Heroin addict ruining my home please help.

[ford442]

Hey guys,
I have been on a year long quest trying to sort out my home life.
It turns out that for sure my mother is using H at 64 years old and screwing over my entire house and life.
She has become more and more mean and abusive. Abusive psychologically, physically, emotionally, and ever way you can think of...
WHAT IN THE FUCK CAN I DO??
I have tried talking with the police in different ways. Writing to a rehab clinic.
Right now I am going to speak to Adult Protective Services on Monday to see what they can help with.
I am going totally nuts. I even have had panic attack heart attacks leaving me weak and confused all of the time.

Any advice might save my health and my home!!

Is APS able to do something or does my mom have to willingly go in for treatment? Because when I spoke to her earlier this year she looked me in the eye, shook my hand and swore that she didn't use any hard drugs. Since then we barely speak due to insane things that she says to me that set me off. It is like I am the aging mother and she is the crazy teenager.

Get back to me please!
God bless and a Merry Christmas time to all!

 

[neversickanymore]

Hey ford Im sorry you are in the thick of this. How long has she been an addict? Also congratulations on on the quest.. life a journey (or a quest) and not a destination so I kinda made up my ,mind that I am now on a life long quest to sort my life out

I'm also going to scoot this over to TDS as I feel it belongs there and may get a larger response. Please PM me if you would like it moved back to SL or have any other concerns.

 

[ford442]

I think that she has been a user since the 1960's actually. She has been BATSHIT CRAZY my whole life. She always told me that she was just 'crazy' or eccentric. But, now this year some shocking secrets have been revealed and I will do anything within the law to help this situation.
It has actually caused to have a series of panic heart attacks and to sell most of my possessions to keep afloat. I have extensive eyesight loss, weight loss, unable to go near her facilities which I paid for I am surrounded by dishes, laundry and trash. I have broken bones and illness from wandering the streets instead of having a house to make comfortable.
At one point I was having a severe panic attack and she spun out her tire next to my head on the ground....
I am willing to do anything within the law to stop this! I wake in the night screaming for someone to please help.
I have spoken to police several times and they say that she must be willing to quit.
I am left considering having her put in a home of some kind or something. I have heard of a 'welfare check' where someone can come in and check her out.
To be sure, I am acting in her and my best interests. I have put up with her maddness for 34 years, but after 11 months of trying to help with this issue and not getting anywhere I am going mad! I have been virtually sleeping under the bridge in the freezing cold and it is TOO MUCH!
Besides being mean and not taking care of this house, she has actually done a damage to others over the years I see now. People have actually died on her watch.
SOMEONE HELP...?!?!? POLICE!!!?!?!?
I am losing it. I start crying. The other day I hit her truck with something. I hate it that my mind is suffering from this struggle.
SUGGESTIONS PLEASE!! Winter is coming on and I can't be cooped up with this psychopath day and night!!! I want this Christmas to be happy!
Thank you all for your support when everyone else is clueless!

 

[neversickanymore]

Have you thought about trying to get her on suboxone. I mean if she has been using for that long I would think there is no way she is getting "high" anymore and may actually enjoy being on a maintenance program. If she wont do anything to help herself then save up some money and just let her go and move away from this.

 

[SkagKush]

It seem if she has been using that long that she is a true addict, but that does not mean that there is nothing that you can do. Firstly, having a true heart to heart and expressing how her actions effect you. However, it is common knowledge that she will have to make the decision to clean her self up by her self.

You COULD exercise those powers within the law like you had said, but this could easily backfire and you could lose your mom all together.

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is move on, and hope that the loss of a loved one might be enough of a 'rock bottom'. Having said that I empathize with you, and feel free to PM me.

 

[Felonious Monk]

Wow, this is rough, it seems like you've suffered a lot for your mom for nothing in return. It might be time to set a boundary and stop supporting her, she doesn't seem to give you any reason to continue as it's clearly not helping. While she'd certainly be mad for a time it might finally cause her to hit rock bottom and acknowledge all the problems she's caused for you for the last 3 decades. If you continue as you've have it sounds like it's gonna kill you, and then you'll both be out of luck.

 

[smokemctoke420]

5150 her.

 

[thegent]

Ford, I totally know what you're going through as I've been there myself with my mother. The truth is she's not the real problem, you are. Why do you still live at home? What is stopping you from creating your own life?

Some people are going to be negative/crazy and can't be helped until they want to help themselves. In the meantime, your health has and will continue to suffer as long as you're close to her. Bring yourself to a higher frequency, and THEN you will have a chance to bring her up. I don't know how the rest of your life is, but we must all live independent of bs, eat healthy, exercise, date, etc. Your choices are either continue to complain and try to change her (you can't, she has to want to change herself), or take complete control by taking action yourself(you have 100% control, but it's a journey of self mastery). If you're interested in the second choice let me know, I've got tons of great resources I could point you towards.