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Hypersexuality on marijuana

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I've smoked one or two one-hitters every day for years, at various times of the day. Two days ago I ran out for the first time in at least a couple years, and I haven't been scrambling to find any because I know someone who wants to give me some as a gift next week. It's a good thing to take breaks from any drug, and this is the only way it was going to happen for me -- if I have it, I will smoke it.

These last couple days, the biggest change I've noticed being off marijuana is how much less I'm obsessing about sex. When I'm on it, I'm one of the horniest people I know. My roving eye is in full force, and my imagination too. I'm much more motivated to seek out online porn when I've gotten stoned in the past half day or so, and the rush I get from masturbating, either to porn or to my own fantasies, is irresistible. Even when my wife is in a particularly sexual mood, I'll still be driven to masturbate on my own at least once or twice a day. Given the right circumstances (including a wife who's not in the mood at all), I've managed 6 wanks in a day, with no ill effects and no regrets.

I chalked this all up to just being a naturally horny and sexual person, until I got off marijuana. Now I don't feel the irresistible urge to engage in sexual activity. I feel like I could go for 2-3 days without even giving sex much thought, and wouldn't care. It's not that I'm not interested in it anymore. But I'm much more nonchalant about it.

What scares me is some of the thoughts that I'm able to take very seriously when I'm getting stoned daily. I've spent days comparing myself to, and being jealous of, uber pornstar Rocco Siffredi. Yes, I understand rationally that guys like him are like astronauts and rock stars -- incredibly lucky, and paid to do things that most of us can only dream of doing, for the vicarious pleasure of the masses. But when I'm stoned often, a part of my brain takes over that says "Yeesh, I should be so lucky. Why can't I have his job??" I also experience intrusive thoughts of ripping the clothes off of any attractive woman whom I meet personally in my day to day life. I've stalked the facebook pages of chicks who've shown sexual interest in me years ago, and thought strategically about what it would take to get back into their lives and lay them. I even have a couple of sexual fetishes that I only ever feel an interest in when I'm stoned. They're things that I'm sure my wife isn't interested in, and would probably scare her. But that's OK, because most of the time we have sex sober.

I'm a happily married man, but for a long time I've worried I'd be irresistibly drawn to cheat just because of my insatiable sexual appetite. But this mental conflict has evaporated along with the marijuana fog. I still appreciate sex, but the idea of seeking out conquests outside my marriage just strikes me as the stupid risk that it is.

I feel that the boundary between fantasy and reality can get a bit blurred when I'm often using marijuana. This is true in all domains -- I used to don a wifebeater and camo shorts and hang in NYC parks with gutter punks and local thugs, just for the adventure of blending in (both in my head and socially) with a whole new crowd. I could forget so easily that I was not of that world. I feel this is true of sexual fantasy just the same.

Can anyone else relate, or share a similar story? Did you find that you eventually had to curtail or quit your marijuana use because of how it changed the way you approached sex?
 
It sounds to me like you were normal before and now your libido is impaired, but that's just me.....Enjoy your reduced sexual desire if that's your thing!
 
This thread could ultimately turn into 'sexuality while on drugs'. But I'm going to keep it on topic.

I am a 20 year old heterosexual male, been in youthful mushy gushy relationship with a mega babe for about 6 months now. I've been burning the green everyday for about a year, off an on for a year or so before that. Weed definitely makes me wanna get it on! like you mentioned it also increased my desire to watch porn and or masturbate in itself. I've also noticed that I feel like sexuality as a concept/idea becomes very different when I'm stoned. It's almost as if it becomes more fluid and I no longer care about titles or that heterosexuality is what is considered "normal" in western culture, or even that by title and definition that i am heterosexual. my friends have told me that I am very bold in expressing this, but i'm not afraid of being myself.

In general I feel more lustful and human anatomy in general becomes more attractive. I find myself more comfortable to point out what I might find attractive physically in a member of the same sex, usually it's about an individuals anatomy.

I spend more time trying to interpret physical touch, I'm much more inclined to feeling like all physical touch is sexually stimulating/arousing, or that the person touching me is doing so with the intentions to sexually stimulate/arouse.

I remember one of the first times I smoked weed It went down like this... burning a bowl with a neighborhood friend late summer in the late afternoon. The bowl was packed with decent grade A bud and topped with hash. I felt myself slowly getting stoned while we passed it back and forth. We finished it and he set it down on the counter. Then he looked up at me and said, "oh wow! better hash then i expected, i gotta go lay down, you can chill here or whatever." next thing i know I'm at my parents house alone eating reheated take out chinese food that i must have microwaved with an extreme teenage-boy-gotta-eat-everything-in-sight kinda hunger and i remember thinking, "wow i didnt realize marijuana was this potent! this is the highest i've ever been! this is what the munchies is! i should go lay down because i have no clue what's going on!" Next thing i know im butt ass naked on my bed masturbating with the most unrelenting irresistable urge to engage in getting off somehow. I remember the build up to the climax being insanely intense and then waking up to my alarm the next morning.

