PTSD How to get through mother's death?

[Survival0200]

My mother passed away recently.

These recent times have been quite difficult for me. Crying. Anxiety. Depression. I just try not to think so much about mom. I have been watching movies and so. Going out.

I wanted to hear about your experiences when someone close to you has died. What was it like? What helped? How long process was it?

I contacted my psychiatrist - she said, that she's not going to prescribe me any controlled substances. Benzos naimly. I asked if I could get a prescription. I guess I'll just have to get through without meds. Thinking of going to another psychiatrist, maybe someone who isn't such a cunt with zero empathy.

Currently I'm doing as fine as you can in a situation like this. I have good moments and bad moments. My cat has been my therapy animal.

I take citalopram and pregabalin regularly, so I guess they kind of cut the edge of the feelings of anxiety and depression. I probably would feel worse if I wasn't already so medicated.

Any tips or input is very welcome.

 

[M!$TER-ED]

Every person deals with death/loss differently. Depends on your relationship, and a bunch of other things too many to list. Allow yourself to feel is the best advice I can give.

 

[kris66]

I’m sorry about your mother, that’s really hard. My mother passed away rather suddenly in her 50’s. It was really difficult to deal with, partly because all my friends had their mothers still. I remember someone at work telling me she was going to lunch with her mother (it was a couple years after my mother died) and I started crying. Birthdays and holidays were hard for quite awhile.

There really is no other way around grief but through it. I can understand why you would want to feel numb right now, I did too, but benzos might actually make your problem worse as they are highly addictive even if not taken daily.

It does get easier. If you want to talk feel free to DM me.

 

[bvc]

Hi.
I lost my mother about 9 years ago. She died suddenly and violently. The best advice I can give you is (like mister ed. Said) allow yourself to feel. It always hurts for me but in some ways it feels better now. Acceptance i guess. Message me if you want to.

Love, M.

 

[Robi]

I lost mom at 58,now I'm 58 what helps me is to be what she wanted to be,make her prouder in death than living,holding onto her funny personality, becoming her as I age,not ruining my life because I want need and miss her,she would kick my butt if I was to wallow in grief over her and not celebrate her life every day being the best I can be,that's my way ,her way.yes this year has triggered me,knowing how young and beautiful she was at 58,like me,in your case ,the newness is hard for me to advise,but yes having the love of others,a sympatico, holding pets near and dear.

 

[Flynnal]

I feel pain reading all of this. I lost my mother when I was 12. It was on a cloudy December day when the news broke. The following April, I turned 13. My entire childhood from her death onwards was just a world of torment.

The saddest part about my mother is that I'll probably die the same way she did. The method won't matter. Too many neurological problems that seem to want to get worse, for whatever reason, and I'm slowly becoming fed up with it. All I know is it's not age-related and talking to doctors about it only results in a blood test that reveals diddly squat, that's about it.