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How come i can't last more than a minute ever??

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Trying2Iso

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im not sexually active but i masturbate and i can never last more than a minute, it's usually more like 30 seconds.
Ive tried slowing down, watching porn for a while first and it never works, as soon as i start im done basically
and I havent had a good orgasm in a long time just shitty ones
I think it might be my Abilify doing it to me but that doesn't explain it completely.
 
Go 10-15 seconds then stop. Go do something else for a while then come back. 10 more seconds. etc. Train yourself not to finish for longer and longer times.
 
Trying2Iso said:
im not sexually active but i masturbate and i can never last more than a minute, it's usually more like 30 seconds.
Ive tried slowing down, watching porn for a while first and it never works, as soon as i start im done basically
and I havent had a good orgasm in a long time just shitty ones
I think it might be my Abilify doing it to me but that doesn't explain it completely.
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What happens if you masturbate multiple times a day, and you get to the third or fourth time. Does the third or fourth time masturbating last only 30 seconds to?
 
I know I can control my orgasm by not thinking of anything. If I get too excited, I'll mentally think of nothing stimulating. I can pretty much last as long as I want.

Don't feel bad. When I was 17 and had sex for the first time with my gf, I didn't last long either. With more experience, I learned how to control it... There is hope for you. It gets a lot better with age.
 
Practice strengthening your ischiocarvernosis muscle. Pretend you're peeing and want to stop it mid-stream. Do reps of 10 throughout the day. It's the same muscle that you use to bust nuts.
 
Do it a like six times in a row.. or how ever many times it takes to produce the experience you want. You may also consider doing it more often until this improves. Also abilify may be the cause.. if you are a man are you getting premature ejaculation, its when you ejaculate really easy but with little or no refractory period for the orgasm? i
 
it's really mindset, imo. If you don't think about it, you will last longer.

I've never had a problem with premature ejaculation in my life, but my X and I broke up, and after a few months we started hooking up again. I could fuck her for 10-15 minutes without a problem. Right when we started hooking up again, I had so much anxiety, and no confidence in myself. I was trying way too hard to please her, and I would stick it in and cum with 1 stroke. I did everything. I would smoke, drink, snort some blow, anything to try and last. I read an internet article, and it basically said, have confidence, you can't give a shit and over-think it. The next time I went in very lax about it, and fucked the bajeesus out of her. I know masturbation is obviously different than sex, but try not tot hink about it so much,
 
pokepoke420 said:
it's really mindset, imo.
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This^

OP, I know you mentioned that you're not sexually active, but it sounds like you're getting too excited. Get to know your penis well, and practice skirting your orgasm threshold without ejaculating. Don't worry, this can take years to master, I'm 25 and still improving.

Sex is very psychological. When it comes to having sex with a partner, you'll need to concentrate on slowly building up the sexual tension through prolonged foreplay, make sure you have control over physical stimulation (the penis thrusting). It's all the mind, trust me. If it becomes a real problem, 'premature ejaculation' is the name of the disorder you need to research, I believe there are drug treatments for it but those should be unnecessary in most cases as far as I'm aware. Good luck.
 
Sex happens more in the mind than anywhere else. As said already it's about the mindset. Spend more time focusing on the rest of your body and relaxing into the experience instead of just making the orgasm the focus (and the focus of your issue).. I mean what ever you imagine in your head that gets you off, try not to focus on that so much and instead build a more whole experience for yourself.

I find I can last for a long time in both masturbation and sex by immersing in the whole experience instead of trying to catch/be caught by whatever it is in my mind that turns me on the most.
 
Masturbation shouldn't just be about the orgasm. Try massaging your shoulders first, work your way down to the nipples, and don't just move on - spend some time there. Go to the mirror and look deep into your eyes, talk to yourself.

Seriously... review the side-effects for any meds/drugs that you are ingesting, and (in terms of physical/mental stimulation) - practice varying the intensity and concentration.
 
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