I'm definitely very stoned right now and I feel like I rambled on a bit, but hopefully someone finds this post to be meaningful.
 
I use marijuana regularly too and it's certainly a sex enhancer for me. That said, I don't think what you're describing is all about weed. I've been in your situation many times and I'm pretty sure you'll find your sex drive is back to normal in a few days regardless if you smoke or not (especially if you don't orgasm until you're extremely ready). IME it's more like marijuana withdrawal that you are experiencing (either that or your body is giving you a signal to not be horny for a few days for some other reason... Maybe your body is telling you it is drained for now.) Marijuana makes sex really surreal and intense, sure, but it only makes more intense what you're already feeling and if you're not very horny, you're not going to be very horny on weed either. Try taking a few day break from weed and sex and then have sex/ masturbate when you're high and I think it will be more intense than anything you've experienced in awhile.
 
Six wanks a day!? My dick gets sore if I wank more than once a day. Damn.

Cannabis definitely increases my sex drive. If I smoke every day, I'll most likely wank every day. When I'm sober, I usually wank about once every two or three days. When stoned, I find myself more easily attracted to women I usually wouldn't find attractive. I wouldn't say that this is a reason to quit or cut down on my cannabis use. In fact, I quite enjoy it. I haven't smoked much these last few months for fear of piss tests. I'm really missing the impact it has on my libido.
 
I don't think that you're that hypersexual. If I want to I can go 6-10X, or sometimes 11X in a day for j/o and it does not hurt me at all, but I am intact with a foreskin, and I'll want to do it a lot the next day too.

With partners I will go all day or night without ejaculating or without having my male or female partner(s) ejaculate if we are doing oral sex or other types of sex.

Pot just can make me more horny. NO I do not PNP even on herb or with any stimulants, and I'm not manic or bipolar.

I do not consider myself to be hyper sexual but just someone with a very high sex drive.
 
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Sounds like we have pretty similar weed use and sex drive. Everything you said I can relate to except the correlation. I had to stop for three months. I didn't notice a change in my drive. Then again there was a lot going on so I might have over looked it.
 
...but the idea of seeking out conquests outside my marriage just strikes me as the stupid risk that it is.

MDAO: Maybe I am misinterpreting the wording in your statement but cheating on one's spouse does not have to be a risk. What I would have to ask myself is, How much do I love my wife?

I have never been a cheating person, out of respect for the GFs I have had. If it ever got to the point where I no longer had feelings for her, then I would begin to re-evaluate our relationsiihp.

It seems to me that you have a healthy marriage. Does your wife smoke? Does she know you smoke? Have you talked to her about these urges? What if she was having the same urges from smoking and wasn't telling you? You could be missing out on some hot sex.

Ooooor she could shame you into quitting smoking or something crazy like that. My point is, I would try to find some way to communicate with my wife in a way that would allow me to have my cake and eat it too.
 
I noticed a similar thing when I went overseas and had an enforced break from pot. After a little while the urge starts to build again but I'm not sure if it ever gets back to what it is when smoking because I haven't gone longer than one month without.
 
MDAO: Maybe I am misinterpreting the wording in your statement but cheating on one's spouse does not have to be a risk. What I would have to ask myself is, How much do I love my wife?

That probably wasn't the best wording. What I meant to say is that she and I love each other very much, and to put our relationship on the line for a little extra fun is not something I'd seriously consider when I'm off pot.

She and I have sex twice a week on average, and it's good sex. She'll claim she's never been a highly sexual person, but from people I've talked to, the amount of passion we have for each other is pretty damn normal. Which is to say, there isn't a large and noticeable discrepancy in how sexual I am versus her... except when I'm a daily toker.

I have never been a cheating person, out of respect for the GFs I have had. If it ever got to the point where I no longer had feelings for her, then I would begin to re-evaluate our relationsiihp.

It seems to me that you have a healthy marriage. Does your wife smoke? Does she know you smoke? Have you talked to her about these urges? What if she was having the same urges from smoking and wasn't telling you? You could be missing out on some hot sex.

She doesn't smoke, because she's asthmatic. She'll eat marijuana a handful of times a year with me, and drink half a glass of champagne or lambic when we're having a romantic night, but other than that she's entirely sober. She has a family history of schizophrenia, and tends to be a pretty whimsical and playful person naturally -- she claims she has always been able to hang with tokers and trippers when sober, and blend in perfectly, to the point where people would forget she hadn't used anything.

My wife is entirely aware of all of my drug use, and has no problem with it, as long as I'm never fuctup in inappropriate situations and never put myself or my family in harm's way. (I haven't tripped, rolled, or used K since my children were born, and really don't feel the urge to, though I'm definitely not done with drugs completely, and don't anticipate I ever will be.)

She is not aware of the amount that I masturbate when I'm smoking, however.
 
Maybe adventure is your fantasy and sex is just a masque you've subconsciously applied to it because it's a lot more accessible than genuine adventure would be.
 
