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how to succesfully be with 2 girls at the same time

T. Calderone said:
Don't rely on the MDMA especially since you're in college. I know it's boosting your self-confidence (the same way oxy used to give me energy) But it doesn't last. You shouldn't be in a committed relationship. This girl needs to find a new boyfriend. You're a young man and things are already awkward with your ex. It feels good to have the upper hand but I would just break it off already for good. Like I said before, it will bite you in the ass. You know this isn't going to work. So just date different girls and be up front with them.
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I'm not. I only use MDMA once every 1-2 months. I rely on the stuff MDMA shows me and try to reflect on my life and meditate and shit. That is what gives me self-confidence... that, and what I have accomplished so far.

I don't know if it will work out or not. I'm pretty sure we'll be together another 2-3-4 months at least... maybe a year or two but after that shit will be the same as where it started. She is obviously not the girl I want to marry, even though she may think otherwise.

Basically, my mind is set. I want to be with both of them and see where this leads. If shit hits the fan and it all comes down crumbling around me - that's fine; it's the risk I'm taking in order to see things more clearly. It's not the end of the world.

I'll update this topic as things progress. This will be interesting for you guys I'm sure. lol.
 
This was written by a woman fwiw.

Lysdexic said:
Required reading - whatever you want to be, own it.

The Ethical Slut

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...good read for an alternate perspective on being--respectfully--with more than one person at the same time.
 
I'd suggest not dropping a possible hint of your identity here. If I have any chance I'll warn them both.
 
Well OP, actually it's very easy...move to an Islamic country and convert to Islam or move to Utah and become a Mor-man. U can then even marry all theze bitchez yo!
 
Seriously, fuck your ex off! I know you won't see it like this now, but one day you'll regret staying with her!
 
First of all, I'm pretty disappointed this thread isn't about a foolproof way to get a threesome.

To the OP, you seem to be in a pretty bad place right now which is all about your ego and getting what you want and to hell with everyone else. I hope you pull out of it soon because what goes around comes around. How would you like to be treated the way you want to treat these girls?

I get that your ex hurt your feelings, but she probably honestly believes everything would be perfect between you two if you stopped using drugs, so she started manipulating you to make that happen. That's wrong but I don't think you should compound the problem by trying to make her feel like shit as well. You need to accept that you guys just have a fundamental disagreement at this time in your lives and let her go. I get that's not easy, but doing stuff like that isn't supposed to be easy for people with hearts, ya dig?

The new girl doesn't deserve any of your shitty attitude right now. You run the risk of really hurting her. Be upfront with her with what's going on in your life. You never know, maybe talking about it with real life people will give you some perspective you sorely need.
 
Again, about the threesome; Why do dudes go all crazy about that? Do you have no idea how inconsiderate it is to most girls? Would you fuck a dude in the ass to please your girlfriend?
 
one of my ex`s said we could have a mff threeway right after we had a mmf... Kinda cured me.

In all honesty though, a lot of guys have this as their # 1 fanasty...
 
BluLait said:
The MDMA trip changed me. I have no more feelings anymore for my ex, if before I would have given anything to be with her and shit (kissed her friends in the ass etc. so they would accept me so in turn she would accept me). I told her today that I will fuck her friends because they are stupid imature assholes.... she didn't say anything in return...

This is the degree to which this relationship has changed. If before, she dominated me, now the tables have turned and I can basically control her emotions and actions. It's amazing and scary how the self-confidence MDMA grants changed my life. I can feel she is scared of losing me. She can feel I have changed and I am not her puppy dog anymore and it made her realize some stuff.

Stuff with the other girl are going fucking great as well... She's shy but she told me something along the lines of: "you're not like all the other guys." So that's good.

And now, I am in college. And guess what. Shitload of other chicks there as well. I told my ex about all the girls hitting on me and she went nuts again lol. It's funny how she reacts and then she tries to prove to me that she's better than them, sex and everything. lol.

I know this is un-ethical, but honestly... this is the best time of my life lol and I have no idea what to do. Guess I'll stop asking for advice and just live my life and see how this goes, eh?
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You're fine man, you understand.

I'd go with the girl that says you're different from all the other guys. Different is good, and I bet she's a freak in bed.
 
iheartthisthread said:
one of my ex`s said we could have a mff threeway right after we had a mmf... Kinda cured me.

In all honesty though, a lot of guys have this as their # 1 fanasty...
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People are really weird. If I saw my partner have sex with someone else, I'd probably freak out and kill all three of us or something >.>. No, I'm completely not creepy or weird in all other aspects of relationships, but monogamy is something extremely important to me. I can be fuck buddies with someone, or friends with benefits or just hookups, but if it's a love relationship and they as much touch someone else sexually, I hope they die.
 
one of my ex`s said we could have a mff threeway right after we had a mmf... Kinda cured me.
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LOL I like her. I've said that numerous times and the guy says "Uh, yeah no...but can we skip to the mff?" And of course the reply from me was "Uhh, yeah, no.."
 
lol lysis I liked her too... For a while at least.

People ARE weird...I agree being faithful is a great thing... But is a threeway being unfaithful... I don`t think it is. Is trio-gamy a word?? That said, I haven`t had the pleasure. So I can`t say one way or the other what kind of feelings would come of it.
 
Well, perhaps you have different standards. I'm not judging anyone on how they want to give shape to their love/sex life, but for me a loving relationship and any physical intimacy outside of that relationship is completely, under no circumstance or exception, explanation or agreement compatible - In a way more dogmatic and unchangeable than the most fundie religious nutjob. That's the way my emotions work. Outside of loving relationships, really, I'm all for being a slut and enjoying life =']. It's not sexuality that I experience any problems with - it's my feelings. Well really, it's not a problem because I'm not going to be with anyone that wants to screw other people - it's more of their problem.
 
Aside from the doublestandard, I couldn`t do mmf for the reasons you state. As I said, it`s more of a fantasy than something that would happen. And when I`m with someone, I wouldn`t hurt them by cheating on them. Just sayin`.
 
^People differ vastly in their relative polyamory/monoamory, and their values related to such. Sometimes a naturally polyamorous individual has extremely monoamorous values, and they get all fucked up inside and in their relationships because they really need polyamory but are too repressed and conditioned to do so.

People also differ in how much they attach sex to true romantic feelings. Some are capable of banging a 100 partners and never feeling any romantic feeling for any of them, some fall in love with every person they have sex with, or find it a necessity to have sex in the first place. Some people become very jealous and insecure about the thought of their romantic partner with somebody else, some people don't. There is nothing wrong with being any of these. It's just the way we are, we are a very diverse species.

Still, the OP's situation is just a disaster waiting to happen. First of all, the ex-GF sounds awful. The choice seems easy from that perspective. Second of all, what you are trying to do seems selfish. You need to tell them the deal if you want to continue doing it, if you have any real feelings for them at all. Most girls are OK with situations like these provided you are upfront with them. I think you might have already lost that opportunity the moment you fucked the second girl without telling her about the first. Honesty and communication go a long way in having healthy relationships, be they primarily sexual or romantic.

At this point your best bet is to dump one of them immediately and try to bury the hatchet. When you begin telling lies or withholding truth, shit gets to a point where everything is better off if you do your best to make it right and not say anything. Hopefully you learned your lesson and will be more upfront with women in the future. Otherwise you will keep digging holes such as these. If you still don't realize the hole you are in, or deny that you are in one in the first place, then you are hopeless.
 
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