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It’s okay to be gay. Anything lgbtq2s+ is perfectly a fine way to be. I was terrified until about 20, and in a series of opening up, and honesty, I was fully out by 26. Sagaciously, my family and friends were okay. I’ve very rarely, if ever actually, had a problem with it except with one person. That’s another story though.
but the TQ2s+ part of it does need the most love and acceptance. There are absolutely problems within the LGBs acrynomic communities as well, and it’s really tough for a lot of people. Trans suicide attempt rate has gone up to over 50% since covid. Before it was 44%. Imagine the rejection they get.
My heart is out for you if you are trans, and I only wish I can work to help your community.. I have known 3 personally.
One commit suicide because her dad didn’t accept Melissa, and wanted Harvey. Now neither Harvey, or her real name and identity, Melissa IS DEAD. 1991-2018 at 26 years old.
Melissa was a programmer and we were to work on a project together because I can code a bit… now we will never have that chance.
I just wish I spent more time, but my life was In chaos too. Now it’s over. I love you Melissa., and I will always accept you. I think of you often.
Another I knew, briefly.. Desiree came out as feeling male, Joshua. Joshua, through his teenage years was constant psych ward and suicide attempts. Heroin addiction. All Of that.
Many, many people with gender dysphoria turn to substance use. The entire LGBTQ2S+ scene is rampant with party drugs, like stuff people don’t even normally get these days unless they’re clued into the scene! Meth and GHB is a common combo.
Joshuas father eventually accepted him and they are very close now. Like side by side; just happy on the couch, a dad and his teenage son, relaxed together, smiling, ordinary banter between a father and his child. His son. It touched my heart.
Seth is now Lucia. Lucia had much conflict with her dad (who I was dating, I date older men) because he would not say her name. It led to a fight, a bad one eventually.
Luci and her girlfriend grabbed all their shit and left in the middle of the night never to be seen again, except driving by in a near town or whatever.
I reamed her dad out, who I loved, so bad but he is stuck in his anger and fear. Which I will touch on in a few paragraphs.
Lucia did call me once, about a month later. To pass a message to her dad. She won’t talk to him, ever again as it stands now. Lucia needed him for help with her transition.
She needed his evaluation of her childhood to Centre of Addictions and Mental Health, CAMH.
They conduct the rigorous interviewing to get hormone replacement therapy. They check you hardcore to make sure you’re going to be stable in physically changing your gender to what you identify as. it’s to determine whether this person with gender dysphoria is capable of informed consent. It’s… really tough.
After that it’s finding a doctor who will actually provide the drugs. Many won’t. This could be a better system if it ran; smoothly, timely, with more acceptance. There are too many barriers in this transition, and very few agencies or physicians conduct this procedure.
This pricesure which is actually covered by provincial health insurance here… save some of the more “cosmetic” surgeries. It’s screwed up to say the least.
Anyhow, back to that call. Lucia’s dad did do the interview and he did a good job. He did nothing to try and intervene on her getting the transition, and answered; plainly, honestly, and well, without judgement toward the interviewer. No dismay to Lucia either.
I was proud of him for that. The thing is, he doesn’t hate her being trans. He says she can do whatever she wants.. but inside still he is afraid she’ll be the victim of a hate crime.
He is angry and fearful and rotten to deal with in these arguments, of which I had many. I stood right in front of Lucia more than once and spit out the facts and statistics and all. He accepts it, yet he acts like the person who is actually commencing something akin to a hate crime which he supposedly, and truly fears. That crime he’s afraid of her going to her death. And now ha may have sent her out.
He didn’t realize that with his backward parenting not being able to deal With this (as a gay man from the 80’s aids epidemic) and he was trying to protect her in a tragically aggressive, misunderstood way.
I’ve always told him, if you’d just say her name! It would fix everything!
“Lucia, I love you”.
Can you imagine how much pain that would erase?
Sadly though, and often times - there’s other mental health problems which occur for many a reason. A comparative lack of human rights in Canada unto others, which was stringent until very recently. There’s still work to he done. That silly straw man argument “dude in a dress” in the women’s bathroom? She’s using the correct bathroom!
Even I now, with no prior history of being trans. If I was charged and I identified as female in court, I’d go to female prison. That’s a scenario I won’t be in as I am cisgender male and feel good about that. But that’s the law!
All of you people who probably couldn’t even identify a transgendered individual in you saw a group of 5 need to stop this argument!
The hate towards them? Anyone would be neurotic! After that it goes on and on, they struggle so much. Honestly, on the gay app grindr, it seems the majority of them are either escorts or meth users or both.
Lucia is sober. Thank God.
You see, although it isn’t right. When a child comes out as being another gender, alongside everything else which I’ve explained, they experience a confusion. Theres an incredible rejection, and a diminishment which is absolutely life destroying. The drugs are incredible, and the fall into the cracks deeper than anyone outside can truly understand.
And it’s because the parents feel like they lost their little girl or boy. Both sides need support and neither knows how to support each other. It often ends in total anhillation for the child.
We need to bring the real attention to this which is needed. The entire LGBTQ2S+ demographic is short handed in varying degrees. But especially the trans community, gender queer as well which I know I haven’t gotten into. It’s a big subject. They are good people though.
Can there ever be resources like addictions treatment, victims services, counseling, acceptance, love in all our communities? To a much greater degree. Not just in Toronto or Vancouver being the hubs? This entire country is full of people. And they are people who deserve recognition.
