Pomplemous
Bluelighter
and thank her because its a good girl who cares enough about being with you to not care about what you do or what it costs - like her imjagination!
good luck baby!! xx
good luck baby!! xx
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How to change your lifestille
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hazejunk
Bluelighter
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Pomplemous
Bluelighter
hee - oh yes that stage.,.,... be sensible and dont get an STD or a girl pregnant - cant help you with that!!
hazejunk
Bluelighter
..............nothing important
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Pomplemous
Bluelighter
it will so long as you keep on doing it!! keep on trying and keep on showing yourself you can!!
it will get to the point when you are so used to going out without drugs that you almost cant imagine doing them!
it will get to the point when you are so used to going out without drugs that you almost cant imagine doing them!
Blue Lotus
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I've only whisked through the posts here but most are excellent and full of very helpful and wise advice.
You are correct in that you need a total lifestyle change. But I don't think this is anywhere as hard as it may sound initially.
For a start you have acknowledged the fact that you don't want to be an addict anymore. You have learnt and come to realise that this will not bring you happiness and will only bring you suffering. You know you need to change. This is half the battle over already.
It will only seem hard at first because you are so used to drugs, the drug 'culture' and so forth. Perhaps you have forgotten your old ambitions and have lost the sense of having an idea of what you want to do with your life. This is something you will have to slowly and patiently try to regain.
People often talk about a 'void' appearing after they have stopped using and talk of the need to fill it...On the one hand this is undoubtedly true because you are going through a big transitional phase of your life. On the other I think you have to be very mindful on what you choose to fill that void or fall back into old habits (using again).
For example, people on this board often talk about how bored they feel and so rather than putting in any real effort or motivation they choose to fill this void with short term and rather unproductive activities such as playing computer games or watching tv for most the day...In many ways you can compare these activities as short 'fixes' with no real long term benefit with the drug use perhaps! It's a similar pattern of behaviour.
If you attempt to fill the 'void' with totally unproductive activities it's likely you will turn back to drug use.
If you really wish to change positively you need to have some courage determination and motivation. You've basically got yourself into this negative situation so now you have to mend it. It'll take time. You need to change your patterns of behaviour.
There are many things you can start with and then progress;
Physical exercise and your overall health is important...Eat healthy food that tastes good and makes you feel good. If you aren't good at cooking then buy a cook book and learn. This will not only give you something to do, it will also go some small way to helping you respect and value your own health and well being...If you enjoy asian food buy a cheap thai cook book (or get free recipies off the net) and buy a cheap wok...You'll be amazed at how simple and quick it is to knock up gorgeous and very healthy food.
Exercise can be anything from walking in the countryside or going to the gym depending on where you live...Perhaps martial arts like Aikido would be an excellent idea as they place a lot of emphasis on mental discipline.
All this is certainly important but what is probably most important is the people you surround yourself with and your environment. Look at your friendships, if you feel some individuals aren't what you need anymore in your life and aren't making you at peace to be around then see them less and concentrate on the ones who make you feel good and at making new ones. All friendships end, this is life so really this isn't a big deal even if it feels like it. Don't get attached to your past.
Naturally if the people around you are happy and decent people then so should you be. It's simple logic.
Finally don't treat this as the worse moment of your life. You can actually turn it around and make it one of the most productive and positive parts. You have probably learnt more than you realise about yourself and the world through your experience of drug addiction.
Enjoy it, you are free to live your life now.
Lotus
You are correct in that you need a total lifestyle change. But I don't think this is anywhere as hard as it may sound initially.
For a start you have acknowledged the fact that you don't want to be an addict anymore. You have learnt and come to realise that this will not bring you happiness and will only bring you suffering. You know you need to change. This is half the battle over already.
It will only seem hard at first because you are so used to drugs, the drug 'culture' and so forth. Perhaps you have forgotten your old ambitions and have lost the sense of having an idea of what you want to do with your life. This is something you will have to slowly and patiently try to regain.
