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How to get her to try new things

sex for me is about a series of distractions and the pleasure of being distracted by as many (pleasant) sensory areas possible at once. emotional connection is good but weirdly i find i can make them in one off scenarios if i get into a passionate mindset.

i enjoy using distractions to mold the experience in my favour. when you do something that someone really likes they become flexible to suggestion. but there is no need for a gung ho attitude. you need to allow room for feeling out the reaction. which is what you need to pay attention to but not be scared of. a little experimentation never hurt anyone.

i do discuss things in sex, but if i want someone to change positition that doesn't need discussion the way "lets have anal sex" or something equally different does. condoms always are must for me for anal sex. i dont shag many women. but there seems to be less use of condoms around my female friends. either way i think its because anal is literally dirtier.
 
I mean communication verbally is good, but reading your partener in the moment is better, IMO......If you wanna just try diifferent "straight sex" positions, I don't see the big deal in just "flipping her around"....Anal, of course, is a different story, lol....Just be gentle and look for cues is my advice....If you sense any of your advances are making your partner uncomfortable, just stop and revert to another position....I'd never be turned on by having somebody do something they didn't really want....

That being said, most girls WILL want to try different positions at least, IME....
 
^^^ I agree. If I was with someone who was like, "ok, is it ok if we do doggy now?" I would get turned off really fast. Just do it...surprise me, thrill me....if I don't like it, I will speak up. Like, don't try to put it in my ass unless we have an understanding or have talked about it....but basic run of the mill sex positions...just go for it.

A lot of women who may be a little more insecure or even inexperienced may never speak up or lead things themselves, but maybe she is just waiting for you to make your move...
 
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