How do you approach someone you don't know?

[EyesSizeOfTheMoon]

Okay so there is this guy that goes to the same college as I do and I always see him get off the subway stop with me to go and to come back from there. I haven't been able to stop thinking about him oh, my god! He is like the most beautiful/handsomest guy I've ever seen and on top of that he is ALWAYS reading his book when waiting for the bus or the subway train..which I find even more sexy lol. Anyways I can't really tell, but for some reason I have this weird inkling that he might be giving me looks as well. I'm kind of shy and I don't want to approach him and find out hes not into me or anything so idk what to do. Any experts have any advice on how to do it? What should I say?

 

[hearty_opi]

This one's quite simple since you already have a foot in the door. A trifecta really. You both ride the same subway, go to the same college and to top it off you think he is possibly interested too or has at least noticed you. Perfect. Ask him what he's studying at school, become interested in this book he's always reading and strike up a conversation about it. You have many angles. Good luck!

 

[Mugz]

accidentally(on purpose) spill a drink(not a hot one) on him as you get on the subway, apologise and then you have an instant route to conversation 8)

It works in films and tv

 

[Bearlove]

You know his timetable - arrange it that your both walking into the station together. Make sure that you walk very close to him upon entering the station or train (rummage in your bag,fiddle with your phone etc - Look up give a quick 'surprised' hi or smile and gauge his reaction.

 

[hearty_opi]

lol @ mugz. I'm with u buddy... go spill a glass of red kool-aid on his nice white polo shirt n see where it goes from there. Gets 'em every time

 

[Psyduck]

if you know he's reading a book, check out the book-title, and google a summary of the book at home

next day: "hi, I see you are reading this book, I also read it and liked it" (please check before if the book is not retarded also no spoilers, say you read it a while ago, so you don't need to know all the details).

if you are shy, that's no problem, if you are nervous and he notices this, he will know you are interested (because you are just not starting a neutral conversation), so that will only be to your advantage I would find it awesome if some girl or women I don't know would start talking to me and blush.

in general, from the many (many many!) doubts I had approaching other people... none of the attempts I regret. I don't think one conversation was a waste. Maybe you get along, maybe not. Starting a nice conversations is never a waste.

Of course, advice of other people on an internetforum will never create your own will-power to actually do it, this you have to do for yourself. But you can trust my advice that you wont regret it.

Good luck


edit: also, don't overthink this situation, don't plan too much in advance (i.e. like everything you are going to say), just think about one line or topic to start the conversation, the rest of the conversation will follow and will 99% not be how you planned it. You can't plan these things in advance. The worst thing you can do if you want to have a nice talk is to plan everything you are going to say.

 

[llama112]

The book is a pretty easy way to talk to him!
"Hey, what are you reading?"
that kinda thing

 

[Tude]

The book is a pretty easy way to talk to him!
"Hey, what are you reading?"
that kinda thing

This.