Guys/gals,
I'm new to this site and reading some of these posts got me interested. I originally came on to get some info and I definitely think that I could get some much needed help here. Please, I need all the advice/help I could get. It would be much appreciated.
I knew this girl from high school and had not seen her in 20 yrs. It has now been 4 months that we have been dating and I found out that she shoots heroin. I found out from an ex of hers and she admitted to it. She said she wouldn't do it again and 3 weeks later, I found out she used again. It sucks that she lied but I have other concerns or questions that maybe a few of you could answer. So last weekend she stopped talking to me on a thurs. She text saying she can't do this relationship thing with me and that it's getting too serious too fast etc. we stopped talking and that following Tuesday, she text saying she's sorry and that she broke down and she used again and asks me to forgive her. So I go over to see her and everything gets worked out, make up sex, good conversation and back to normal. Feels better than ever. A few days ago (Friday) I go over , we go out to breakfast, and the plan was to see each other later in the evening. NOPE! I get a text saying she had some bad news. Her son, who doesn't live with her, got in trouble and she has to talk to her ex and straighten things out. Guess what? The whole weekend without hearing from her. I bet I know exactly where she is. Either at her ex's doing heroine, or she got dropped off at home and is sick in bed from the H like she was a few weeks back. She will call tomorrow saying some BS excuse about either why she did H or that she was doing something but couldn't call me at all. Now my concern. Is she going to stop? Can she just use a couple times and then end it? How do I know If she is using ? I want to one night , stick around her house and see if her ex comes and picks her up and then I would know. She tells me when she goes MIA like this that she is just in her room locked in there because she is depressed and doesn't wanna see anyone. Then I had her ex calling me before , saying she goes over there and has sex with him when she's shooting up over there. She denys any sex with him. She throws out that "do you trust me" question and it sucks because I don't know what to believe. My gut tells me that she is still using and her and I had arguements about her not talking to him anymore. He abuses her and yet she still wants to remain talking to him. I don't understand that. I do care a lot for her and it's a shame I feel strongly about her because if I didn't, I prob would just let go by now. So my questions, and I'm sorry about the lengthy letter and there is a lot of details left out but I figure you get the gist of my situation. So is sex involved in heroine use? Can and what is the likely chance that she isn't doing it anymore and does it sound like she is still seeing this dude? Please give me some insight and please don't call me a dumbass or any name calling. I know it may sound stupid on my part but please. Thanks guys. I just am the nice guy who fell for a girl who has a situation.
