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how do you guys dea or have dealt with family thinking your always high,

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i have a few family members who swear to the high heavens i am high when im not even using till the end of the day and even then 98% of the time its just enough methadone to be able to work tomorra,they think every skin reaction is from IV use and its really fucking with me when they tell my father who is my boss im fucking high while using a chainsaw

i have never taking anything while working,its to the point its rediculous ,i dont know what to do !!!?

they dont understand methadone and just not being sick,i mean it is really hurting me mentally and my esteem i guess im fucking depressed watching everything i do -say infront of them....almost shaking somtiimes cause i cant exactly take a piss test for them methadone will show up

i mean maybe its not a big deal to some people who dont care what other people think ,but i do,i have tried to make myself not care what other peple think but i just cant for somreason.....

people wont work me because of the hearsay...they just will not even entertain the fact i didnt don get high when i work,guys im on the way out of the addiction(physical) all i take is methadone,maybe when im lucky i get xanax wich i enjoy but at the end of the day

simple mistakes have been blown so way out of proportion i have broke down and cried cause i just do not now how to cope/prove i am straight

i hVAE gone to work many o times dopesick and my performance lacks i have explained this to my dad he seems to understand enough,but the others just wont have it

i mean im sorry if this isnt on the ricktor scale for most of you but how would u handle this
 
-my family doesn't know I use at all so I don't have any insight.

Why doesn't your family know you are on methadone/ why don't you tell them?
 
they think i was using it to get high when if i take to much makes me sick for some reason other opiates dont but i have been on it for a long while now

so i tell them nothing but man it does not work i dont know what im doing to make them think im high,thats whats killing me
 
It would probably be in your best intrest to let them know you are on methadone. Most people who are ignorant to drugs know little about the ones in question. Gather literature, educate them, and let them know how MMT has changed your life (for the better).
 
I've been on suboxone for a year and only done dope a handfull of times since getting on it but my dad thinks im back on it because he found some empty bags from 1 time that i did it recently, but he always acts as if he thinks im high even before he found them. And my girl friends parents are crazy and just openly accuse her of being high all the time and tell her they think im fucked up on something too when we aren't the majority of the time.

We both just basically don't care what they think anymore because whatever we say they wont believe us so why bother...
 
My mom has thought I was full time drug addict for years now. Shes accused me of using everything from meth to cocaine. Usually although I know its not the correct way I just tell her to STFU because she literally has no idea what shes talking about. The worst evidence she ever happened to find razors(not even the good kind just some I took from a box cutter to collect some homemade hash) and straws from when I was really messy and ate fast food. I doubt its something she'll ever really understand but fuck does it get me riled up when she calls me a drug addict and i've worked hard to never become physically dependent on any drug.
 
My parents constantly think i'm high. generally I just dont spend any time with my family, I love with my boy friend, and i try not to think about "what a disappointment" i am. really in the end people who know you have a drug problem will ALWAYS assume your high, no matter what you tell them. you have a bad day and act kinda pissed off, oh its "cause you need a fix". once they have the knowledge they will always assume, and there really isnt too much you can do but try and ignore it and do your best.
 
they are called boundries and you badly need to set some. Anyone who has undergone a decent rehabilitation program knows what i mean. Before one comes home from the center they will usually have a conference call with themselves, their consolor from the rehab, their parents, and pretty much anyone else the client chooses. This is to set boundries. They are an absolute necessity for anyone choosing a sober life. Even your consolor from the methadone program should do this with you, mine did.

Say everytime you have the flu, or are sick or not feeling well, your parents accuse you of using or being dopesick. Well you set a boundry and tell them "when i am sick, i am sick, i would much rather you ask me whats wrong like a normal parent does, instead of accusing me, it only brings me down" The whole point of boundries is to allow the user/addict to return their family/home life back to normal, or as close as possible. If you do not set these there is a good chance you will relapse or at least lapse more often. Its hard to accomplish anything when everyone makes you feel like you accomplished nothing. This would be known as a trigger/cue. You need as little cues and triggers as possible and strategies to deal with the ones you can't avoid. The problem you speak of is a very common one. IMO, there is no need for this, but if it cannot be fixed, then you must develope a strategy. Another very common trigger is cash or payday. A person needs to develope a strategy for this because there is just no way to stay away from money.

