I got a little bit of a surprise when I broached this topic with my boyfriend the other night.
Seeing as we think similarly about most things, I would have thought he'd have the same opinions on gay marriage/child-rearing as I have, but apparently not. I just want to repeat the conversation we had to show you perhaps how many people innocently come to the wrong conclusion.
Me: "I think they should be allowed to get married, the government should just butt the fuck out".
Him: "Well, yeah..."
Me: "what? don't you agree?"
Him: "Kind of, I don't know"
Me: "What do you mean?"
Him: "Well that would mean they were allowed to have kids"
Me: "So?"
Him: "Well, if they adopt, why should they be allowed to adopt before a normal hetrosexual couple?"
Me: "But baby.... you're making the assumption that being gay is a choice . It's not a choice. You're born with it!"
Him: "Oh" ( he really hadn't considered that) "Yeah, I guess so."
Me: "So it's not like they're purposefully depriving some straight couple of first right to adoption through some selfish lifestyle choice... it's just the way their genetics are, they can't help it. Therefore why shouldn't they have just as many rights to kids? It's like saying disabled people shouldn't be given parking spaces, because all the 'normal' people then miss out on good parking. Well not really but you know what I'm saying?"
Him: "Yeah"
The point is I think many people still have in their minds that being gay is some kind of choice; like you wake up in the morning and go "Hey! I'd like to sleep with men, live in St. Kilda and wear tank tops!" and off you go. Then you go around crashing the straight party and wanting the same rights.
It isn't a choice, it's genetics. Therefore gay people should not be denied any rights straight people have... including the natural, human right to have a family.