^ I've done the Trans-Siberian Railway (recommended) and once jumped the Chinese-Myanmar border for a few hours (not recommended), so I don't think that's quite it. :)
 
That probably wasn't the best wording. What I meant to say is that she and I love each other very much, and to put our relationship on the line for a little extra fun is not something I'd seriously consider when I'm off pot.

She and I have sex twice a week on average, and it's good sex. She'll claim she's never been a highly sexual person, but from people I've talked to, the amount of passion we have for each other is pretty damn normal. Which is to say, there isn't a large and noticeable discrepancy in how sexual I am versus her... except when I'm a daily toker.



She doesn't smoke, because she's asthmatic. She'll eat marijuana a handful of times a year with me, and drink half a glass of champagne or lambic when we're having a romantic night, but other than that she's entirely sober. She has a family history of schizophrenia, and tends to be a pretty whimsical and playful person naturally -- she claims she has always been able to hang with tokers and trippers when sober, and blend in perfectly, to the point where people would forget she hadn't used anything.

My wife is entirely aware of all of my drug use, and has no problem with it, as long as I'm never fuctup in inappropriate situations and never put myself or my family in harm's way. (I haven't tripped, rolled, or used K since my children were born, and really don't feel the urge to, though I'm definitely not done with drugs completely, and don't anticipate I ever will be.)

She is not aware of the amount that I masturbate when I'm smoking, however.

Thanks for the clarification. It sounds like you have quite a catch. The last time I had a GF try to get me to quit drinking/smoking pot, it didn't work out very well. She also tried to get me to quit masturbating, which I was able to hide from her because we did not live together.

I honestly don't know how to confront the fact that you masturbate more when smoking. That might be something you do want to hide from her. Does she know you masturbate at all?

Some women can be weird about masturbation. For some reason they get jealous and think you like the girls on the computer screen more than you like them.
 
^ I've done the Trans-Siberian Railway (recommended) and once jumped the Chinese-Myanmar border for a few hours (not recommended), so I don't think that's quite it. :)

Another few journeys like that and you'll have enough good stories to tell the grandkids that you'll never need to fall back on wild tales of epic wank sessions
 
Another few journeys like that and you'll have enough good stories to tell the grandkids that you'll never need to fall back on wild tales of epic wank sessions

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Thanks for the clarification. It sounds like you have quite a catch. The last time I had a GF try to get me to quit drinking/smoking pot, it didn't work out very well. She also tried to get me to quit masturbating, which I was able to hide from her because we did not live together.

I honestly don't know how to confront the fact that you masturbate more when smoking. That might be something you do want to hide from her. Does she know you masturbate at all?

Some women can be weird about masturbation. For some reason they get jealous and think you like the girls on the computer screen more than you like them.

She's caught me once. And I think she has a clue that when I stay up late netsurfing, it's sometimes more red light than Bluelight. She once cleaned under a couch and found, as Beavis or Butthead once put it, "My special monkey sheets", and was not amused. Other than that she's resigned to the fact that my sex drive is higher than hers. As long as I'm faithful, though, no major qualms.

Honestly, Mrs. Doors gets much more jealous of me spending time with a good female friend of mine who I used to go to raves with, and who definitely used to want to fuck me. The feeling was not mutual -- she's physically not my type at all. But it was the emotional bonding, plus the interest on the other chick's side, that made it a problem for her. As for porn? She just writes that off as something dumb that guys do -- not at all a threat to our relationship, as long as I'm not preferring it over having sex with her.

Jerry, was your anti-jackoff girlfriend a chick with a very healthy sexual appetite? I can see how for these kinds of chicks, her man's masturbation could seem like a zero-sum game. My wife understands that she doesn't have the sex drive to cater to me every time I'm horny, and is grateful that I'm A) faithful, and B) able to cater to her every time she wants it.
 
She's caught me once. And I think she has a clue that when I stay up late netsurfing, it's sometimes more red light than Bluelight. She once cleaned under a couch and found, as Beavis or Butthead once put it, "My special monkey sheets", and was not amused. Other than that she's resigned to the fact that my sex drive is higher than hers. As long as I'm faithful, though, no major qualms.

Honestly, Mrs. Doors gets much more jealous of me spending time with a good female friend of mine who I used to go to raves with, and who definitely used to want to fuck me. The feeling was not mutual -- she's physically not my type at all. But it was the emotional bonding, plus the interest on the other chick's side, that made it a problem for her. As for porn? She just writes that off as something dumb that guys do -- not at all a threat to our relationship, as long as I'm not preferring it over having sex with her.

Jerry, was your anti-jackoff girlfriend a chick with a very healthy sexual appetite? I can see how for these kinds of chicks, her man's masturbation could seem like a zero-sum game. My wife understands that she doesn't have the sex drive to cater to me every time I'm horny, and is grateful that I'm A) faithful, and B) able to cater to her every time she wants it.

I would say that for a while, we had equal sexual appetites so that we had sex pretty much every day. I think her jealousy may have been from personal insecurities of some sort, possibly related to some emotional baggage from her past.
 
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