Normally though, the problem your having is easily solved. You need to tell these people that you need a positivesupport group, and anyone who does not support you, is not a friend, and must be cut out of your life. Tell them if they arn't going to be supportive, then you no longer wish that. We think of ouy past mistakes enough, we dont need to be fucking reminded of shit we already know........tell them this. My guess is they will change. I really think a consolor would do you well....
 
id come clean with them and let them know you are on mmt. also explain what the drug does and how it effectively helps you live a sober life. the more info they know the less they can accuse you. also and stated earlier let them know your boundaries. i thought the above post was spot on for the boundaries issie. everyone needs them and bring that to there attention that the laco of there boundaries for you really makes you miserable
 
It's a tough situation and I feel for you. My mom just recently found some needles and confronted me on it. I admitted I've used a few times, but wasn't dependent. She told me I have to goto meetings, rehab, or move out. I really want to move out, but at this time it's not really achievable but hopefully by the end of the summer.

I really hate meetings and rehab is out the question so idk what to do. Now she's like maybe you never stop using blah blah. I'm like okay whatever I'm a grown man and I support my family just fine as well as being able to work when I had a job. There's no reason I can't function using opiates, but I know it destroys lives and whatnot I just don't think I'm ready to quit.

Although I've tried so many times and suboxone is a big help, I just can't stop long enough. Anyways good look with your family. I would say just tell them, but idk how they are. At least my mom is knowledable about addiction so she tries to help.
 
fm1983 said:
It would probably be in your best intrest to let them know you are on methadone. Most people who are ignorant to drugs know little about the ones in question. Gather literature, educate them, and let them know how MMT has changed your life (for the better).
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I think that's a great answer. You really 'should' let them know you are using methadone and WHY. Tell them a little about what's going on in your life, your history (you don't have to say everything - just enough) and where you are at now. Show them some articles or research, anything to give them a little push in the direction of 'acceptance' and even better 'encouragement'.

I hope things start to look up for you, and that your family comes to understand your situation. Let us know how things go with this.
 
I stopped giving a shit. My family can think what they like.

Seems to be working well.
 
fm1983 said:
It would probably be in your best intrest to let them know you are on methadone. Most people who are ignorant to drugs know little about the ones in question. Gather literature, educate them, and let them know how MMT has changed your life (for the better).
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That's a good answer, talk to your father and the people most important to you. Your coworkers will catch on quickly and if they don't you should pull aside the ones your closest with and talk to them on an individual basis. Tell them the situation, tell them it hurts your feelings etc.
 
man... i was raised by my conservative, right-wing grandparents who raised children through the sixties AND seventies, so it was 4804367438678x more difficult to get away with being high... i only smoked pot at the time.

i never smoked at home when they were there. when i'd come home high, id' usually just run to the bathroom immediately and take a shower. that dealt with it.

...or i'd just not go home until i knew they were in bed. whatever works.
 
i found out my sister asked her friend instead of me to watch her house while she went away because she figured i would smoke inside the house. like holy shit i dont have enough respect for my own sister to not smoke in her house if she asked me? the irony is that i found this out from the friend she asked while i was blazing with her.

OP i feel your pain man. its funny they say they care about you, but they look at you like your a complete loser, a failure and a fuckup who desperately needs help.
 
Mafioso said:
i found out my sister asked her friend instead of me to watch her house while she went away because she figured i would smoke inside the house. .
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On a side note...i hate people not wanting you to smoke weed in their house... cigarrettes I understand because cigarrettes will smell up a room for days. But a couple bowl packs isn't going to make the whole house reek...
 
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