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How Do You Achieve Happiness

HarrytheHead said:
What makes you happy in your life?
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Building things, appreciating the arts, watching an inspiring movie or playing games with friends and family (ie winning), being looked up to, studying, discovering new recipes and music, even bad recipes and music. Blowing things up, cleaning. Anything that breaks the mold I guess.

These feelings seem more possible by throwing off social anxiety and valuing yourself, ie staying healthy.

HarrytheHead said:
What makes you sad?
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Realizing you finally screwed up enough that you cannot change it. Failing other people. Letting stupid anxiety driven things like staying up late or getting to work late lead to not studying and avoiding people. Letting yourself down. Headaches and anger.

Blaming moods instead of actions that causes moods. That compounds it all and creates irritable moods. I get into irritable moods when I am either tired or hungry.

Bad moods seem more common than good moods. I would consider the highs much higher than the lows are lower, meaning an average day is a little on the depressive side of things. Resting from exercise seems to put me in a non-mood, ie better than average.
 
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jude101 said:
Not obessing mentally about whether or not I am happy, and just being who I am seems to be the medicine for me,
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This is actually a pretty good answer specially the part where it says "not obsessing about whether or not I am happy." The more we think of it too much the more it's going to stress us out when we can find happiness in simple things.
 
If I want to be nitpicky...
To me, 'happiness' would be a state either where all desires have been fulfilled, or all eliminated. That being said, I don't actually believe either are actual possibilities and I would describe any lengthy condition of satisfaction with your existence as 'contentment' rather than 'happiness'. 'Happiness' would rather be something to strive for but never necessarily to achieve (which is a bit contradictory seeing as there would then be an essential and unanswerable desire); that or a temporary (by which I mean a few seconds/minutes/hours maximum) state where again, there is no longing or desire for anything you do not have.

Or feel free to ignore all that :D my way of achieving contentment (happiness) is by developing and (hopefully) bettering myself.
 
drugs, clothes, new haircuts, buying things, having new things, wearing nice outfits

But those are fleeting. Lasting happiness is bullshit.

Not a lot makes me sad, just relationships in general, but life as a whole seems to make me very mehhh



EDIT: ^I can't relate to that. I wouldn't be able to think of anyone.
 
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Sad when I read comments that are so one sided, ie, in the MMJ forum it makes me question the species I'm related to; yet I know, I know, there is goodness all around but there's also some really close minded individuals that spout 'garbage'. Are they just doing the best they can for what they've got going on in that moment?, perhaps. Or maybe their just the way they are and I shouldn't let it bother me.
Happiness?, well that comes every day when I wake up, goes without saying. Happiness comes when I read wonderful stories or see how strangers offer out their help to others via sites like this one.
 
One may "achieve happiness" (through this experience called life) in various ways; the way in which I choose to "achieve" my "happiness" (currently) is by remaining virtuous
 
Been off of heroin for 6 months for the first time since the summer of 2003, and in these 6 months I've been happier and have been living a more rich, meaningful, engaged existence.

Happiness, for me, has been the product of analyzing why I do the things I tend to do, why I think the way I tend to think.. And trying to be more mindful about what I spend my time thinking about and doing. Trying to be more engaged with what's going on in my head, being more responsible for my own mindstate and behavior patterns, and trying to change them so as to make my daily life easier to live, and minimize the amount of pain and suffering I inflict on those around me.
 
AngelsVersusAliens said:
Happiness, for me, has been the product of analyzing why I do the things I tend to do, why I think the way I tend to think.. And trying to be more mindful about what I spend my time thinking about and doing. Trying to be more engaged with what's going on in my head, being more responsible for my own mindstate and behavior patterns, and trying to change them so as to make my daily life easier to live, and minimize the amount of pain and suffering I inflict on those around me.
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^That right there is how I've been spending the past 6 months, too. Only, I've been taking DXM to get there, and it has helped tremendously. (Please don't follow my poor example of taking such a heavy drug as often as I have been, people.) I recognize the need to learn from DXM and move on; I can't spend the rest of my life worrying about running out of a chemical.

I think I will truly be happy when everyone else is happy as well. Not gonna happen in this lifetime, but if the soul is eternal, I'll live to see that day.

Take care everyone!

<3,

exists
 
"Happiness is the frequent repetition of pleasure" -- Arthur Schopenhauer
"Lower expectations mean more happiness" -- Buddhist though

I think there's a bit of truth to both of these ideas.
 
p.s. you achieve happiness by choosing to be happy
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it should be mentioned that this doesn't work for people who have depression

that's Depression
not related to when people say "i'm depressed" because they're having a bad month

tormenting depression that equates to never-ending torture and with each passing second makes the fires of hell look like a worthy alternative

but in other cases, yes. the mindset you choose to have may be the best tool available
 
vegan said:
it should be mentioned that this doesn't work for people who have depression

that's Depression
not related to when people say "i'm depressed" because they're having a bad month
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i would have hoped, given the context, that went without saying.

but, if it did not, what vegan said.

alasdair
 
What ugly wrote and junegreenjeans response made me happy and the many little things I might come across in the day that make me want to tear up because I see some good in the world. The sad things are too numerous and I don't want to list them because I would rather not even bring them up. Sadness is plentiful and I find no need to spread it. Happiness, I want to fill my world with happiness. I hope that doesn't stick in anybody's head as it did mine.lol
 
From my own personal experience, what contributes most to happiness for me, is twofold. I have limited my social interactions to those that are positive, and have been lucky enough to find someone that I enjoy spending life with. On the other hand, working on something that is extremely challenging, interesting, requires almost endless study, and leads to a greater understanding of certain aspects of reality has pushed myself to manage my expectations of what happiness really is. I am the type of person that is only happy when I am working towards something.

Do not expect for there to be a type of homogeneous process involved in your own search for happiness. It may require some difficulties for extended periods of time, and may be tedious; but there is a certain point in self-development where you have benefited from your past efforts with respect to a deeper insight into how happiness is kindled. It seems to me, that one cannot experience happiness in the absence of innocence without having a deep understanding of how one mitigates suffering without trying to escape from it.
 
Finding a gentlemen naturally and spending a good life with him.

Morning Ashtanga Vinyasa session to limber ye ol bones and clear out the many cobwebs so the body can move better....

Getting a grip on the anger management issue that still from time to time rears its ugly head.

That wonderful bowl of green stuff that always calms me back to human......
 
a3m said:
"Happiness is the frequent repetition of pleasure" -- Arthur Schopenhauer
"Lower expectations mean more happiness" -- Buddhist though

I think there's a bit of truth to both of these ideas.
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I agree, but "lower expectations" connotes a dark humor, don't you think?
How about, be thankful for the small things.
 
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