I really hope Lucia finds the love she needs in her life. If you read this, I’m sorry for what happened. I wasn’t the best either but I tried, and I care for you. You are a really cool person, okay?
Love, from Alex
but the TQ2s+ part of it does need the most love and acceptance. There are absolutely problems within the LGBs acrynomic communities as well, and it’s really tough for a lot of people. Trans suicide attempt rate has gone up to over 50% since covid. Before it was 44%. Imagine the rejection they get.
My heart is out for you if you are trans, and I only wish I can work to help your community.. I have known 3 personally.
One commit suicide because her dad didn’t accept Melissa, and wanted Harvey. Now neither Harvey, or her real name and identity, Melissa IS DEAD. 1991-2018 at 26 years old.
Melissa was a programmer and we were to work on a project together because I can code a bit… now we will never have that chance.
I just wish I spent more time, but my life was In chaos too. Now it’s over. I love you Melissa., and I will always accept you. I think of you often.
Another I knew, briefly.. Desiree came out as feeling male, Joshua. Joshua, through his teenage years was constant psych ward and suicide attempts. Heroin addiction. All Of that.
Many, many people with gender dysphoria turn to substance use. The entire LGBTQ2S+ scene is rampant with party drugs, like stuff people don’t even normally get these days unless they’re clued into the scene! Meth and GHB is a common combo.
Joshuas father eventually accepted him and they are very close now. Like side by side; just happy on the couch, a dad and his teenage son, relaxed together, smiling, ordinary banter between a father and his child. His son. It touched my heart.
Seth is now Lucia. Lucia had much conflict with her dad (who I was dating, I date older men) because he would not say her name. It led to a fight, a bad one eventually.
Luci and her girlfriend grabbed all their shit and left in the middle of the night never to be seen again, except driving by in a near town or whatever.
I reamed her dad out, who I loved, so bad but he is stuck in his anger and fear. Which I will touch on in a few paragraphs.
Lucia did call me once, about a month later. To pass a message to her dad. She won’t talk to him, ever again as it stands now. Lucia needed him for help with her transition.
She needed his evaluation of her childhood to Centre of Addictions and Mental Health, CAMH.
They conduct the rigorous interviewing to get hormone replacement therapy. They check you hardcore to make sure you’re going to be stable in physically changing your gender to what you identify as. it’s to determine whether this person with gender dysphoria is capable of informed consent. It’s… really tough.
After that it’s finding a doctor who will actually provide the drugs. Many won’t. This could be a better system if it ran; smoothly, timely, with more acceptance. There are too many barriers in this transition, and very few agencies or physicians conduct this procedure.
This pricesure which is actually covered by provincial health insurance here… save some of the more “cosmetic” surgeries. It’s screwed up to say the least.
Anyhow, back to that call. Lucia’s dad did do the interview and he did a good job. He did nothing to try and intervene on her getting the transition, and answered; plainly, honestly, and well, without judgement toward the interviewer. No dismay to Lucia either.
I was proud of him for that. The thing is, he doesn’t hate her being trans. He says she can do whatever she wants.. but inside still he is afraid she’ll be the victim of a hate crime.
He is angry and fearful and rotten to deal with in these arguments, of which I had many. I stood right in front of Lucia more than once and spit out the facts and statistics and all. He accepts it, yet he acts like the person who is actually commencing something akin to a hate crime which he supposedly, and truly fears. That crime he’s afraid of her going to her death. And now ha may have sent her out.
He didn’t realize that with his backward parenting not being able to deal With this (as a gay man from the 80’s aids epidemic) and he was trying to protect her in a tragically aggressive, misunderstood way.
I’ve always told him, if you’d just say her name! It would fix everything!
“Lucia, I love you”.
Can you imagine how much pain that would erase?
Sadly though, and often times - there’s other mental health problems which occur for many a reason. A comparative lack of human rights in Canada unto others, which was stringent until very recently. There’s still work to he done. That silly straw man argument “dude in a dress” in the women’s bathroom? She’s using the correct bathroom!
Even I now, with no prior history of being trans. If I was charged and I identified as female in court, I’d go to female prison. That’s a scenario I won’t be in as I am cisgender male and feel good about that. But that’s the law!
All of you people who probably couldn’t even identify a transgendered individual in you saw a group of 5 need to stop this argument!
The hate towards them? Anyone would be neurotic! After that it goes on and on, they struggle so much. Honestly, on the gay app grindr, it seems the majority of them are either escorts or meth users or both.
Lucia is sober. Thank God.
You see, although it isn’t right. When a child comes out as being another gender, alongside everything else which I’ve explained, they experience a confusion. Theres an incredible rejection, and a diminishment which is absolutely life destroying. The drugs are incredible, and the fall into the cracks deeper than anyone outside can truly understand.
And it’s because the parents feel like they lost their little girl or boy. Both sides need support and neither knows how to support each other. It often ends in total anhillation for the child.
We need to bring the real attention to this which is needed. The entire LGBTQ2S+ demographic is short handed in varying degrees. But especially the trans community, gender queer as well which I know I haven’t gotten into. It’s a big subject. They are good people though.
Can there ever be resources like addictions treatment, victims services, counseling, acceptance, love in all our communities? To a much greater degree. Not just in Toronto or Vancouver being the hubs? This entire country is full of people. And they are people who deserve recognition.
I really hope Lucia finds the love she needs in her life. If you read this, I’m sorry for what happened. I wasn’t the best either but I tried, and I care for you. You are a really cool person, okay?
Love, from Alex
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