How do You Guys Get Sex?

[Corazon]

I don't understand the fundamentals.

You may want to try some practice dates/practice flirting before you jump in with hot grad-school girls.

Taking the fundamentals analogy a step further, ballplayers warm up with some layups, and most grad school students started doing basic book exercises before moving on to million dollar research projects (forgive me if i'm being corny).

There's a certain economics to dating (sexyness, popularity, economic status [all of which roughly fall under socioeconomic status]), but there's also a fun, natural, spontaneous side which you don't want to cheapen with too much stiff socioeconomic stuff.

Maybe try some social atmospheres (off-campus party, bar(locals included), festival, etc...) and start with meeting some of the less-attractive girls. Get a bunch of numbers/phone adds. Call/msg them later. Go on some dates. Practice. -also very important- don't fall in love with the first piece of ass you get.
The date sites are good for finding quantity over quality as well. Be smart about protection in all cases.

 

[Foreigner]

It could also be good to try and find acceptance through friendships first, instead of going for the pinnacle of having an ideal mate. Friends can help you feel a sense of validation which can be your launching platform into dating. It can be hard to have low self-esteem and then try to start dating because set backs can cause you to turn molehills into mountains.

Are there any topics that you enjoy discussing with a passion that come easy to you? Above playing it safe, it's good to stretch a little. Are there clubs or groups you are interested in that would give an easy in for you to talk to someone else?

When I used to have really low self-esteem, I got down on myself for not finding the mate I wanted. I only seemed to attract other people in the same place I was, or no one. It wasn't until I sorted out a lot of my stuff and let go of the idea of needing a partner that I ended up finding one. Funny how life works sometimes. Maybe what you need to do is practice detachment about the whole thing. People sense desperation, but if you don't care either way (genuinely, not just pretending you don't), then people won't perceive you have an agenda.

 

[Pagey]

Michael just so you know I merged your thread with your previous one on how to get sex since they touch on lots of similar points