I am disabled

[Corazon]

I never get any sex.

I can walk, my brain works awesome, I can have sex (although not very physically strong). (I know what i'm doing as far as getting a woman off, but sometimes I am reasonably healthy and other times i am physically weak/sick) (probably could use some viagra as well considering the blood pressure meds that keep me alive +$90 rx...)

I have been bravely battling an illness(Marfan Syndrome) for 12 years. Up until the night before I had a major health issue(torn artery, near death, major surgeries), I had good sex whenever I wanted.
Since that time 12 years ago, I've had like 2 or 3 partners.

I haven't had sex in 8 years.

I can easily talk to women, and several either chat with me regularly on facebook or even sex-chat with me on the webcams, but I am scared to tell them who I really am. (not that i necessarily want relationships with these specific ppl, just an example) Either I purposely lie and tell them a fake job and even fake pictures, or I just don't mention my disability. They all ask me to call them (some i do occasionally) and even the ones who have seen my real pics express interest to date. They just don't know I am sick and have no money.

I am disabled. I don't have money.

I've had more strokes this year than fucks.

I'm starting to be jealous of you normal people, and I am starting to dislike seeing couples. Like I see 2 healthy people together and I really resent it. That isn't how I want to be. That isn't the type of person that I am.


I need good doctors to help stop my pain.
I need trustworthy competent surgeons to look at the anuerisms of my arteries and spine and give me good advice and peace of mind and god forbid surgery if needed.
I need to use that pain-free or reduced-pain body and confidence in my health and get jobs on my own and through the job-center-program that I have currently been working with for months with no results
Then i need to fuck women.
Then I need to have at least 1 friend and/or have some social interaction. (I ALSO HAVE NO FRIENDS)


I am disabled and I want a girlfriend and I don't have the balls to say "hi, I am sick, and different looking (6'8" tall), and in a lot of pain, and worried about my health, and I also have no money at all!"

I just don't have nuts that big to pull off that pickup line, as great as it sounds.

 

[mkd]

Stop focusing on the negatives and focus on your positives. I could make myself sound awful if I told you all my negatives, granted it must be very hard for you being disabled, but look at what's good about you. Have some confidence in yourself, it counts for a lot.

Online dating might be good, get out there and meet girls. My job is bad for meeting girls, so I use online dating such as plenty if fish, and it's great for me.

Be positive!

 

[Corazon]

Stop focusing on the negatives and focus on your positives. I could make myself sound awful if I told you all my negatives, granted it must be very hard for you being disabled, but look at what's good about you. Have some confidence in yourself, it counts for a lot.

Online dating might be good, get out there and meet girls. My job is bad for meeting girls, so I use online dating such as plenty if fish, and it's great for me.

Be positive!

Thanks MKD

I wish I could get into that whole positive/confidence thing that you describe.

For me, it feels like: "sick+ $0.00 = zero pussy"

I am working hard at a bunch of things, so that in 2015 it will be more like: "below average health + barely broke = desperate women pussy"

maybe i am being negative or something?

right now, life feels like a cold equation

 

[nuttynutskin]

Are you eligible for SSD? It sounds like you should be. As far as dating I think your best bet would just to be honest about your health problems, at least if it's a real relationship you're looking for. And I don't mean dump it all out on the first date, but maybe include in a dating profile if you have one that you do suffer from some health problems. Sure not every woman is going to want to deal with that sort of thing, but there are those that will if they see your good qualities besides your health problems. But if you're depressed and have a negative outlook about things on top of everything else it's probably not going to work out so well. I know because even tho I don't have any health problems that I'm aware of depression is something I've more or less tried to deal with for quite some time, and I know I've probably driven people away that didn't want to deal with it at various times.

 

[atourist]

Stop focusing on the negatives and focus on your positives. I could make myself sound awful if I told you all my negatives, granted it must be very hard for you being disabled, but look at what's good about you. Have some confidence in yourself, it counts for a lot.

Online dating might be good, get out there and meet girls. My job is bad for meeting girls, so I use online dating such as plenty if fish, and it's great for me.

Be positive!

