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how to heal a broken heart!! </3...help!!

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Monkey16

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its a long story....4 months ago...we were head over heels in love and super happy and everything was amazing!! come Dec everything changed....my BF changed....he got sick with a addiction....ne ways....in feb I broke up with him....3 weeks later...I wanted him out of my life...but luckily he hit rock bottom.....hes 2 weeks sober.....were still living together till I save up enough to move out......we get along fine and still hang out...I still hate him but starting to like him again....how I feel about him has changed and we can never go back to that....the thing is.....

my heart is in a million pieces, Ive lost myself...I dont know who I am ne more...I'm not happy....I feel like a shell with a ghost of who I was in it...I have lost motivation....I have no energy.....I gained some weight....I have low self esteem now...I feel broken...I feel just all around blah!!! I'm doing some very out of character things.....I'm still so angry and hurt at wat happened.....and he knows all of this......

any advice or support of how to get back to myself would be awsome!! I know its hard right now..cause I'm still living with him...it will be at least a few months till I move out...were trying to make the best out of a bad situation.....makes it hard to move on lol

Much love <3
 
Oh, sweetie. Lots of us have been there. I've been absolutely crushed to the point where I can't function, but I look back and the only thing I feel now is anger towards allowing myself to get to that point.

I think the low self esteem, weight fluctuation, just feeling depressed is so normal. You got to tell yourself that YOU have potential to make something of yourself,and you are making the first decision to better yourself. Now you can focus on YOU and YOUR needs.

Is there anything you love, enjoy, and can keep your mind busy? That's what I have to do. For me, that's work. What makes you happy?
 
You need time away from him (which is difficult if you're still cohabitating together) and you need to engage in activities that make you feel good about yourself. Call up your close girlfriends and let them come to your rescue. You need some distractions right now so you're not so focused on him and the relationship that you used to have.

Depression can feel like a black hole that you can't climb out of but rest assured, you can. If you're growing concerned with your weight, which is in. Turn making you feel worse about yourself then do what you can to get active. Endorphins are powerful and can instantly and literally lift your mood. I have dealt with depression quite a bit in the past and working out has certainly helped.
 
Start a new hobby or focus on an existing one.

Spend time with friends and keep busy. Grieve if you need to, but know that things will get better over time.

Also, I found that exercising helps. Not only will it take your mind off thangs, but its healthy and you'll start feeling better about yourself at the same time.

Good luck to you
 
Dont ever let drugs change your mind about perople. Rember the user does not chose to be addicted the drugs does. I mean have you ever tried nay drug? Its like cheating in life like a real life hack. You get out of reality. I mean after you do it once you like the feeling and jsut for recreashinal use want to try it again. THen aftert the 3 time the adiction starts and it gets worss and worss its not the human who chosses to to be mean to people because he wants the drug. The body/brain makes him do it cause it needs the drug it wants it so badly it got use to having it. Like a son/daughter gets use to having a mother and would not get though life without her or fat people needing food.

This is love you get over it in a flash you might feel heart broken for a 1 to 3 months but then its gone. Probably if you want to get away move out and it will m ake everything allot more easyier !



sorry that this is such a feeling less post :/ I did my best. I just think everyone deserves a second chance. If I wouldnt have gotten a second chance I would probaly be bumbed by now....
 
I've been there, its horrible, kratom pulled me out (thank god for kratom). It feels like it will never get any better but time heals
 
Yeah, I can agree with Lars.

Try helping him some more before you completely shun him.

He may need somebody close to make it all the way.
Is this all due to his addiction, or was he fucking other people or something
 
My ex broke me. I met this girl when I was 21 and we were together until I was 24... Now I just turned 28 and I'm still damaged. Sometimes you have to be careful about who you let into your life because when you get involved with people they can change you for better or worse.
 
nooneanymore said:
My ex broke me. I met this girl when I was 21 and we were together until I was 24... Now I just turned 28 and I'm still damaged. Sometimes you have to be careful about who you let into your life because when you get involved with people they can change you for better or worse.
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moving on is not always easy. It takes time and hard work, but until you forgive your self and move on you will stay damaged. Thats the beauty of life. Feeling that were caused by the body are always heelable. The tool to work with is time and forgiving. If it is love, hate or sadness all can be heald with the power of time.

Hang in their man and forgive your self surch for a new girl and start living your life again :)
 
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