People often talk about a 'void' appearing after they have stopped using and talk of the need to fill it...On the one hand this is undoubtedly true because you are going through a big transitional phase of your life. On the other I think you have to be very mindful on what you choose to fill that void or fall back into old habits (using again).
For example, people on this board often talk about how bored they feel and so rather than putting in any real effort or motivation they choose to fill this void with short term and rather unproductive activities such as playing computer games or watching tv for most the day...In many ways you can compare these activities as short 'fixes' with no real long term benefit with the drug use perhaps! It's a similar pattern of behaviour.
If you attempt to fill the 'void' with totally unproductive activities it's likely you will turn back to drug use.
If you really wish to change positively you need to have some courage determination and motivation. You've basically got yourself into this negative situation so now you have to mend it. It'll take time. You need to change your patterns of behaviour.
There are many things you can start with and then progress;
Physical exercise and your overall health is important...Eat healthy food that tastes good and makes you feel good. If you aren't good at cooking then buy a cook book and learn. This will not only give you something to do, it will also go some small way to helping you respect and value your own health and well being...If you enjoy asian food buy a cheap thai cook book (or get free recipies off the net) and buy a cheap wok...You'll be amazed at how simple and quick it is to knock up gorgeous and very healthy food.
Exercise can be anything from walking in the countryside or going to the gym depending on where you live...Perhaps martial arts like Aikido would be an excellent idea as they place a lot of emphasis on mental discipline.
All this is certainly important but what is probably most important is the people you surround yourself with and your environment. Look at your friendships, if you feel some individuals aren't what you need anymore in your life and aren't making you at peace to be around then see them less and concentrate on the ones who make you feel good and at making new ones. All friendships end, this is life so really this isn't a big deal even if it feels like it. Don't get attached to your past.
Naturally if the people around you are happy and decent people then so should you be. It's simple logic.
Finally don't treat this as the worse moment of your life. You can actually turn it around and make it one of the most productive and positive parts. You have probably learnt more than you realise about yourself and the world through your experience of drug addiction.
Enjoy it, you are free to live your life now.
Lotus
hazejunk
Bluelighter
Yeah i just got a new girlfriend how is tottaly drug free so thats real nice and i'm starting to fall in love as well. Life is good atm and not boring so i think i will make it this time+ vryday i'm going on bupe.......thanks for al the suport and hints Blue Lotus
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^^
is bupe available in the netherlands ?
should i go to a special doctor
im clean too now but in IBS , the judge is gonna decide today
im on loads of benzos
as soon as i get out im going to try get something going on with the hottest sweetest chick ever and try to stay clean (maybe just benzos)
i havent had sex in like a year and it would really do me good and fallling in love even more.
i wish you the best of luck haze and when im out of here maybe ill come down to visit you one time.
watch out witch alcohol btw it leads to depression and depression leads to dope
is bupe available in the netherlands ?
should i go to a special doctor
im clean too now but in IBS , the judge is gonna decide today
im on loads of benzos
as soon as i get out im going to try get something going on with the hottest sweetest chick ever and try to stay clean (maybe just benzos)
i havent had sex in like a year and it would really do me good and fallling in love even more.
i wish you the best of luck haze and when im out of here maybe ill come down to visit you one time.
watch out witch alcohol btw it leads to depression and depression leads to dope
Pomplemous
Bluelighter
^ do you like the doctor you have? if so then your normal GP should be able to help buit otherwise in the netherlands I would be very surprised if they didnt have volunteer action groups of some sort for you to go and talk to confidentially - just google something that you are looking for, I bet you'd be surprised. your local library might know also.
Your time will come though - when your heart says its time, then you will feel stronger within yourself and thats an attractive quality and it draws people to you and then you will have yor pick of the bunch!!
trick is not to self pity about it, but to just ignore it and concentrate on your head and the rest follows.
Your time will come though - when your heart says its time, then you will feel stronger within yourself and thats an attractive quality and it draws people to you and then you will have yor pick of the bunch!!
trick is not to self pity about it, but to just ignore it and concentrate on your head and the rest follows.