I agree with this. You haven't told us anything positive about yourself. If you define yourself by your disability, how can you expect other people to do otherwise?

If I were you I would definitely try online dating, but be totally honest. That way, you'll only connect with people who are prepared to see through your disability, and you won't waste time talking to the insincere ones.

I also think you should stop thinking of sex as simply fucking women. You need a proper, fulfilling relationship with a nice woman, that will rebuild your self esteem, not a temporary solution.

Start by telling us some positive things about yourself.

 

[llama112]

Stop focusing on the negatives and focus on your positives. I could make myself sound awful if I told you all my negatives, granted it must be very hard for you being disabled, but look at what's good about you. Have some confidence in yourself, it counts for a lot.

Online dating might be good, get out there and meet girls. My job is bad for meeting girls, so I use online dating such as plenty if fish, and it's great for me.

Be positive!

Great advice!!!

Yes, I understand that disability is hard. But, like mdk said, he could make himself look awful too. So could I. So could almost anyone if you list their negative traits only. We all have negative traits. None of us are perfect.
Online dating is a great resource so use it and remember to BE HONEST.
There are others like you, in similar situations.

 

[-=SS=-]

Everyone has negative qualities, and if everyone expressed that stuff first then we'd probably go extinct. Well, maybe not that dramatic, but the point is don't sell yourself short. Think of it in business terms, which I hate doing personally but it seems to fit. You don't sell your product (you) to a potential customer by admitting its design flaws and crappy construction do you? No, you gloss it up and dress it nice, both visually and using words. And in the end the customer may well see the flaws BUT still enjoy the product anyway!

Just do what you would do if you "normal" again.. talk like things are alright. Then when you reach a certain point you can drop in how you are now. If they back off then that's their call, but I guarantee you there will be ladies who won't and will happily be with you.

 

[Corazon]

I went to a group thing tonight and it turned out to be people that had serious problems mentally and physically.

at first I left and went back to my car. I have serious problems physically, but although I live a horrible life, - I haven't settled into that obviously noticeable category. On a good day I am "hey mister, How Tall are You??" on a bad day I am the very tall somewhat unhealthy person that people quietly notice.
But really never, do I fit into the category that this group was comprised of.


I almost went home, but although I felt uneasy about it, I stayed for the hope of talking to some of the women (no I wasn't looking for mentally handicapped women).

WOW this is my life?


Maybe there was a mentally sound woman in there who just had a physical disability, or social issue? Maybe some chick beating drug-abuse etc...?

WOW this is my life?


It was very uncomfortable at first, and everybody was asking me if I was "staff".
I didn't meet any single/mentally-able/women, but I did talk to a nice married woman who also had pain issues.
It was funny that she asked me who my primary care doctor was, and she had started with the same guy I have to see tomorrow morning. She also said that he stinks, and told me the phone numbers of a competent doctor and a competent pain clinic. Valuable info.

I also (online, not at this meeting) told 2 of the women I had been sexting/webcaming with that I was disabled, and 1 was actually very cool about it. We connected on FB and shared real pics and pretty much everything in our online relationship has been reality based anyway.
\The other is really sweet and hot, but she thinks I'm some small-time rapper from brooklyn(and even after the tell-all msg, she seems to somehow think i'm still that guy who now happens to be disabled), and i'm not even sure she dates white dudes. lol / cries

So tomorrow morning I see this incompetent doctor, and hopefully he surprises me, and extends my pain prescription and refers me to a pain clinic, but I have definite anxiety and doubts about him. He really gives the impression of someone with no courage. He was the guy who ignored my pain last time(although I was still trying to go w/out meds at that time), and also ignored my concern about frequent mini-strokes last time (which about a month from bringing it up with him - i've had at least 1 documented stroke since and 2 positive stroke indicators since) and he told me to see him in a year. He seems to lack the ability to grasp that I am battling an illness, that needs aggressive multi-faceted care.
IF he says no, I have to go back to the ER to ask for meds again. Really fucking degrading. (and then go try tonight's recommended doctors /pain clinics)
IF he says yes, I will immediately use that energy to apply for jobs.

getting closer to pussy