How Do You Say... NO.

[panic in paradise]

^exactly.


though, some can go into a power play, looking down on people who do still chose to use outwardly; speaking disrespectfully; pointing out their flaws to feel better about their own. i havent seen this work for long either.

 

[Cohesion]

Saying "NO" means trusting your gut about other people. Preventative maintenance, as PP mentioned. is helpful as we say NO in so many ways... to ourselves as well.

Establishing a NO-means-NO impression:

- Moving and speaking with Decision
- Intentional movements/ Affirmative communication non-verbally
- Tweak things in your language/presentation, for example, enunciating forgotten 't's, other consonants
- Attention to pace + pitch.

It's about the company we choose...

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Homelessness / Salvation Army / squatting / camping

^
Life at this frequency (homeless + all the other terrible conditions that have risen in my life) I'm covering new territory.

No one in this town knows me. As a STRANGER, I am feeling humble all the time. No persona to maintain. I've developed new mannerisms and communication techniques. NOTHING is worth celebrating -- much -- when all these events seem more appropriately to have occurred BEFORE I was with Child.

I will stay at the Salvation Army et al. until the next move is premeditated and clear.

I'm truly a-Wandering again, as I have just been stripped of my parenting rights. I miss her dearly. Oh, sunshine...

 

[Cohesion]

those moments after i said no, and without difficulty, felt 10000x better than all of the great drug scores i had ever made, combined. this thought alone is what makes me capable of saying NO. if you are elated to be sober, you will be elated to say no and mean it.

secondly remind myself that their reason for offering probably has NOTHING to do with me at all, or wanting to bond with me, i find it pretty easy to say no.

lastly, i remind myself that saying YES- ONE TIME - led to an unraveling of life as i knew it, and also led to almost two years of misery. so incredibly easy to forget the significance of the one time you didnt 'SAY NO'.

those three thoughts, combined, have kept me clean for 8 months and counting.

This.

and "How do you say NO? By having an even larger YES burning inside of you."

! I can relate to that.