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How do i get my son to stop snorting heroin

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Aparentwhosuffered

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My son is 24 years old. I found at least 200 tiny baggies in his room stuffed in one place. When I confronted him he said they were old back in his rehab days and I accepted that answer. Then I found a few more under his pillow and bureau. I assume its heroin but not sure what comes in tiny baggies. He can't do cocaine or Amphetamines because he is seizure prone with 3 seizures in the past. He won't admit he has a problem and doesn't want help. He never eats and he had a flu the other day but he was slurring. He's always coughing stomach aches...etc. I get so mad when I talk to ex drug addicts and they are clean and I think why can't my son do this? I don't know what to do I feel he will die but he won't admit his problem. What other drugs besides heroin come in baggies? His choice of drug is opiates.
 
Hey,

I don't know too much about H but literally anything could come in a baggie.

I get so mad when I talk to ex drug addicts and they are clean and I think why can't my son do this?
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Getting mad really is not the way to go. Getting addicted to a drug is not a choice, if you were predisposed to addiction and tried a drug that 'clicked' You yourself would be an addict, try and realise that when speaking to him about it.

The best thing you can possibly do is explain to him how you feel and that you want to help him. Getting mad will just result in him lying to you.

Drug ID threads are not aloud, and in this case there is no point in speculating on what could or could not have been in the baggie.
 
Whether your kid is doing heroin or not...(if he has a history with it, then he probably is..) YOU can't get him to stop using.. nobody can.. Until he knows deep down that he's done.. until he's ready to really stop for his own reasons because HE doesn't like how his life is.. than theres nothing you can do. I know it's not what you want to hear..you feel helpless. Sure you could force him to go to detox, to rehab, to whatever.. but if he's not ready.. if he doesn't really want it.. he'll just relapse again.
 
It's heroin for sure.

Parent's role is always the worst when it comes to addiction. But you should know that there is not much you or anyone else could do, since he is kind of in love with the drug. He has to truly face the downside before he can develop a true will to change it, only then will your actions matter. It seems he is still either in denial or not honest with you telling you there is no problem, heroin will be a major problem for the vast majority who get involved with it. Every "ex-addict" has been in the position where your son is right now, it does not indicate that things will never change.

I would not get too emotional or judging with your son, in fact you should step little bit farther as hard it might be. Being an addict is like being deeply in love with a person that nobody accepts, that's the best way I could describe it to a person who hasn't experienced it. That is the reason it is so difficult to lay behind, and if you become too aggressive your son might feel that you are forcing yourself between him and the heroin, which is a though spot for him and can result in a disaster. You just have to trust that your son has enough power to some day leave it behind, that is all you can do, unfortunately. I hope everything will turn out better in the long run for you and your son.
 
The best thing you can do is to withhold judgement, show unconditional love, and be honest about your feelings. I would guess that your son needs more time before he realizes that Heroin is a mistake. Just give him the time he needs and show him love and support!
 
If i were you i would try to keep him from injecting it. another main concern with heroin is that he might be getting cheap or dirty stuff. but really only the user can quit.
 
I was forced to rehab by my parents when I was 23. I was there and stayed clean for two years so its possible to achieve something trough forcing but as above posters have said I wouldn't suggest it either. It isn't very long lasting option usually. I missed whole time drugs and now I've fallen even deeper with them than I was before. I think addicts needs to go against personall wall in the bottom before is willing to stop and now I'm heading towards it and I have gained my own motivation to stop. Try to offer information and harm reduction without forcing maybe that is best option.
 
I wish you the best of luck first of all.

Your son needs to find something he can excel at in life. Help him find yhat anyway possible. The quicker the better. O nce he realizea he is worth something to others and himself sooner than later heroin will be less important. There is time for you. Do it now while he is yound. Dont downplay the issue. Patience and waiting this out is NOT an option. Once he starts injecting the tablea will turn far into heroins favor.

Lastly. I wish you good luck again.
 
he's 24.
could anyone make you do anything when you were 24?

you can always make sure he knows you love him.
tell him how you'll help him when he decides he needs help.

that's all a parent can do, unfortunately.
but it's more than alot of parents actually do..
also, unfortunately.

hang in there..and hope for the best.
any bluelighter who reads this will want the best-
for you and for your son.
<3
 
you can always make sure he knows you love him.
tell him how you'll help him when he decides he needs help
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EXACTLY. Really good idea. Well put as well.
 
Judging from what you just Posted. I would say your son is doing Heroin again Relapsing is like a bitch is the best way to put it bluntly lol. If you want him to Quit DO NOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT even confronting him IMO at least. Like people say everyone has to decide when they want to quit on there own. If he wants your help I am sure he will come to you when he is ready to quit. Like some people just need it whether it be physical or emotional pain etc etc they will not quit and it may or may not be for the best but it is what it is. Basically what I am trying to say is if he is using it for fun he will get bored eventually and stop or when he gets over what ever he is self-medicating in my personal experience and knowledge this is the information I have to offer.
 
I know you must feel helpless. It's shocking for someone in the position you're in and very scary, I imagine. But, as horrible as it seems to you, to the person using, it's just another day at the office. There's some people who are of the mind thst you should do everything in your power to force the addict to stop using, whether it's getting them busted, having them commited to the psych ward on a bogus claim, etc. I'm still on shaky ground with my mother for doing these types of things to me, but I'm beginning to understand why she did it, although I stronly disagree with it.

Like everyone else in this thread has said, you can't make anyone stop. The most you can do is frequently check on them to make sure they're okay and maybe honestly express your concern. Suboxone and Methadone are also a safer alternative to using heroin. Maybe you could offer to help pay for something like that. It's not perfect, but it's a good alternative for someone having difficulty stopping opiates.
 
I don't know how old your son is, but if he's over 18 the best thing you can do is distance yourself and take care of YOU and let him take care of himself. That probably means refusing to let him live with you if he won't own up to what he's doing.

Here's the thing about addicts: we don't care if we're hurting you because we're high. You can't let us push you around or it's never going to stop. The important thing is to make sure you do things in a loving way. If you, say, call the cops on him and show the cops his stash without ever having a conversation with your son, he's not going to learn the lesson. It might be necessary to call the cops at some point after you set boundaries and he refuses to honor them so you can't be afraid to go that far, but always make sure your son knows why you're doing what you do: because you care about him.
 
Whatever you do the most important thing is to remain on his side. Offer as much support as you can, maybe go to NA meetings together or something so you can understand more about addiction.

Your his father, and drug addiction is a serious disease, I guarantee you that if his family abandons him or turns their noses up on him as if he's not worth your time or effort to try and understand what he's going through, he will just use more and more.

Stay on his side, support him, he's your son. Don't enable his addiction, but don't completely shut him out of your life, remember that society gets just as "mad" thinking about people who abandon their drug addicted kids rather than man up and be a father, helping as much as possible.

Your son may not be ready to quit, only he decides when it's time to quit, but you can certainly be there encouraging him in the right direction. He may need to spend some time getting professional help, he may not. He may need to go on opiate replacement therapy (ORT) for a while, either buprenorphine (Suboxone/Subutex) or methadone. This will help him slowly taper off the drugs without having to experience the violent withdrawal symptoms which are the driving factor to most addicts relapse. Your son gets "flu" like symptoms when he's out of drugs, and he can avoid all that by slowly decreasing his dose in a professional doctor supervised environment, to make it relatively painless.

Don't give up on him.
 
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