are OK.
 
I wasn't promoting "violence" as an answer in my post.. more like fuck with this guys already fucked up mind to the point he can't stand himself or anyone else and ends up running from himself instead of you running from him.. maybe what im saying only makes sense to me, maybe only some can be able pull something off like that.
Put yourself in his mind state per say, if you were him.. what would bother you?
I don't wanna sound like a psycho, but get in this bastards head.. fuck him up mentally as he's done to you.
What goes around comes around and eventually bullies get bullied when it comes time for those who were looked at as "pussies" decide to push back.
Don't look at it as "revenge" but more like influenced karma lol.
 
/\ That sounds like a great way for the OP to get badly assaulted or worse in no time. It's one thing to defend yourself if it comes to that, but this isn't the movies.
 
^was only throwing out the other option besides running. Unfortunately I've been that asshole guy before.. not at all to that extent but still. I know how it can work. It worked on me and my life ain't a movie (that I know of lol)

Never said it was the best option, but it is an alternative to running. It does work.. just gotta know how certain people's minds work. Most people are very weak minded no matter if they think they are or not.
Since I've changed my ways in life and realized the power of the mind and with respect to it I started learning mentalism.

But maybe running for the rest of her life is the best option.
 
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HdoubleODeezy said:
^was only throwing out the other option besides running. Unfortunately I've been that asshole guy before.. not at all to that extent but still. I know how it can work. It worked on me and my life ain't a movie (that I know of lol)

Never said it was the best option, but it is an alternative to running. It does work.. just gotta know how certain people's minds work. Most people are very weak minded no matter if they think they are or not.
Since I've changed my ways in life and realized the power of the mind and with respect to it I started learning mentalism.

But maybe running for the rest of her life is the best option.
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It's the only intelligent option.

This guy may well be weak minded... but you know what a crazy psychopathic person may well do if you stand up to them? They may reassert their power with extreme prejudice. People get killed doing things like that. It's not fair, none of this is 'fair', but my 2 cents, it would be crazy to try and in any way take on a guy like the OP describes.

My advice would be to find some way to disappear from his life. Don't provoke him, just disappear. It's not fair, I don't claim it to be, but it sounds like it could be extremely dangerous to do anything else.
 
Ok i was wrong, i admit it.
But there are only 2 options and everyone said just one of them.. was only throwing the other out there.
Seems no one likes it, i personally don't either since it is in fact more dangerous for the OP and I wouldn't want anything bad to happen to them.

Just the other option, never promised it would work.
But can anyone promise that running from him will keep him from finding her? Yes, better chances being safe with running.. but if he catches her what do you think he'd do then?

I'm not trying to argue.
I won't say anymore on this subject.


BTW.. OP are you ok?
 
Hopefully she found somewhere safe to go.^^^^^^^ HDeezy I love ur advice. My son just went up against a bully after I gave him very similar advice && I was so proud...
BUT...and I'm sorry but two men mindfucking each other is a hell of a lot different than a woman trying to mindfuck a man whose already controlled her in so many ways.
Plus the size difference between a woman and a man makes the mindfuck almost obselete. Because no matt what she gains in mental combat with this loser, he can always gain it back thru physical means.
Ladies sorry if u don't like it but ask urself: u telling ur man he can't leave the house is soooo much different than a man blocking ur exit. My hubby is a gentle giant but if decided I wasn't leaving I'm not.
So the OP I HOPE has left this guy to abuse the others in his life....
 
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Hi guys. Thank you everyone for your replies, I am so grateful for your support ! <3 I am trying to get out of here... A few days ago I was called up there went up and after a while he started his shit I tried to stick up for myself verbally and you know what he done? He called a woman in the area that I don't see eye to eye with. ( this is the woman that directed him to my house, she is his dad's partner) He said on the phone "she is here if you still want to beat her." And the only reason she did was because he lied to her saying I called her 'fat', I didn't! so I had to defend myself in a fight I never started or asked for. I'm okay got a black eye and burst lip but that's it. Tbh see if I thought I could get into his head and bother him then I would but nothing bothers this guy. Nothing. Pfft. So so fed up.
 
Hun...I understand about the physical danger ur in. But if u found a way or even better someone who would protect u against would that help?? U mentioned blackmail... is this purely because he is the one who supplies u with ur dope. Could u find a way to get enough dope and/or methadone or suboxen to get u thru for a week or so??? If so maybe u could hide out with that person who could protect u. If u take ur life out of this guys hands he may very well (as other posters suggested) leave u alone for more vulnerable prey.
 
I can get my dope elsewhere but i've done it before and I was in trouble when he found out. He knows how much money I get and when I get it. He adds up what I spend on his dope and if it's not at least 90% of it I get questioned. But do you know what when it comes to men I think he is a bit of a shite bag, he is only confident with a knife in his hand against men. I think if I did have a strong man in my life he would maybe ease up. But I really don't want to rely on someone else to protect me. It's crazy but I actually used to think of myself as a strong woman. Ha that's a joke. I have spoken to housing and am trying to get a move out of here. In the meantime if things stay the way they are I might have to go to a shelter. Only thing is I have a cat and bearded dragon and I am not leaving them behind. My cat is all I have left of my ex fiancé.
 
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