Urbanhog said:
I dunno why.....I think this way.....
I don't mind Lesbin couple having kids.....
but for some strange reason I find weird for male gay couple to have kids......
I just don't think or feel its right for male gay couple to rasie kids....
I am not anti-gay.... I know plenty... but just in my eyes I don't understand ....
Thats just me.
Before I left for work the other day I happened to catch a bit of Dr Phil on the telly....and while he's not generally one of my favourite people in the world, he said something which made a lot of sense. When you're explaining something to someone and you use the word "but" you're basically saying "forget everything I just said, now this is what I really mean." Simplistic, but you get where I'm coming from.
Not that I'm saying you're rampantly homophobic or whatever, but seriously if you have no justification for male couples not being allowed to raise children when you're fine with female couples doing it; well, I don't think "I don't understand it" is a good enough reason. I don't understand why people like anchovies, doesn't mean I think it's wrong or immoral.
Going back to what muzby said...in an ideal world, I do think that kids should have both male and female role models. Nearly every adult male I knew when I was growing up was an abusive redneck alcoholic asshole, and it wasn't until I was in my 20's that I felt comfortable in my own skin as a man and stopped feeling like men are inherently bad.
We don't live in an ideal world though, and I think it would be a massive step forward for society to recognise that your sexual identity has absolutely fuck-all to do with your ability to raise a child. If a gay guy or a lesbian or a transgender person or anybody for that matter has the compassion and the sense of responsibility and ability to nurture a child, I think it's the height of arrogance and hypocrisy to say they can't do it when there are many straight couples out there who probably shouldn't have kids and nobody stops them from popping them out...
And the last thing I wanted to say...in principle I agree with doofqueen on the adoption thing. I think it's great that we have the technology to assist women who have difficulties conceiving naturally, but I can't help thinking it'd be a much happier option to adopt kids who are already with us and don't have anyone to help them. Not that I'm saying it should be the law or anything (people can do what they want with their own bodies), it's just my preferred option.