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How are you in one word vs. feelin' the feels

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OVERWHELMED!!!!!

I'm on the phone with a friend who's trying to convince me to quit my job tomorrow morning (err this morning, in 4 hours actually) in order to make a 6am meeting because "you have to be willing to do ANYTHING to stay sober" and though there's so much merit to his words I can't cope with the idea of quitting my only source of income. I didn't get on the phone 4 hours ago thinking I'd be changing my whole life in only a couple hours nd I absolutely don't know what to do right now :\ :(

Oh my gooooood. What to do! 8(
 
Vaya said:
Oh my gooooood. What to do! 8(
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I understand the will to get sober should be a priority, but quitting a paying job (your only means of income atm, and probably a good way of occupying your time) for a meeting seems a little excessive to me.

Points to consider:
- What are the benefits of the meeting over work?
- Are you confident in your ability to find new work?
- It may be a shit job, but how would you feel if you didn't have it to occupy your time?
 
I was freakin', but it appears everything turned out ok; I really needed that meeting.
But whether or not to try and call off last-minute work was really, really difficult :\
Thanks for the guiding questions :) They helped!!
 
Glad you made it to a meeting today Vaya.

I'm feeling a bit gloomy but also anticipative for the coming days =D

Spork, excitement :3, sounds.. exciting!
 
Vaya, I'm glad everything has worked out. 23 meetings in 23 days for me have done both good and bad for my sanity. Though new to sobriety, I would balk at a demand to attend a meeting rather than attending to making a living. My sponsor gave me the kind advice that if I could not make a meeting because of work, to attend an online one, to call her or another person in recovery that I trust, to journal, and to read 1-164 of the Big Book and chapters 1-3 of 12 x 12 for as many times as it takes. I do not believe it to be fair to ask a person in sobriety to give up their opportunity to make an honest living. It is important for those of us in recovery to support ourselves financially as well as spiritually. Losing financial control is rightfully terrifying.

Right now, I feel nervous. My housemate is in bad financial trouble. My responsibility is only a flat fee in rent, but it has worked out to me bailing her out of negative financial situations. The most recent was paying a water bill after it had been turned off. Before that, it was the electricity. My housemate is a compulsive shopper and we have divergent ideas on responsible financial management. I am pleased to be on the hunt for a small apartment all on my own - let's hope it doesn't come with bedbugs, black mold or a verbally abusive landlady (these things have all happened to me). I can't wait to be able to afford to buy a house. I have so had it with renting.
 
Vaya said:
OVERWHELMED!!!!!

I'm on the phone with a friend who's trying to convince me to quit my job tomorrow morning (err this morning, in 4 hours actually) in order to make a 6am meeting because "you have to be willing to do ANYTHING to stay sober" and though there's so much merit to his words I can't cope with the idea of quitting my only source of income. I didn't get on the phone 4 hours ago thinking I'd be changing my whole life in only a couple hours nd I absolutely don't know what to do right now :\ :(

Oh my gooooood. What to do! 8(
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loose the crazy person and focus on a recovery that will work.

relaxed
 
^ Ughh I hate headaches, I usually drink a cup of coffee for em'. Feel better.


It doesn't settle well with me to be upset on my birthday today. But my mom is trashed fucking up a lot of shit for me acting like an asshole {never fails}
 
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