i did some real bad stuff to support my habit lately , and i prob could get away with it but the guilts eating me up since its something to do with my family , if i tell em i did it its gonna kill em, if i dont they prob wont know but i cant let go of feeling bad bout it then using again and the cycle goes on and more money is gone every day ,
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how do you deal with guilt eating you up when you may be makin it worse coming clean
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Captain.Heroin
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What'd you do?
Guilt isn't a productive emotion. However, it's important to keep in mind that the way you treat others is going to reflect upon how people will treat you.
Guilt isn't a productive emotion. However, it's important to keep in mind that the way you treat others is going to reflect upon how people will treat you.
LilbabiC
Bluelighter
This is how I deal with guilt. I come clean with the people I've hurt. I say that I am sorry. Then if possible I fix whatever I did. If I can't fix it or any part of it then I release myself from the quilt by never repeating the action.
herbavore
Bluelight Crew
You have to take care of the larger problem first--the addiction that set you up to do this in the first place. You have another thread about how tired you are of the endless cycle of relapsing. You have to try something new, or everything you have ever tried before plus something new. It is possible. It is possible as long as you are alive, no matter how bad it gets.
It's a hard road for your family. On the one hand they will never give up on you, on the other hand they will have to set boundaries to protect themselves, and so that may look like they are giving up on you. I am assuming that what you did is some kind of stealing. I think that if you made a sincere effort to get the help and support you need to try to get sober that you could put off telling them until you were in a better position to pay them back.
You could try not to use the pain that comes from your guilt as an excuse to use though. It is, as you said, a self-perpetuating cycle. You'll need a lot of courage to face being uncomfortable with what you've done that you regret. Learning to have that feeling and learn from it rather than running is part of breaking the cycle.
It's a hard road for your family. On the one hand they will never give up on you, on the other hand they will have to set boundaries to protect themselves, and so that may look like they are giving up on you. I am assuming that what you did is some kind of stealing. I think that if you made a sincere effort to get the help and support you need to try to get sober that you could put off telling them until you were in a better position to pay them back.
You could try not to use the pain that comes from your guilt as an excuse to use though. It is, as you said, a self-perpetuating cycle. You'll need a lot of courage to face being uncomfortable with what you've done that you regret. Learning to have that feeling and learn from it rather than running is part of breaking the cycle.