So one thing I am learning here is that many men fantasize about watching their wife with another man. I am so shocked by this!! Can any women relate to how I feel? Am I a bad wife for wanting this? Any other women in my boat?
I'm also new here - having just registered to contribute my thoughts on this post. My Wife & I are both 37, also very happily married (over 10 Years) & our sex life is pretty good! I shocked my Wife just over 2.5 years ago by telling her the thought of watching her having great sex with another guy turns me on. I was nervous to tell her & in the beginning I think she struggles to get her head around it.
Between then & now she has become not just 'comfortable' with the idea - but almost every time we have sex she is talking dirty to me about being fucked by a hot-guy with a big dick. It has improved the quality of both of our sex lives tremendously.
I think to begin with she was worried I suggested this as a ploy to f**k another woman - but now she realises 2.5 years later i'm not remotely interested in doing that & the sexual turn-on for me is watching her have amazing sex.....then us having an amazing time together afterwards.
We haven't progressed beyond this point yet - so sounds as though we're in a similar position to you. We have talked now about visiting a traditional 'Swingers' club - whilst we're not interested in partner-swapping, there are loads of single guys there who also go to do this. Someone mentioned 'cuckolding' earlier & whilst there are lot of 'cuckolds' about - I prefer to view my Wife as a 'HotWife' - there is a clear difference.
My Wife has agreed to let me watch her f**k another guy - and in all honesty i'd arrange something immediately given the chance, but think going to a club will build her confidence. Being chatted up - maybe just even having a kiss with someone else; could be our next step forward. Of course I'd be jealous watching her - but that jealousy/voyeurism adds to the sexual excitement for me. It certainly doesn't mean I love my Wife any less - if anything this could make us even closer. 10 Years ago I'd have taken a different view of this - but I guess people change.
I would say well done to your husband for telling you (that was a scary thing for me to do) & well done to you for being open minded to potentially consider new experiences. I agree you should both set ground rules - for me it would have to be with a complete stranger so there is no 'emotional' connection - as opposed to 'just good sex'.
Best of luck with this - please let me know how you get on & I will do the same when we progress!