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How many good friends can you say you have (in real life) ?

I have about 12 good friends and 4 of them are family (3 siblings and a cousin). I consider my relatives my good friends cause I feel close to them in that way. Actually now that I think about it, I may have more good friends than I thought. It just that a lot of them I don't see as often.
 
I feel very lucky to have a handful of wonderful friends in my life (male and female) - most of whom i've known since i was in my late teens/early 20s. There are a couple of girlfriends who i've been close with for around 4-5 years as well.

I've made friends with a number of people from bluelight - a number of which i keep in fairly regular contact through social networking sites such as facebook, and there is a very small group that I originally met through bluelight, and over the years, have become people i love to spend time with - dinners, bbqs, etc.

I don't have a large number of friends, or hang out in a tight group - but there are definitely the constant friends that are in my life, and have been - some for over 15 years <3
 
Probably only one, he was my housemate for a couple of years.. still keep in contact from time to time.. he's the only person i can think of that if i were to bump into him a decade later we would still get along really well.
 
L2R said:
many of my closest friends i don't see for years at a time. the fact that we continue to care for each other marks the truth of each of these friendships, despite the lack of actual contact.
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THIS.

I no longer become concerned when friendships do not stand the test of time or they fizzle out. Sometimes there is an expiry date.

People come in and out of my life for a reason....or maybe it is random.

Good friends are those I trust completely and would help me out if I needed it. I can think of 2 and they live far away from me.
 
I have 2 close friends.
One that I have been friends with forever.
I trust them and can count on them.
Then I consider a number of people who I have met on BL good friends , though I've not met them. I know that if I ever need someone, I can call, and they know the same <3
 
Somewhere between 10 and 12 I think. I'm pretty lucky to have so many close friends.
 
Samadhi said:
I've made friends with a number of people from bluelight - a number of which i keep in fairly regular contact through social networking sites such as facebook, and there is a very small group that I originally met through bluelight, and over the years, have become people i love to spend time with - dinners, bbqs, etc.

I don't have a large number of friends, or hang out in a tight group - but there are definitely the constant friends that are in my life, and have been - some for over 15 years <3
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this is definitely true for me. there are some BLers who have become close friends over the years. they are scattered all over the place and i don't see them as often as i would like, but they are still good people.

aside from my husband, i don't live near any of my good friends.
 
The hubby and i have a good handful of good friends, people ranging from knowing them for the past 10 years to actual more recent people we have grown closer with. We are very selective with the people we choose to have in our lives.

My husband is my absolute best friend ... which is one of the main reasons why i married him. No one has ever understood me the way he does, and he says the same about me too :) So with saying that i don't believe in having any other best friends. I don't need anymore best friends. Just my husband and the quality people we have in our life makes it all complete.

It's cool too because we have quite a interesting range of friends too - the husband has a awesome crew of warhammer buddies that are over at ours every Monday night for warhammer and drinks. Then we have some very close mates that have now become our 4 wheel drive buddies! They take their kids and we take our dogs (they got us into 4 wheel driving!) Its awesome. And then we have doofing mates, that we are also of course great friends with outside of doofs but they are now the people we love to spend most of our time with at doofs. So yeah we have mates that fit into all of our aspects in life. It's pretty cool. We're happy. We have had a rough few years with sorting out who the real friends are and such, but now it has all come together.
 
i have roughly about 10 - 20 people i see on a regular basis, get high with and have fun with but in all honesty im not sure if i can call any of them close friends.
 
I have 3 really close friends and by that I mean we've known each other for at least several years, see each other at least once a week on average, have a lot of common interests.

I think a good criteria for "close friend" is that you can share long silences without it feeling awkward, and you can give each other shit/personal advice without feeling offended.

I have an additional 20 friends that I enjoy hanging out/catching up with but if I never saw them again I wouldn't lose too much sleep. What keeps them from being close friends has to do with what I perceive as sometimes annoying character flaws, or that we're simply heading in different directions with our lives.

In general I can meet new friends easily but I'm not a social butterfly. I'd much rather have a couple close friends than a huge posse. Keeps things simpler and more meaningful.
 
I don't trust anyone other than my mother (and this body) fully.

That being said, my mom is my best friend. Outside of family, I have maybe four good friends. One of them, I'm dating. Two are friends from kindergarten and although we don't talk much, I love them. The last one has changed a lot and is finding comfort in stress and creating lies so I am waiting on the outskirts for her to realize what she is creating for herself so that we can be close again with no hard feelings.

Four is pushing it, though. Funny that our significant other usually goes on the list and that as we break up and get into new relationships, the exes come off that list and the new SO comes on the list.
 
I have a few. I've found it rare to come across people i could truly call my best friends. And i can't say exactly why it is they stood out from other people i have met and formed friendships with that just haven't gone to that next level. I mean it's not like we have heaps in common or see each other all the time.

I think it has something to do with the experiences we've gone through together, the times that wore us down from the superficiality of a new friendship to the honesty of true friendship. Always understanding. Completely uncensored. I'm so grateful for these friends and i hope to find more as time goes on.
 
trancegirle said:
I have a few. I've found it rare to come across people i could truly call my best friends. And i can't say exactly why it is they stood out from other people i have met and formed friendships with that just haven't gone to that next level. I mean it's not like we have heaps in common or see each other all the time.

I think it has something to do with the experiences we've gone through together, the times that wore us down from the superficiality of a new friendship to the honesty of true friendship. Always understanding. Completely uncensored. I'm so grateful for these friends and i hope to find more as time goes on.
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SO very lucky to count this wonderful person as one of my good friends, irl <3
 
2. My fiance and one other guy I have known for about 8 years. I don't trust the guy, but he is a friend. I only trust my fiance and my paternal grandmother. I have been burned too many times in the past to keep friends. They do 1 thing seriously fucked up, and ties are severed. Probably too strict, but oh well.

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Too strict and/or dickish, but I have a low tolerance for bullshit.
 
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I have 2 friends that I share everything with - we've only known each other for two years, but those girls are the best friends I've ever had, and I trust them completely. And I'd say I have another 8 very good friends, they just fall into a lower tier than my two best friends. Everyone else I would consider an acquaintance. It's really quality that matters - one or two close friends are worth so more than a huge number of superficial friendships.
 
At the moment, it's down to two or three. The third I don't get to talk to as much because she lives in Russia but I always feel at home as soon as we get in contact.
There have been times where I considered all the friends around me close and reliable, but people always change and drift away from me for whatever reason.

Quality>Quantity>Duration
 
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