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How does everyone have like 6,000 friends on Facebook?

Valiumpirate said:
We can all agree Facebook is shit, I use it maybe once a week and thats to laugh at all the stupid shit people say. And I still manage to have 1300+ friends even though I haven't sent a friend request in about a year. What can I say? People keep adding me, and I feel bad if I say no.
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don't blame fb, look in the mirror for shit
 
rogertoger said:
The number of facebook friends is inversely proportional to the number of true, count-on-me-for-anything friends. Someone with many facebook friends is skilled at time-wasting, but ultimately very lonely.
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This isn't necessarily true. Like, maybe for some of the people that have thousands of friends, but it's not hard to get hundreds of Facebook friends through real life interactions. I have around 500 friends on Facebook, but I've had some sort of social relationship with around 90% of them. Between high school, college, various sports teams, student organizations, work, and parties, I've met a lot of people over the last five years or so. I tend to be a social person, so I naturally get to know many of those people. I'll get some random friend requests every now and then, but that's only a small fraction of the total amount of friends. My personal rule for friending people is that I'll only friend people who I would have a conversation with if I ran into them in public. For me, Facebook is a great way to stay connected with the people you know and to get reconnected with people you haven't seen in a while.
 
Get into a few FB groups/communities on a certain subject matter, and u will make friends that way... that's probably how a lot of people do it, through common interests on FB.
 
I love how everyone says the ones with more friends on fb must not have a lot of real friends. Yet what I noticed in my age group (I'm 18 ) if you have below 100 friends on there.....you were the weird kid or some shit in high school or didn't have many friends to begin with. Anyways other than that a friend count doesn't matter, its just fuckin facebook lol....
 
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Valiumpirate said:
We can all agree Facebook is shit, I use it maybe once a week and thats to laugh at all the stupid shit people say. And I still manage to have 1300+ friends even though I haven't sent a friend request in about a year. What can I say? People keep adding me, and I feel bad if I say no.
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Lol I've ignored people who are actually my friends haha grow a pair.
 
hiphophippy said:
Lol I've ignored people who are actually my friends haha grow a pair.
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I didn't mean it like that, I meant it like I don't care enough to say no, because then you get the constant "Accept my friend request" messages, and then I feel bad that I have to read that sort of patheticness (if thats a word).
 
They have negative that many true friends in real life, so they compensate.

Then again I guess I post on forum, but I actually learn things from forums while interacting with people, so it isn't as bad.

I have few friends in real life, but I don't enjoy them too much, and all my old ones that I cared about moved away, went to jail, or severely addicted to drugs and it is hard to find quality friends.
 
MyFinalRest said:
^apparently LuGoJ is the only one of us with a real life with real friends!
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I know what it is, I was joking. I don’t have one and don’t intend on making one though.

6 years ago my wife begged me to make this cool new thing called a myspace. I really didn’t see the point but she insisted and wore me down over the next few years. Finally in late 2007 I broke down and made one, wasted a bunch of time setting it up, finding my friends etc. Then a few months later I noticed she wasn’t logging on anymore, I then asked her “why don’t you logon anymore? You finally got me to make one and you don’t even use it”… her response was “oh, nobody uses myspace anymore, everyone is on facebook, you need to make a facebook profile now”. That is when I decided social network was not for me.
 
For those people that have 567 friends on a social networking site, my question is this: how many of them will come bail you out of jail should that unfortunate event occur? Oh, hey, whoops, you can't email in jail...
 
When someone has hundreds or even thousands of friends on Facebook how many are actually real friends and not just acquaintances they may have only met a couple of times as I'm sure they can't talk to all of them on a regular basis.
Quality of friends over quantity should be your goal.
 
When I had Facebook the only purpose it really served was obtaining phone numbers.

I didn't have a a single friend besides my girlfriend that I would hang out with regularly.
 
6000 FB friends:

1. Lots of spear f-king time
2. Lots clicking with your mouse
3. A very VERY bad childhood
 
Most of my fb friends list is compromised of people I know from parties or raves or people I've seen around and would like to know better. I think I have close to 3,000 friends
 
I would suggest deleting your account if the amount of friends you have on Facebook discourages you as much as it does. I've deleted my account before and found I had a hell of a lot more to do during each day than I thought. I now have an account again... but after numerous friend 'filtering' sessions am down to about 110 friends on facebook. I haven't posted since the day Whitney Houston died (haha... :(), and really could care less about my account. In reality I probably only give a shit about 50 people on there (family members included) and use facebook to stay in touch with those who ONLY use facebook (which, I think - is kind of sad? However, I understand it is the age we are living in, and things change. Communication changes... etc. So, no flaming on that regard).

I don't know where I'm going with this SO in sum: no, I do not have many thousands of friends and I don't feel poorly as a result. Facebook probably makes me feel more bad than it does good. Now that I am not a daily facebook participant, I find myself actually talking to people (verbally - like on the phone or in person) more. Force yourself on walks, say hi to strangers - it feels good to do! Cheer up... facebook friend count means nothing. Most people can't tell you general info about most the people they are 'friends' with, anyway. It's just a stupid status marker for a certain group of people who care about that sort of thing.

*end* (I find myself hearing the counter... why is bluelight different/better? In case: "Not even close to the same thing")
 
hiphophippy said:
Lol I've ignored people who are actually my friends haha grow a pair.
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Heh I've done the same thing. I have a friend who I've known for years that I see regularly socially when we hang out or go to dinner together and we're both on facebook, have many of the same mutual friends. At one time I did have him on my friends list years ago, but then I took him off.

I've had other people who I wasn't even friends with in highschool try to add me and they were dicks back then so I ignored them.

All the people I have on my facebook friends list are either people who I know who I went to school with, who I've worked with, or I've corresponded with them for awhile and we met on other sites besides facebook. As of now I only have 126. Sometimes I'll just randomly delete people.

If someone has say 100s of friends or 1,000's of them, or they constantly post new updates/pics and want people to comment on them I generally don't add them as a contact on facebook. I also have had completely random people try to add me as a friend/contact and I didn't do that.
 
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I started deleting "friends". If they were people who never bothered to reach out to me, why bother? I saw something funny on fb that said "being popular on FB is like sitting at the cool table at the cafeteria at the mental hospital". I agree.
 
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