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How to explain that all drugs aren't bad?

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My friends are so judgmental. I've changed a lot in the past few months (since drugs entered my life). But it's been all good changes. I'm so much more open and accepting and loving and caring. And I've made so many new wonderful friends. But I'm losing my old friends because they can't accept this. They are constantly telling me what a bad person I am for doing this stuff. (Please note I'm not an addict or anything, it's all recreational, I will use mdma, ghb, or ket once every two weeks on the weekend ... sometimes some weed in between but is that really a big deal). But I need some resources - facts - something that will help change their minds! I am not making them try it. I just want them to see that it isn't all bad if you do it carefully. Links? Just plain facts? I don't care.

Here is some of the stuff they said and what I try to say back but they don't really listen.

1. "in reality: they need drugs because they have poor self-esteem and can't interact normally with others without them"

-I explained that perhaps some people are like that but actually they can just make some people more open and accepting and people don't have to have a poor self esteem and be socially awkward-

2. "now that you have started using drugs, you are going to make me use them"

-Yeah, because I'm going to start peer pressuring people ... obviously not. besides, I'm not going to waste my money and resources and stuff on someone. If they want it, they can go buy it.-

3. "all drugs are hallucinogenic and make you do stupid things"

-There are plenty that aren't - mdma, ghb - well those are the main ones I know aren't but there are plenty. And even if the are hallucinogenic, they don't make you do stupid things.-

4. "date rapes drugs are notorious for been used at raves"

-More likely used at regular clubs and bars ... raves are more peaceful and stuff. Sure bad things will happen more but they are publicized which is why people THINK there are more date rapes at raves when, in reality, there isn't.-
 
Yup i had those friends once to. Who said all those samethings. You cant change their minds. The way i see it if someone is that closed minded that they just dump a friend over something as simple as drugs then they were never your friend to begin wit.
 
I try to keep my straightedge friends unaware of any serious drug use cause I have usually found it to be a losing battle. Even though I know what I'm doing is right in my mind. I've learned that you should not lose any of your friends because of different viewpoints on drugs, but rather keep it to yourself and only discuss it with your new friends that you use drugs with. The best of both worlds and you get to keep all the friends.
 
1. "in reality: they need drugs because they have poor self-esteem and can't interact normally with others without them"

yeah so?
 
It's called cognitive dissonance and really you're just wasting your time and energy debating them. If they can't accept you and your choice to use drugs, then fuck em. Not worth having around imo.. close-minded people fucking suck.
 
I never did drugs in highschool but had friends that did, in fact my best friend smoked weed like it was going out of style but I never judged him on the topic. We still hung out...........I started smoking pot in college & other stuff & I had friends that would question why I did while they drank alcohol & drove drunk on the weekends. Hypocrites? I would say yes but they looked at drugs as an "illegal" product while alcohol is legal socially acceptable.
 
Your true friends, of which we all only have those few true ones, may see the situation as a loss like ' oh little mikeys not hangin with us in the tree fort cuz he's smokin blunts in his new friends whip.'

If you consider any of your older friends to be inparticular and you are fond of them you'd better keep in touch because you will lose them.

Some of us are left with nothing once it gets real. I started the way you are/did.

Now I've lost some friends and made some throughout my social history, but my best friend was who I literally grew up with side by side, neighbors. He took himself off of this planet, atleast that's what the police report said 'suicide'....

The point of that reference is that I knew something was up, he had called me a few times on coke, wasn't un-normal, bit he was at college on the Deans list. So I could tell he was stressed and all but we lost touch the last year of his life/his first year of college. I didn't have enough time to try and talk to him....
 
You are just as judgmental as they are... I mean they might not be right, but are you?
 
I've stopped trying to explain drugs and my actions to others altogether. I've learned that, regardless of what I say, I will still have those stupid friends that think it's cool and want to get "fucked up;" and I'll also have those friends that insist I'm one bump away from becoming an absolute purse-snatching junkie.

So I just go about my life, dabbling in substances from time to time, and when others have questions for me about drugs and want to know how to use drugs safely, that's when I do what I can and break out into my spiel.
 
All my pot smoking friends would judge me for using the harder drugs and I could never think of something to come back with because I knew it was true that the harder drugs I was using were bad for me. I mean, they are smoking pot and I'm shooting dope or smoking meth. How could I think of a come back to "your fucking your life up with that shit, it fucks up your head" Well it actually does so what do I say?
 
K'd-OUT-in-AZ said:
All my pot smoking friends would judge me for using the harder drugs and I could never think of something to come back with because I knew it was true that the harder drugs I was using were bad for me. I mean, they are smoking pot and I'm shooting dope or smoking meth. How could I think of a come back to "your fucking your life up with that shit, it fucks up your head" Well it actually does so what do I say?
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just say thanks for caring MOM
 
Lord you are actually right about that. Like someone said above me some people are left wit nothing once shit gets real. So if your friends who dont use are actually really good friends who care keep them. Just because you disagree on one thing doesnt mean you cant be friends. Unless they see it that way.
 
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