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Mental Health How to release anger????

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codienne

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Im having huge mood swings right now. Goes all emotions....mostly the non pleasant ones for no particual reason or for too many too count...whatever lol. But Ive always used drugs for this...Im tryin to live genouine right now...this is 3rd day clean for the 5th time this year..always seem to screw up on day 5...psychological shit gets way stronger...I dont know what to do with anger...Punching things makes me angrier....trying relaxation techniques make me angrier...excersize works while I do it but as soon as it stops its back with a vengeance.....Curious what other people do when there mad that dont involve me dying or going to jail lol
 
Mood swings are normal after getting clean, this is something I recenetly learned first hand.

Have you tried talking to people? I find this to sometimes help. Also, like you mentioned- exercise. Maybe if you tire yourself out enough and exercise vigorously enough you won't have any energy left to be angry ;) I find kickboxing to be amazing. Also, are you interested in any herbal supplements? Valerian root and L-Theanine have both benefitted me.

Hopefully your moods even out soon <3
 
Thankyou, yeah Im hoping so too. Its usually at night time that they get worse..just stuck alone with my own thoughts and wanting to just pick up so bad but knowing why i dont want to n that fight...and then i start thinking about my whole life lol..n just cycles and cycles of shit go over n over in my head, day time dosnt seem to be as bad now, improvement that its only at night....gonna try more exsersize..havnt been able to go too heavy yet..still a little sick n sore. but gettin there...kickboxing is something ive wanted to try for a while...ill look into it sounds fun...and for herbal things i took 5tp a couple days but it seemed to make me worse...i have st johns wort havnt tried it yet n no l-theanine but i have been drinking a lot of green tea..helps a bit pretty sure theres quite a bit in that. last night what finally helped was just laying down and something i cant even remember what but something i thought of struck me soo fucking funny i started laughing...and i may have been insane but i just could not stop lol....then i felt all good n fell asleep. so i think i need to take shit lighter...just need to laugh n have fun...
 
Something I learned recently is known as "The 4 Bs"

1. Brakes - Catch the energy and squeeze it, pushing the heels of your hands together. You should feel it in your chest, arms, and shoulders, Don't intertwine your fingers when doing this.

2. Breathing - Take three slow abdominal breaths, raising your arms up and out each time you inhale or breathe in.

3. Brain - Rest your hands on your head, close your eyes. Take another breath, and as you exhale tell yourself, "I am calm." Feel the weight of your hands as they rest on your head.

4. Body - Put your hands on your chest and feel your body get calm and quiet.

If these don't work there is a 5th B. It is Break. Break through your anger by yelling "STOP!" to yourself inside your head and also take a break from what is bothering you by making yourself turn your mind to something pleasant and peaceful. Think of yourself as being on a beach or lying on a grassy hill or some other scenario which makes you happy.

Try to go through each of these steps when you feel the anger building up. I hope this helps. <3
 
Exercise. A lot, like have a literally exhausting workout session every day. And if you feel the anger coming back strongly again, exercise more - what I do is I have one intense gym session a day that just leaves me with no energy, and if later on that evening I feel angry again I'll either just work out in my room (like I dunno, do push-ups until I can't even stand up anymore) or if I'm motivated enough I'll go for a quick run. It really helps. I used to have anger issues that led to lots of wall punching and all that but now that I exercise I'm honestly a different person.
If you can possibly buy a punching bag that's also the best thing in the world to release frustration. If not, try punching pillows. Avoid walls though ;)
 
Pagey said:
Exercise. A lot, like have a literally exhausting workout session every day. And if you feel the anger coming back strongly again, exercise more - what I do is I have one intense gym session a day that just leaves me with no energy, and if later on that evening I feel angry again I'll either just work out in my room (like I dunno, do push-ups until I can't even stand up anymore) or if I'm motivated enough I'll go for a quick run. It really helps. I used to have anger issues that led to lots of wall punching and all that but now that I exercise I'm honestly a different person.
If you can possibly buy a punching bag that's also the best thing in the world to release frustration. If not, try punching pillows. Avoid walls though ;)
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I write an angry letter to the person pissing me off (they don't have to read it), or I go for a drive down back roads in the middle of the night with the windows down, singing rock songs at the top of my lungs (Alice in Chains, etc.) This doesn't take my anger away, only helps me bottle it up better lol. If I can, I go and find one of my friends with a wicked sense of humor, and they have me laughing so fast about random shit I forget for a few minutes.
 
Crank up some death metal and let the music leech out that anger. Works for me.
 
Computers have pretty much done the trick for me. If there was a particular thing that pissed me off for example, I would go on an internet forum and just vent about it. Competitive computer games always worked too, the adrenaline from anger can be used constructively that way and the satisfaction of victory would actually make me feel better and less angry too. Unleashing your anger at other people is almost always wrong, but in these situations it's actually just "part of the game", as long as you play by the rules of course.

Personally if I'm upset, angry and anxious, there's just no way I could sit down and meditate or do yoga, I need a calm state of mind to begin with for those.
 
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