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alright guys, gonna get fuckin sappy for a minute, my apologies. ;)

so i work at this place, and theirs a waitress that works downstairs..
ive known her for 8 months give or take, and we've gotten close while were at work.
whenever im working, she's always touching me somehow, or rubbing up against me, or hitting me..
seems like she likes me?
So i started going in 4 hours ahead of my shift, and wed just talk..have a few drinks, get food together..and talk. Were always laughing together.
Shes had some problems at home, but when were together she seems so happy. im so happy. shed look me dead in the eyes and i just look back. minutes. shed always make me strong drinks saying "Im gonna get you so drunk" like friends do some of these things, but its deffinetely more there than bff shit..

She has a boyfriend, so i never tried anything, i have more class than that. But i think im in love. seriously..
does she like me or is she a tease? shed get especially touchy when it got later and more of the staff came in, grab me right in front of someone, touch me, rub up against me, almost to make sure the other waitresses saw it...i just dont fuckin know.
im getting all the normal signs, but shes taken, and im 17 shes 21.. i just dont get it..anything i could do? it seems almost dead end because of the boyfriend.

im not scared of him, id fight anybody, but im not gonna be that guy who does that..cause i know how id feel. also im afraid if i were to bring it up, she may be like woaaaah what? then i lose my best friend. she supports me through everything. rehab, to jail, to court, to getting kicked out. Shes there. im also their for her when things go bad at home. We just get each other, or at least thats how i see it.

just looking for advice more than anything. Anything. Maybe im reading into it, idk..

Thanks guys
 
I dunno man, shes always touching me rubbing me, getting me purposefully drunk, shes 21 im 17....
Her man ain't doing something right or she wants some young strange. I'm not gonna tell u to be a homewrecker but...
Ur 17 she's 21... You'll thank yourself later for taking her in the back lol

I just read the think I'm in love bit. Ehh whatever that's cool I dunno what you're waiting for shit. Everybody fucks everybody in the restaurant business anyways lol fuck it. You got a woman too or something???
 
SineWaveSoldier said:
Everybody fucks everybody in the restaurant business anyways lol fuck it.
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QFT.

Some women though are overly touchy-feely for no reason at all. Maybe she just gets off on the attention you're giving her. I wouldn't make any moves if I were you. Play it cool and you can always pretend you never had any thoughts about anything more, and when she inevitably breaks up with her bf you'll be there with a shoulder to cry on.
 
my advice is simple. If she has a boyfriend, you really should not get with her.

Not the typical "man" advice, but dude, dont dont DONT get sucked into a girl who would cheat on her boyfriend. If you got close with her, and she ended up being YOUR "significant other", imagine, wouldn't she ditch you for some random guy that SHE gets close to in the (near) future?

Just stick away.

If she ends up not being with that guy, then youre in the clear. Stay friends with her. wait for the moment. BUT, also dont put all your eggs into one basket. She doesnt seem like the "trustworthy" type. But if you dont mind this, than i guess it doesnt really matter lol...
 
lol sort of. on and off with some chick. and the love thing sounds fuckin gay ik.....but its weird.
And i see what you mean dude..i just quit the job i had with her for a better paying job so it fuckin sucks. ik i sound like a bad movie, but shes different. im used to chillin with the slutty strung out chicks, cause i use(d) drugs.

shes like classy haha and im not used to dealing with girls like that
 
b4rd said:
my advice is simple. If she has a boyfriend, you really should not get with her.

Not the typical "man" advice, but dude, dont dont DONT get sucked into a girl who would cheat on her boyfriend. If you got close with her, and she ended up being YOUR "significant other", imagine, wouldn't she ditch you for some random guy that SHE gets close to in the (near) future?

Just stick away.
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true dude...i just like her so much, like shes their for me more than my parents man. Its like she cares about me, which i doubt she actually does, but feeling that makes things different.

and true Re, maybe im just reading into it as something i want it to be, and not what it actually is..i can always try and catch rebound if the time comes
 
I feel you man. I have been cheated on by the girlfriend that i am CURRENTLY with. She cheated on me a month after we were dating, I was too serious for her. but not we are together for 6 months and shit has gotten seriously better. She actually loves me. And im not delusional . A bit paranoid, but thats it.

Stay true to yourself man, that's it.
 
yeah id be settin myself up to get cheated on. its like hiring an addict at a pharmacy and just hoping things will change...when they probably wont.

