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How to enjoy life?

sexyanon2

sexyanon2

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Good question, sexyanon2. :p

But really. How does one transform from the intellectualizing mindset to the enjoying life mindset? How to relax and not worry? Let loose sometimes and take time to live?

Holy crap. I can't even imagine existance like that. lol. How do any of you do that?

And I can do this only if I force myself to. I can "believe" I'm enjoying whatever it is that I'm doing, even if I don't feel enjoyment from it naturally. E.g. I can "enjoy" singing a campfire song and going crazy, but I won't naturally feel that feeling.

lol. Once this happens, how can you ever not love life?

Gratzi.
 
How does one transform from the intellectualizing mindset to the enjoying life mindset?
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you are confused young grasshopper. the intellectual does not fret and worry like a prepubescent teeny bopper crashing from a 3 day binge. the intellectual is relaxed, and takes life one day at a time, for he or she realizes that he or she is just one tiny speck in the great scheme of things, and in the long run it really doesnt matter. an intellectual knows things happen, and does not need to know why. An intellectual, instead, asks, why ask why?

sitting around analyzing things from a deranged perspective like a psychopath doesnt make anyone an intellectual.
 
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Ideally, yes.

But not everyone's mind works that way. And its amazing how many people refuse to accept the fact that people think differently than they do. Your way of thinking and your attitude about life isn't the right way, its your way.
 
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intellectualizing and enjoying need not be mutually exclusive. like slg says, if that's you, that's you.

there have been millions of opinions on how to relax and not worry but i think a question like this translates to - how can i be comfortable/centered with myself?

i believe this (which i wrote elsewhere) is where it starts:

"what do you do when you want to get to know somebody? spend time alone with them, ask them questions, get intimate.

do that. with yourself."

note who started that thread :)

namaste

alasdair
 
no what i was saying is an intellectial view of the world is an objective and factual view. it is not good or bad, it simply is. a "bad" or "negative" or "unenjoyable" outlook on life is quite abstract from an objective view.
 
Sorry wood, but I must interject. a) intellectualizing does not mean intellectual. It's a form of psych-defense. b) somebody who has a factual and objective view of the world? :)

Egh. I kind've hear what you guys are saying (alasdair and slg), but it doesn't make sense. Am I supposed to be happy? Do I want to be happy? Should I be able to enjoy myself sometimes?

Hmm. I know I'm not supposed to be anything, but.. ?!?!
 
Well, from personal experience I can say that the more you stress about why you aren't happy, the less happy you'll be. There really is no secret to happiness, but we all try to find it anyway. Let's face it, there will always be certain things that make you happy, certain things that make you hurt, certain things that make you angry... and the list goes on.

If you go on a quest for happiness you're only going to end up disappointed. Even those people who seem to have a perfect life, and have everything going for them, aren't really happy. Honestly I don't think there's such a thing as perfect happiness. And anyone who believes there to be is really fucked up in the head :p

There's a certain balance to life. You get something good, and you get something bad. Nothing is without some sort of consequence (be it positive or negative).

And I personally gave up on my own happiness. Yes, I'm jaded, and bitter :p I've accepted the fact that I'm not going to enjoy everything in life and I'm not going to find happiness in everything, especially when I TRY. And I don't care anymore. And I won't let myself get upset over the stupid little things that would normally break me down. I'm trying to be numb to all feelings :\
 
by controlling the situations you put yourself in, you influence the things that happen to you (which partly dictate one's happieness). the other part of the equation is to be completely at ease with the curveballs that life inevitably throws at you from time to time.

shit happens..especially if you jump into a big pile of it
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>>the intellectual is relaxed, and takes life one day at a time, for he or she realizes that he or she is just one tiny speck in the great scheme of things, and in the long run it really doesnt matter. an intellectual knows things happen, and does not need to know why. An intellectual, instead, asks, why ask why?>>

What intellectual is this?

>>no what i was saying is an intellectial view of the world is an objective and factual view.>>

No. The "objective" view is a convenient fiction.

ebola
 
hmm, alasdair. You've caught on! =)

I'm not too bummed about bad things happening in life. However, I'm not at the point yet where I can learn from all my negative experiences. But I'd still like to be able to enjoy life or feel relaxed at least once in a while. Life's a burden to live, not a joy. Isn't it supposed to be the latter?

If it wasn't, how would the species have gotten where we are?

I'm not sure if the root of this burden is social or something else. At the moment it seems like the former.

Hrm. egh.
 
I can either embrace that I will eventually be myself, or I can get upset that it will take me some time to be myself. Hmm. Although I feel I've dumbed myself down and I really don't like that. asdijfas;fkj
 
Seriously, You can post hundreds of threads on how to achieve happiness. You buy hundreds of books, you can talk to thousands of people. In the end it will leave you exactly where you started.

You must search inside yourself. Deep, Deep, Deep. Before you can enjoy existance to the Maximum. There are many ways to do this.

Psychedelics (LSD in particular) get you face to face with your unconscious very quickly as it dissolves defense mechanisms more easily than non-drug techniques.

I can not even put into words how much happier I am these days since my quest for Happiness began with My high dose LSD sessions I have been conducting.

A lot more ease LETTING LOOSE, and just enjoying existance :) :) :)
 
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Seriously, You can post hundreds of threads on how to achieve happiness. You buy hundreds of books, you can talk to thousands of people. In the end it will leave you exactly where you started.

i disagree entirely. some people just don't have the tools to get the job done. those tools can be easily learned by reading certain books and talking to people.

i agree that the hard work itself can only be done by the individual in question.

alasdair
 
Yeah,

perhaps I am just cynical because It has never worked for me. Maybe I shouldn't be so quick to jump the gun on a generalization as vast as that alasdairm. :)

But still, For me, only self-exploration has resulted in any meaningful happiness. I tried to read a million self-help books and read what people had to say here on bluelight about happiness, and I still had the same old deep-seated problems in my psyche preventing me from enjoying the simplicity of existance.

Know Thyself.
 
psilocybe said:


Psychedelics (LSD in particular) get you face to face with your unconscious very quickly as it dissolves defense mechanisms more easily than non-drug techniques.

I can not even put into words how much happier I am these days since my quest for Happiness began with My high dose LSD sessions I have been conducting.
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This post has sparked in me some questions and concerns.

I have a problem with people touting the use of psychedelics as a means of healing/growth. While I'm aware that they do a great deal of good in some cases, as in yours, I think that a great deal of caution must be taken. LSD is not a cure all, and it's use should not be advocated so carelessly. While their is a potential for great benefit, psychedelics often serve to exacerbate your problems, either by making your life very confusion, or (interestingly) by providing you with a glimpse of how wonderful life can be, one that you simply can't live up to in your everyday existence. revelation are lost on the come down, and one can find one's self rooting around in the same shit they rooted around in before, except now burdened with the extremely frustrating knowledge that things could be better. Not fun.

Growth using psychedelics requires a great deal of work and preparation. I'm curious to know what methodology you went about using in the beneficial LSD sessions you mentioned.

As for the original posters question, happiness is right in front of your nose and a million other cliches. from this post and others I gather that (correct me if I'm wrong) you are, like me, very in love with your neurosis despite the pain they cause you. Maybe you should try some meditation or something, I hear that that's pretty helpful...

On an unrelated side note, can somebody please tell me, in a simple and detailed fashion, how I would go about gettin an avatar. I'm rather illiterate when it comes to computers, but would quite enjoy having a picture of Bill Murray (preferably one from Wes Anderson's The Life Aquatic) under my name.
 
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