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How do you know if you have a Superiority complex?

Aye I can go with that - that is the kind of person I would imagine, I think.
So let's just say that a person has this complex - how would you go about bringing them down a peg or two? OUtright abuse is not going to get you anywhere because surely their self belief shields them from that - with inferiority people I guess you have to build them up - which is much easier to do.

It is pretty common to think your way is the right way - fair enough - but you have to open to the possibility that it's not.

I am going to look up SupCom
 
Just a couple quotes from the net that I thought would shed some light on this discussion...

Individuals with NPD have a grandiose sense of self-importance. They routinely overestimate their abilities, inflate their accomplishments, and appear boastful, arrogant, and pretentious (DSM-IV, 1994). This belief in personal superiority is the "bedrock" of their self-image. Individuals with NPD believe that their presumption of superiority is sufficient proof of its existence.
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Individuals with NPD do not believe that reciprocal social responsibilities apply to them. They expect others to serve them without giving much in return (Millon & Davis, 1996, p. 405).
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Individuals with NPD are trapped in a kind of perfectionism. They have unrealistic ideals for themselves; then they either convince themselves that they have attained these ideals (the grandiose posture) or feel inherently flawed and a failure (the depressive posture) (McWilliams, 1994, p. 174).
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The narcissist does not cater at all to his own needs. Contrary to his reputation, the narcissist does not "love" himself in any true sense of this loaded word
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He feeds off other people who hurl back at him an image that he projects to them. This is their sole function in his world: to reflect, to admire, to applaud, to detest - in a word, to assure him that he exists. Otherwise, they have no right to tax his time, energy, or emotions - so he feels.
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And a side note: Most people will fall somewhere on the narcissistic spectrum.
 
Well...it doesn't have to be bringing the car to a stop. If they car has to slow down at all because of your self-image, there's a problem.
 
Narcissists *only* put themselves in other people's shoes (which kinda plays into my theory that every "disorder" falls into the dissociation spectrum, but that's beside the point).
 
The Word said:
Well...it doesn't have to be bringing the car to a stop. If they car has to slow down at all because of your self-image, there's a problem.
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Very much so, I agree - but that didnt come out right - if I find I have mis-timed my walk across the road, I will continue walking across instead of breaking into a run because 1) I have right of way and 2) I'll be across in a minute so just hold on and it will be seamless. I wouldnt make it stop nor saunter across the road gracing them with smiles as an imaginary audience wave and applaud me - dear me!

So how do you go about bringing an NPD to earth? constructively
 
no, I dont match what is written there. Simple as.

I am not sorry for the way I am and the way I think because each day I am smiling and people around me are smiling and that's how it should be. So I am not sorry.

Is that conceited? are you sorry or not sorry for the way you are? the person you are? yes?no?
 
OR is it a kind of way that a person has built up to shield themselves from harm when perhaps they have had bad things happen and everyone has their own means of coping and some develop an inflamed sense of self-worth and invinsibility from anything outside so protect them from further harm> this then could then develop into a full on superiority? or maybe some brought up like that, or some just deciding they are ace and that's that?
 
every person is a product of their surroundings and their genes. I don't think anybody ever just "becomes a narcissist," on a single day. And yes narcissism could be a shield built up to hide trauma...but that isn't always the case. What if you are a born narcissist?

damn, I'm getting closer and closer to believing in platonic forms all the time...
 
I didnt read any of the previous posts (sowee) but i just wanted to put my two cents worth: You know you have a superiority complex if you find yourself above hanging out/having friendships with people who are younger than you. i used to be like this in the past, id ignore my younger siblings friends, and id generally act like a bitch to younger people (yep, from one year to ten years younger it did not matter!) if they tried to talk to me. When i grew older, and i sawi had so many younger people that eventually became my good friends, thats when i realized i had this huge ass superiority complex in the past that was really annoying . even for me. (i think it stems from sibling rivalry in the family when i was young....my sister came right after i did and so it was a competition from the git go. We became okay only when we were out of our teens.) Its so much better now, so much more relaxed , and im GLAD i fucking outgrew that stupid complex. Its so repressing. :P :)
 
Oh Pomplemous, you know I still fancy you quite highly ;)

I think it comes down to control. I knew a girl with a total control complex where she would always drive 5 mph below the speed limit just to exercise control over those behind her. Some people have to wield every ounce of power available to them, no matter how piss-ant they actually are.

So, it's a total judgement call. If I think the person crossing the street is trying to exercise control over me b/c they know I'm not going to run them over, it bothers me. Also, it's sort of a "look at me! you have to acknowledge ME!" act that just pisses me off. I don't have to acknowledge you; bitch, I am high on PCP!!!
 
^ hahaha - you charmer! is that quite highly as in alot, or quite highly as in on drugs? Hee. *sweet smile* Either way, I'll take it.

Hmm - ok, that control complex thing - that's a difficult one actually because I am never in control of anything or anyone but iam in control of me, (even then only sometimes!) but the car thing - ok I know they are not going to run me down, but I am not going to break into a run for the sake of 5 steps across there and - I was half way there already and I do have right of way and as I say, just give me a split second and this'll all be over - I dont set out across the road in slowtime to annoy folk or make them slow down, oh poo to it - care just the most!

I have a friend like the above described - about wielding every ounce of power and having you bow to them at every step of the way. Hard work I tell you - does my head in.
 
You generally walk around thinking people should pay attention to you. But I'd be careful with the whole "You're lucky to have me here" thing. I've definitely seen some bitches get knocked the fuck out for it.
 
I'd go with the theory that most people have a little narcissist or superior bitch inside them. Even if we don't think it consciously, we are no. 1. It's instinct. Of course that doesn't mean we can't love and respect other people, but we are the centers of our own worlds. And as for the narcissism and living off ther people's reactions to us- I'm sure everyone does that to some degree. I mean, imagine a world were no-one reacted to you, at all, positively or negatively...

I think as long as you can with your logical mind realise that you are not more important than anyone else or more special than anyone else and as long as you can act that way as well, by respecting others, then its ok.
 
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