How do you react when the one you love rejects you?

[Illyria99]

I don't react because I don't really get in relationships at all.

I was exactly the same way for a long time...I'm well aware that I'm overly emotional, and tend to take every single thing the wrong way. So I avoided "relationships" whenever possible.

However, I unexpectedly fell for a guy; and of course, chaos ensued. Luckily, I recently started getting out and making time for proper exercise...within the last few days, my utter despair over that guy has disappeared. I'm much happier now and will make it a point to jog every day! It really clears one's head.

 

[TrYpTiCaL]

I was exactly the same way for a long time...I'm well aware that I'm overly emotional, and tend to take every single thing the wrong way. So I avoided "relationships" whenever possible.

However, I unexpectedly fell for a guy; and of course, chaos ensued. Luckily, I recently started getting out and making time for proper exercise...within the last few days, my utter despair over that guy has disappeared. I'm much happier now and will make it a point to jog every day! It really clears one's head.

I don't really exericse much myself. Well, my work is exercise sorta...lots of heavy lifting and fast paced most of the time and my only transportation is what I was born with. Ha! Since my work is an hour and a half walk I guess I do get quite a bit of exercise there too. Honestly though aside from going to work I don't really go out. I read a lot and spend a lot of time online. I have a few friends that I've had for years, but I really don't interact much with people face to face outside of work. It's cool though. I mean it's not that I avoid relationships. I'm not 100% opposed to the idea. It's not something I avoid...though I used to. I just don't put myself in many situations where it's likely to happen and truthfully I'm not likely to let someone know I like them even if I do...at least not if I like them that way. I've been alone so long that it's what I'm used to and I haven't met anyone amazing enough (to me) for me to want to change that. I'm mostly happy alone. Not saying that I'm not fucked up in ways, but I kinda' like me.

 

[B1tO'RoughJack]

To the thread title - I'd have to say not very well, but not terribly - blanking is involved for a while.

 

[mbslider]

Dis life is about retaliation.
U Ave 2 leave everything onto Lord. May Lead U tru.

 

[Pagey]

In regards to the anger v. depression dimension of this thread, I prefer neither one over the other. The whole time you were making your case, Pagey, I was thinking 'Well, people manage emotions differently' - and what is hell for one person is not always hell for the other. But concerning the OP, it doesn't seem she handles anger w/ a much grace or equanimity as you (OP, there is nothing wrong w/ this in my eyes - it just means being depressed may be less destructive for you and your relationships, and anger in you may need to be addressed on different levels). Therefor, suggesting anger as a preferred state for her may not be the wisest solicitation.

Oh, I certainly wasn't trying to say everyone reacts to things in the same way - in fact, I feel like I was making the opposite point. My bad if it came out like that. The impression I'd gotten from the OP is that anger seemed easier for her than depression like me; anger without all the revenge stuff ofc. Obviously if I hadn't gotten that impression I certainly wouldn't have made the point that I did.

 

[IntimacyAddict]

I usually go through a process of emotions

Shock - Intial Reaction
Depression
Suicidal Ideation - Peak Emotion
Anger
Acceptance - Come Full Circle

The length of time depends on the duration of time I spent with them and how deeply involved I was.. but it's always self-destructive.

This is exactly my process but revenge has never come up as an emotion as it seems to for others.

I wonder just from reading here if males are more prone to feeling self-destructive and females are more prone to revenge after a relationship end?