And im glad things got better for you b4, thats great man.

guess ill just grab what i wouldve spent on her and get a hooker or something lol
 
Yeah if she's flirting with you that much and you guys do end up getting together what's to stop her from flirting with any random new guy she likes, you already know having a boyfriend isn't

Have you guys ever met up outside of work and hung out before?
If so does she do it then and if not, to me it kind of sounds like she's just having a good time flirting and stuff with you while at work with out crossing any lines that would maybe be considered cheating or what not
 
On the other hand what if 5 years down the line ur regretting it if u say u like her that much.
I'm sorry I'm a faithful dude 90% of the time. But if u want it that bad fucking go for it homie. Like it was stated yeah wait a few months maybe see if they break up... I'm just being real here about what i would have done at ur age in that situation
 
If you are wanting to avoid trouble, get your ged, and enlist in the army, might I suggest not risking an incident between you and this girls boyfriend? Things could go wrong quick and there goes a goal of yours you've been working towards. Its good that you at least have some ambition in life dont throw that away for anything, and please dont listen to the dick above me. It sounds like he thinks this is a joke or a fling or something and is giving you the wrong advice. At the very least wait it out like others have said, see what happens. Dont let yourself get in a situation like I did though, keep your distance.
 
mal3volent said:
If you are wanting to avoid trouble, get your ged, and enlist in the army, might I suggest not risking an incident between you and this girls boyfriend? Things could go wrong quick and there goes a goal of yours you've been working towards. Its good that you at least have some ambition in life dont throw that away for anything, and please dont listen to the dick above me. It sounds like he thinks this is a joke or a fling or something and is giving you the wrong advice. At the very least wait it out like others have said, see what happens. Dont let yourself get in a situation like I did though, keep your distance.
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I'm definately not a dick I'm just saying man. I also said maybe wait it out too asshole.
If he says he thinks he loves the girl who are you to have the answer to this more than I?
17 and getting a cute 23 yr old waitress on your dick and pass it up, you're god damned right I'd be down.
I'll be a little humorous about it cause the post about her getting him hammered was pretty funny and straightforward
I've been in long relationships since i was in high school but those periods in between, yeah I jumped on opportunities like this one. I'm not morraly corrupt but I won't down some teenage decadence fuck I'm not perfect are you?
Hit that shit before you go to basic training. If she writes you see where it goes but get u some play before u enlist dammit
 
Im just saying hes got bigger and better things going on. He shouldnt risk it on something like this. Dont risk getting involved then not wanting to leave, getting into a physical confrontation with the BF, etc. Keep in touch with her, and if her feelings are genuine theres always that possibility in the future. If its just a piece of ass, who cares, there are plenty of other opportunities for that that dont involve being a homewrecker and risking his own future.
 
I am atm blazed,opinionated, and unable to sleep so i do apologize for being so frank and a tad sarcastic here
 
Seems like she is very flirtatious, that's it. Leave it at that because she already has a boyfriend. She's maybe a bit too friendly and I don't trust people who are too friendly generally. You two may have a mutual attraction but I wouldn't attempt to take it furthur. Find a single girl. I sense pursuing this will be troublesome.
 
Ok ok ok , as a mom of one close to ur age, a woman in general with a memory of being 21, ( foggy) , my advice ...she likes the attention, that's y she displays more in front of others, don't confuse lust & love , no respect for her bf being one quick sign she just egoing around, she will drive you nuts as she will treat you the same if u hook up. use the experience as a lesson in human behavior, flirting , this is practice. U got a lot on your plate, don't add a broken heart to it.
 
I would take her in the back and give her the best 30 seconds of her life : ) But seriously, I would. Just be forewarned, seems to be "once a cheater always a cheater" from what I've seen.
 
mal3volent said:
If you are wanting to avoid trouble, get your ged, and enlist in the army, might I suggest not risking an incident between you and this girls boyfriend? Things could go wrong quick and there goes a goal of yours you've been working towards. Its good that you at least have some ambition in life dont throw that away for anything, and please dont listen to the dick above me. It sounds like he thinks this is a joke or a fling or something and is giving you the wrong advice. At the very least wait it out like others have said, see what happens. Dont let yourself get in a situation like I did though, keep your distance.
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True shit man. thatd suck if i got locked up for one fight, and lose one thing im going for in life. thank you

And sine yeah man idk. just weird. and 21 for 17? if something looks too good to be true it probably is. But i didnt take it as you makin a joke out of it, i get what your sayin.

And weve hung out outside of work once. But like i said, when i go in early, its always just me and her..she'll keep me late on my shift like everyday haha...
But like 1lost said...she is a girl so she knows better than i would haha. maybe shes just messing around and im reading into it. She probably just likes that she gets more attention than the other waitresses.
And shes got more class than a quick 30 seconds in the back, and i think better of her than that as gay as it sounds. maybe some random chick, but were like really good friends. at least i think so.

it just really hit me when i was going to rehab, the night before we had hung out all day, drank all day, and messed around all day. Then right before i left, she hugged me, and said she was gonna miss me so much, and text her when i get back to celebrate. Like not even my parents cared when i left. Maybe im latching onto the attention im not receiving at home? i really have no idea. just confused
 
T. Calderone said:
Seems like she is very flirtatious, that's it. Leave it at that because she already has a boyfriend. She's maybe a bit too friendly and I don't trust people who are too friendly generally. You two may have a mutual attraction but I wouldn't attempt to take it furthur. Find a single girl. I sense pursuing this will be troublesome.
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Yeah I agree with this.

I worked in a restaurant before and there was this one woman there who would flirt with me and other guys who worked there. She'd touch my neck or do things like that, and she had a boyfriend so I didn't go any further.

Plus this is someone who you work with. I dated someone who I worked with once and it's something I'll never do again since you see each other way too much even if your schedules are different or if you work in different areas.
 
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