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Hostile women

hahaha. well. i don't know about all that bullshit you just posted. some other people seemed to given you nice advice.

i am 'hostile' in that i have been through so much shit that i just start from standoffish and looking mean and go from there. it takes a certain kind of person to look beyond that and maybe that isn't a bad thing. it's certainly not a great thing for life though, generally speaking.
 
I am also in a new area and find that I get all kinds of crazy reactions from girls to my various behaviors. I made a thread about it about a week ago on a similar topic but I didn't really mention the aspect of coming from another area. It seems to me that there are a lot of expectations of the other gender that come from being raised in a certain location and in a certain age group. As an outsider, it is easy to send different vibes than you intend and these can get all kinds of interesting reactions.

Talking about myself, I have a lot of girls in my social networks that on the surface seem very interested in me, and sometimes even make it known that they are interested in me by telling their friends (...and then word gets around, etc.) However, there is some expectation of me that I am failing at with most of these girls, because things tend to fall apart quickly once I engage them. I honestly don't know what exactly it is I am doing that is sending such a bad signal to these girls, but I think it has something to do with me being raised in the South but now living in New England. The attitude towards sex and relationships is radically different than what I grew up around, and I think when I talk to these girls, I am engaging in a set of expected behaviors that is understood in the South, but is not understood in New England.

It seems to me that this miscommunication happens less outside of my direct age group. Women older and younger, by virtue of growing up in generations older or younger, do not have the same expectations of what is a proper way to approach someone, etc. I feel that they tend to pinpoint first of all whether or not I am clearly making myself interested in them, and if they determine that I am making it clear that I am into them, they are much more inclined to go with whatever approach I happen to take when talking to them. They don't seem as likely to be weirded out that I'm moving things to quickly or too slowly, or suggested an activity where an activity typically isn't suggested, or whatever else I could possibly do that isn't exactly adhering to what girls my age have grown to expect.


Going back to your situation, I'd say that you're probably giving off mixed signals and have to figure out how to play your cards better in your new area. Look closely at your general demeanor and see how people (especially girls) respond to it. As you spend more time in your area, I'm sure you'll gain status in your community and with that comes a new set of behaviors. You'll in time start acting more like a person that has lived in your area for awhile, and will understand some of the nuances that you don't currently understand.
 
Women KNOW you're peering at them creepily mustering up the courage to say something.

Misogyny is taboo, but misandry is kosher, huh?

(I should mention that Google Chrome's spellchecker is telling me that misandry isn't a word, but recognizes misogyny...)
 
When you stare at a women and creep towards them every 15 seconds it becomes CREEPY and makes the woman uncomfortable, so therefore, don't do it. You'll get that standoffish vibe from women when you eventually DO make a move because now you're just a creepy man and they don't want to get involved. Be confident, approach without second guessing yourself, and you'll find yourself with much better relationships with women.
 
When you stare at a women and creep towards them every 15 seconds it becomes CREEPY and makes the woman uncomfortable, so therefore, don't do it. You'll get that standoffish vibe from women when you eventually DO make a move because now you're just a creepy man and they don't want to get involved. Be confident, approach without second guessing yourself, and you'll find yourself with much better relationships with women.

^ 3-second rule. No-brainer.
Just get a bit of wealth and social standing and you don't have to worry about stupid rules like this. I feel that perceived status is the true decider between what is creepy and what is flattering, so long as a bit of tact is exercised.
 
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^Depends what the woman's looking for, but more often than not I'd bet it's more about looks than wealth or social standing. Honestly I'm kind of embarrassed to say this but if an unattractive guy is staring at me, I'll label him as creepy straight off the bat, whereas if he's attractive I'm just flattered. I know it's kinda terrible but it's a bit of a subconscious reflex :\

So the best bet in any case is to not wait around too long, just go up to her and be confident. You don't have to look like Johnny Depp to be funny or charming, but she'll only know that if you speak to her.
3-second rule is good.
 
Two of those women were actually flirting with you it seems like, and studio girl wanted you to take off them draws...

The last one was creepy as shit... Smooth move bro...

*snip*

You should really learn between hostility and immaturity. Those women are immature.
 
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Girls like the passive aggressive. They like you to have to guess why they're upset, so if you don't notice, or think its for a different reason, they have an excuse to be even angrier.

It's just their way. Learn to play the game better than them.
 
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