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how can i get my boyfriend to smoke with me?

boyfriend is a stoner but doesnt want to be high around you? id take that as a compliment. doesnt want to fuck up your relationship.
 
Care said:
boyfriend is a stoner but doesnt want to be high around you? id take that as a compliment. doesnt want to fuck up your relationship.
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uh... what? lol since when did cannabis fuck up relationships?

OP... dont take offense or sweat the fact he doesnt wana smoke with you, some people just arent comfortable smoking with people they're close to. No big deal.
 
Well if he really loves you then he probably just wants a sober relationship.
Drugs can screw up a relationship as much as sex can. Alot of relationships fall apart when people have sex because it becomes a given and there's alot less time spent towards talking and more on just physical interaction. Same with drugs, he probably thinks that if you smoke up with him once then it will become a constant and you guys will never really be friends sober.
Or it could be something entirely, your best bet is to just ask him why he does not want to and respect his opinion. If he does not want to do drugs with you then so be it.
 
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It is (or can be at least), I love to smoke with a stoner girl I <3
 
well ive seen him drunk a few times. he's 19 too for whoever was asking.

idk i like the ideas of the whole relationship becoming centered around drugs. thats probably another factor besides what i've quoted in posts on the last page. i drink a lot and used to do loads of drugs and he hated it and ive stayed away from coke, ecstasy, and pills basically because of him. i wouldnt have been able to do it without him behind me and telling me that he's not gunna stand for that shit...so hes probably worried that if he like gives me an inch ill take a mile ya know what i mean.

along with him being selfconcious and uncomfortable around people when he's high.

i really appreciate all the feedback, i wouldn't have thought about a lot of this shit on my own and am like just gunna drop the issue cause we have basically a perfect relationship now, there's no reason to be so adamant about adding someting like this to it, otherwise he'll end up thinking im unsatisfied with it or something.
 
Tell him you realize your past and are past it because of him, make sure you center quitting around how supportive he is and how much better he makes your life. then tell him you understand drugs can fuck people up, but you can handle pot without wanting something better and you want to experience all facets of his personality and want another way to bond with him.

I had the exact same situation as you except backwards and after a couple months of me being clean etc she gave in and is way more open to it now that she's seen I won't slip because of some herb.
 
marissaaaaaa said:
we have crazy good sex sober and we both know that if we smoked we probably wouldn't even want to haha. that shit only works on like 12 year olds.
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very untrue. i get crazy horny and sex feels 10x better when i'm stoned. and my boyfriend agrees. no 12 year olds here, i'm 22 and he's 25. :P
 
what i was saying was that trying to convince someone to smoke with you because it will make you horny is juvenile.

i'm sure plenty of people do and love it, but i'm saying that using that for a reason for him to smoke with me is absolutely ridiculous.
 
marissaaaaaa said:
what i was saying was that trying to convince someone to smoke with you because it will make you horny is juvenile.

i'm sure plenty of people do and love it, but i'm saying that using that for a reason for him to smoke with me is absolutely ridiculous.
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ooooh, i gotcha :)

i wouldn't see it as using good sex for a reason to have him smoke with you, more like an added benefit. i guess he's just not ready. i find it very strange though. i could understand if he never smoked, but if he has it all the time then i don't get what he's so afraid of... i think you need to somehow find a way to smoke with him, just to show him it's a good thing. it's almost as if he thinks he's gonna act too weird and you won't like him anymore or something? wish i could help. good luck.
 
eckley47 said:
i find it very strange though. i could understand if he never smoked, but if he has it all the time then i don't get what he's so afraid of.. it's almost as if he thinks he's gonna act too weird and you won't like him anymore or something? wish i could help. good luck.
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yeah me too.
like a bunch of us were at his house and my best friend told me she heard him say to something "if you wanna smoke now i have a joint" and i was so surprised.
and last weekend i was sleeping over his house and it was about 1230 at night and i was texting her and i was like "oOoOo he lit a fresh mountain morning candle haha" and we were just talking and she was like "TELL HIM TO BLAZE WITH YOU NOW!! you need to have this sensual stoned situation" and i was showing him all the texts we were sending cause they were funny and when i showed him this one i was like "haha we couldn't even do that if we wanted"
and he goes "i have weed on me" and i was like "WHAT?!?!?!" and he was like "yeah i always have weed on me"
and i just kinda gave him this look and was like "...well?"

and he started laughing a bit and was like "hahahah nooooo way never."
and i asked why and he was like "it's not gunna happen. i don't like smoking with people and i know i'll get all weird and i don't wanna be like that around you"
and i made it apparent i was kinda upset about it without being a bitch. and then he fell asleep....

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i think its probably more a matter of that he likes where the relationship is now and doesnt wanna taint it/turn out his GF to a pot head. It could also be that he enjoys his weed in a certain set and settign and doesnt wanna bring you into that. For example i love to go fishing, smoke a joint and just chill in silence listening to the sounds of nature. I enjoy my wife's company to the fullest but sometimes i don't wanna hear her talking when I'm trying to get down to the sounds around me.
 
if he's not a smoker + has a bad set (it will be weird) he will get anxious and it will be awkward for both of you,

edit: didn't read whole thread, he is a smoker apparently, but bad set could still fuck things up as i personally find weed is a psychedelic and standard rules (good set and setting) apply.
 
I don't know what's wrong with your boy friend, I smoke up everyday with my girlfriend. I'd rather smoke with her then any of my guy friends, but then again we both were hardcore stoners friends before we started dating.
 
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