Vaportrails
Bluelighter
- Joined
- Aug 29, 2008
- Messages
- 100
OK, before you say it's stupid to care, I get that. I'm stupid for caring. Let's move on though because I really want to go get to the bottom of this.
I'm a social person. I play sports and interact with new people almost on a weekly basis. I'm in university and make a point to participate in extra-curricular activites and introduce myself around. Yet, I find if I don't go out of my way to add new people to FB, then I sit at the same amount of friends. I don't know if it matters, but I'm a mature student at 31 years of age who went back to school. I work part-time.
This is the fucked up thing. I was the one who refused to get stupid Facebook. For years, I resisted.. Finally, around 2008 I relented. Immediately I had like 40 friends. These were all the friends, family and people who I was close to, some who whom were pushing me to get an account.
So I get Facebook and immediately I notice that everyone on my list had like 200+ friends. At first I didn't care, I was new, it's not like I'd be friends with the entire world overnight. But a couple years later, when I was still sitting at 80+ friends, I started to grow a complex about it. For the first time, I started actually going through the lists of my friends' friends, and people who I knew fairly well but weren't on my list, and I started adding them. This got me close to the 100 barrier, which I felt at the time was sort of a big deal. (Again, I'm retarded, I know.. Let's move on)
Last year, I had my first real blow when a bunch of people on my volleyball league, who I tried adding because we had several friends in common, simply ignored my friend requests. 'Well, isn't this a strange twist,' I thought to myself. Here I am, the guy who turned his nose up at Facebook, and within a matter of a couple years, I'm on my knees cursing my computer for my apparent lack of social prowess!
Well, I finally got over it. It's now over a year later and a couple friend requests have trickled in, but like the bitch I've become, I'm still doing the lion's share of requesting. I'm more wary now though.. I won't just request friendship all willy nilly. I carefully weigh the likelihood of rejection before, my hand trembling over the left mouse button, I submit.
So like my would-be virtual friends, I submit to you, the reader. How is it done? How do all these people, some of whom seem to be to be not particularly social creatures at all, have all of these friends? Everyone I ask doesn't seem to know. Apparently they never really took stock - it's unimportant. I get this picture of social introverts, fighting off 2-3 friend requests a week and I'm just confused.
I'm a shell of my former self. Will YOU be my friend?! Please help!
P.S. - Current count: A meager 132 friends.
I'm a social person. I play sports and interact with new people almost on a weekly basis. I'm in university and make a point to participate in extra-curricular activites and introduce myself around. Yet, I find if I don't go out of my way to add new people to FB, then I sit at the same amount of friends. I don't know if it matters, but I'm a mature student at 31 years of age who went back to school. I work part-time.
This is the fucked up thing. I was the one who refused to get stupid Facebook. For years, I resisted.. Finally, around 2008 I relented. Immediately I had like 40 friends. These were all the friends, family and people who I was close to, some who whom were pushing me to get an account.
So I get Facebook and immediately I notice that everyone on my list had like 200+ friends. At first I didn't care, I was new, it's not like I'd be friends with the entire world overnight. But a couple years later, when I was still sitting at 80+ friends, I started to grow a complex about it. For the first time, I started actually going through the lists of my friends' friends, and people who I knew fairly well but weren't on my list, and I started adding them. This got me close to the 100 barrier, which I felt at the time was sort of a big deal. (Again, I'm retarded, I know.. Let's move on)
Last year, I had my first real blow when a bunch of people on my volleyball league, who I tried adding because we had several friends in common, simply ignored my friend requests. 'Well, isn't this a strange twist,' I thought to myself. Here I am, the guy who turned his nose up at Facebook, and within a matter of a couple years, I'm on my knees cursing my computer for my apparent lack of social prowess!
Well, I finally got over it. It's now over a year later and a couple friend requests have trickled in, but like the bitch I've become, I'm still doing the lion's share of requesting. I'm more wary now though.. I won't just request friendship all willy nilly. I carefully weigh the likelihood of rejection before, my hand trembling over the left mouse button, I submit.
So like my would-be virtual friends, I submit to you, the reader. How is it done? How do all these people, some of whom seem to be to be not particularly social creatures at all, have all of these friends? Everyone I ask doesn't seem to know. Apparently they never really took stock - it's unimportant. I get this picture of social introverts, fighting off 2-3 friend requests a week and I'm just confused.
I'm a shell of my former self. Will YOU be my friend?! Please help!
P.S. - Current count: A meager 132 friends.
