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How to help a friend heavy into drugs?

Tom Malice

Tom Malice

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I'm really worried about my best friend, since he started working full time he's been doing waaaay more of everything, and a fair amount of that is the heavy stuff (heroin, crack, blow). To compound on this he just broke up with his girlfriend, which only escalated this negative spiral. I'm trying to get him to come out more and be around the people he used to hang out with fairly often, but I live in a different city so the only chance I have to hang out with him is on weekends. I really want to help him get out of this slump, but I really don't know how to go about it. I've talked with him about this somewhat but I don't know if it helped any. I was wondering if anyone had any advice or suggestions? Anything would be much appreciated!
 
I'm not sure man, but sometimes I think if a person hits rock bottom they start to understand there bad choices they have been making. Usually from my experience and from what I have seen of other people once they hit rock bottom a person starts to make changes. Or if they're way too deep they may spiral more down into drugs.

I would defiantly keep chatting with him over the phone on week days, and hanging out with him on weekends. But ask yourself first, How do you feel about his drug usage? And if he keeps using will you still be there for him? How has these drugs changed him as a person? You should get your head clear before talking to him and have advice ready. I wish I had more advice but I never struggled with those kinds of drugs.
 
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I would talk to him.. try and create a clear line of non judgmental communication. Not preachy, not judgmental, try and create a good place to talk with him, not around anyone where he is going to automatically get defensive. just hang out with him and try and get to a place where he is in a good mood and let him know that you care and because you care and love him you wouldn't be a real or good friend unless you told him that you think he is parting way to hard and needs to reign in his use if he doesn't want to end up with some major problems. Don't wait until it is a major problem. I wish both of you the best of luck and please keep us informed.
 
Having been the guy who was getting into heroin and crack and dropping my friends that weren't doing it with me, I really feel for you.

Talking to him may help, but if he is in denial right now than the chances are slim. If he knows he is massively fucking up his life and doesn't want to be, then there is a chance. But If he tells himself he is using simply because he thinks he enjoys it, I don't know if you will be able to get through yet.

Good luck! make sure you maintain a healthy level of loving detachment! be there for him, but don't make it YOUR problem, you know?
 
Sorry to hear about your friend.
This struggle is one that too many people are facing.
It might be difficult talking some sense in to your friend's mind right now, but don't give up on him!
If he does not make a change now, he will eventually hit a mental wall and realize that this is not the correct path in life.
Hopefully he has the power to make a change before his addiction spirals too far out of control.
 
VERY true trip! ^^

As I said before it may be very difficult to get through to him at this early stage of his addiction. However don't let this discourage you! Don't give up on him. Don't overdue it, but don't forget about him either. What he needs is for someone who cares to be there once he finally reaches out for help. It might not be today, tomorrow, or this year. But one day, hopefully sooner rather than later, he will realize the consequences of his actions and he will need support.
 
The last time I talked with him he was happy I was there to talk to him, but I really don't know if anything I say does affect him. I wont give up on him, I've had my close calls and understand atleast a bit part of his mentality. I just don't know how to help him and thats the part that really fucking sucks. Thank you all for reading this, I really appreciate it. I'll keep updating this, cheers everyone.
 
Tom Malice said:
The last time I talked with him he was happy I was there to talk to him, but I really don't know if anything I say does affect him. I wont give up on him, I've had my close calls and understand atleast a bit part of his mentality. I just don't know how to help him and thats the part that really fucking sucks. Thank you all for reading this, I really appreciate it. I'll keep updating this, cheers everyone.
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I'm going to agree with everyone else and advise you to just talk with him and support him.

Support is the best thing that anyone can have when dealing with addiction. I feel we as either addicts, ex addicts, recreational drug users- WHATEVER- are the most understanding when it comes to addiction. However, at the end of the day, your friend will need to make their choice. But the more supportive and helpful you are, the more chance your friend has of making the best decision for themselves <3
 
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