How important is trust in your relationship?

[Changed]

Do you value trust in your relationships?

Does communicating freely with you partner stand as a pillar of your relationship, or do you not care about disclosing anything and everything with your significant other?

Do you keep things from them for the purpose to maintaining the relationship?

How many times would you allow your partner to lie to you, about anything, before you said enough was enough?



Feel free to answer any or all of these questions, for the purpose to dialogue.

 

[nuttynutskin]

How important is trust? Isn't that sort of a no-brainer? I mean how can you have a good relationship without trust?

 

[Maya]

Trust is very important in a relationship equal to love, without trust the relationship will not work.

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

How important is trust? Isn't that sort of a no-brainer? I mean how can you have a good relationship without trust?

Yeah exactly. I broke up with my ex since he would constantly lie, he did cheat on me, and while I did love him he did things that broke my trust completely in him.

 

[pofacedhoe]

trust is the basis of any relationship- sex buddies, friends, marriage etc.

 

[Changed]

Yes, I'm pretty confident that trust is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. I basically wanted confirmation from some others.

During a rough patch for us, my girlfriend of nearly two years lied to me about something very simple and stupid, and I later caught her in it. I told her it was over, I couldn't trust her, and didn't speak to her for a month. Fast forward a month, I forgave her, and wrote her a letter telling her so, we of course end up fucking, getting back together, and yesterday she slips up and again admits to 'forgetting' some minor detail, which was actually another lie.

I'm calling her out on it, and putting an end to this, despite the fact that I love her.

Thanks for the confirmation.

 

[llama112]

Trust is, hands down, the most important thing in a relationship. In my current relationship, we trust each other 100%. In my previous relationship, there was trust, but not completely. It could've been a lot worse but there was jealousy and that just wasn't good.

Do you value trust in your relationships? yes

Does communicating freely with you partner stand as a pillar of your relationship, or do you not care about disclosing anything and everything with your significant other? There is very little I keep from my partner. He doesn't tend to share quite as much as I do (honestly, I just talk more) but he doesn't specifically hide things from me.

Do you keep things from them for the purpose to maintaining the relationship? I'm not sure what I could say that would hurt our relationship. I don't do anything to hurt our relationship so I don't think there is anything to hide about that.

How many times would you allow your partner to lie to you, about anything, before you said enough was enough? It depends. I know my boyfriend didn't tell me the complete truth about some things when we started to date. But you know, things are different in the beginning of a relationship than they are years into one. Did he lie to me then? Technically yeah. About anything important? No. If he lied about something significant now, I'd take a serious look at the relationship. See what was the reasoning behind it. And then go from there. But lying in a relationship is NOT good.

Some people think I'm crazy but I trust him completely and have no reason not to. His best friend is a female (attractive female, in my opinion) and he will go and hang out with her from time to time. I don't worry about stuff like that. If he wanted to date her, he would be. He chose not to, so I don't see what he'd do anyway. My boyfriend knows the guy I find incredibly attractive. He doesn't care. I'm not going to sleep with him or anything. Nothing wrong with a bit of a crush. We trust each other completely and, besides at the beginning (maybe first half a year) of the relationship, no trust issues, jealousy issues, etc.

 

[nuttynutskin]

During a rough patch for us, my girlfriend of nearly two years lied to me about something very simple and stupid, and I later caught her in it. I told her it was over, I couldn't trust her, and didn't speak to her for a month. Fast forward a month, I forgave her, and wrote her a letter telling her so, we of course end up fucking, getting back together, and yesterday she slips up and again admits to 'forgetting' some minor detail, which was actually another lie.

I'm calling her out on it, and putting an end to this, despite the fact that I love her.

That's gotta suck. Can you tell us what exactly she is lying about or do you not want to share that?

How many times would you allow your partner to lie to you, about anything, before you said enough was enough? It depends. I know my boyfriend didn't tell me the complete truth about some things when we started to date. But you know, things are different in the beginning of a relationship than they are years into one.

Although this doesn't seem to fit the op's case, that's a good point. Obviously in the beginning of dating/a relationship there's some things that you probably don't want to share right off the bat. It all really depends on what it is I guess. Obviously if it's something big like the fact you're seeing someone else also the person should know. But as far as other things like personal baggage, that's something you don't want to just dump all on someone in the beginning of a relationship because you might just scare them off before they can even get to know you. I know, it's happened lol.

 

[sexNcandy]

It's not everything.

 

[llama112]

Although this doesn't seem to fit the op's case, that's a good point. Obviously in the beginning of dating/a relationship there's some things that you probably don't want to share right off the bat. It all really depends on what it is I guess. Obviously if it's something big like the fact you're seeing someone else also the person should know. But as far as other things like personal baggage, that's something you don't want to just dump all on someone in the beginning of a relationship because you might just scare them off before they can even get to know you. I know, it's happened lol.

Well he did specifically ask the question lol.
But yeah, I probably would have broken up with my boyfriend if he had told me all the truth at the beginning of the relationship, it would have been quite daunting at that point.

 

[nuttynutskin]

Yeah... I just meant it's not quite the same since they've been together a while and she keeps lying. That's all. I'm still wondering what she was lying about.