Pomplemous
Bluelighter
^ yep agreed -change the bits you can change easily and things can tend to flow from there.
hazejunk
Bluelighter
Well things sure have changed. I'm of methadone for 5 weeks now and haven't used heroin for 3 months now, well 1 small relapse 4 weeks ago. And i haven't used any other drugs for 4 weeks as well. I'm on bupe though and it really thaks away al the cravings i don't think about heroin at all. My girl practically lives with my she sleeps here every night ,the onely time i don't see here is when she is working, i like her a lot and things are going great. I'm going to a labour consultant in a couple of weeks to help my find a good job or go back studding, been to a spychologist this week and he didn't see the need for any other opiontment with him(nether did i). My girl and the bupe really changed my life a lot. I feel good every day and feel positive about the future with is a big change. I life a healty lifestyle now and it feels good, even though not that many things have changed ,my thinking has changed so much its weird but it feels great.
mr Bungle, Good luck detoxing methadone i did it my self as well. My girl feels like i'm the one for here and she's not the girl to go and cheat on my, but yeah what happened to you is what scared my in the beginnig and i just hope it never happens. Thanks for the support!
mr Bungle, Good luck detoxing methadone i did it my self as well. My girl feels like i'm the one for here and she's not the girl to go and cheat on my, but yeah what happened to you is what scared my in the beginnig and i just hope it never happens. Thanks for the support!
MissBehavin'_416
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Set yourself a goal, work towards it and stay comitted...............sober. You really have to change your way of thinking. Find new friends, new passions.
knight_marshall
Bluelighter
i posted this in another thread but i'll repost it here aswell...
a friend recently gave me a really good peice of advice regarding quitting anything you love. take yourself to three steps from satisfaction and stop. It will be hard at first, but eventually, the level of disatisfaction achieved by the drug will give you the motivation to not use it.
a friend recently gave me a really good peice of advice regarding quitting anything you love. take yourself to three steps from satisfaction and stop. It will be hard at first, but eventually, the level of disatisfaction achieved by the drug will give you the motivation to not use it.
Normality is a strange life friend in that we seem to always return to normal, if we can, from highly dependent opiates states.
The best life changes have the longest paths as, the short routes seem to bring us back to the same roads as, we set off from. A good years holiday, in a totally foreign country helps move nature forward.
I hope your still enjoying your new found freedom haze, breaking repeating habits is not easy.
No one told me it would this hard or that hard...dont be soft
The best life changes have the longest paths as, the short routes seem to bring us back to the same roads as, we set off from. A good years holiday, in a totally foreign country helps move nature forward.
I hope your still enjoying your new found freedom haze, breaking repeating habits is not easy.
No one told me it would this hard or that hard...dont be soft
hazejunk
Bluelighter
yeah things are still going great . my girl is on vacation now so i'm kinda missing her a lott. But things are still going great, no smack or other drugs for a long time now. it is onely to bad that that the wonder of being opiaat fee is gone so thats not something i feel good abouy=t every day. and the bordem is setting in so life is getting kinds boring esesualy with out my girl. the bupe is really helping my a lott. right now breaking free from the addiction feels very easy but i ges it will get harder. i would like to go on a years holiday to a foregin country butn i don't have the money for that 
could you give my a exeple of a long path change?
Thanks for the suport my friend
could you give my a exeple of a long path change?
Thanks for the suport my friend
hazejunk
Bluelighter
5 years fuck well i have never been a long term planner but in gues i would like a famely mabey kids and a good job , a house of my self and i would like to have seen some parts of the world(I love nature).I would like to be fit and be healty. As for my profession ,i don't know yet the stuff i like is sort of imposibile, because i would need a higher education, and right now i need to focus on my deth's and need money to move out of the house as i am already 24. So i just don't know . It's good i'm going to a labour consultant soon so she can help my out with this. I feel like every thing is gone be alright though i just have to start making some effort in to it as i am lazy as fuck