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Help me get back to college!

moosedog

Bluelighter
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background info first:

21 years old

high school credentials: 3.6 gpa with a 27 on the ACT (32 in English)

failed 3/5 classes at community college due to opiate addiction
thought I had my act together, went to a 4 year uni. I got booted after the 1st semester with a .07 gpa because I had a terrible benzo/alcohol problem.
went back to community college and failed 4/5 classes at the same community college, due to benzos and opiates and spending a couple weeks in the psych ward during that semester.

My father took care of ALL the expenses. I know, I fucked up. Please dont remind me of how I wasted such a great opportunity. 3 times.

How do I get back to college, ON MY OWN. I want to do it by myself completely, and prove to my father I can do this. I am ready. Thanks to suboxone and rigorous treatment, a klonopin script, and a strong interest in medicine (I want to be an MD, not sure what specialty), I am super motivated to get back to school. Any tips? I am really lost here.


I am such a spoiled kid, but I want to change and I would appreciate any words of wisdom, words of encouragement, or any words for that matter.

Oh and I just smoke pot. Pot, caffeine, and klonopin are all I need (and suboxone :)). Just so you know. I love you Bluelight!
 
First off, were you dismissed or suspended at all by the end of the last time you were in school?

From personal experience, and I went through a similar situation (only once, though). I had to write NUMEROUS letters after sitting out of school for a few years, and I had to attend a few workshops required by the parent university that I attend that focused on basically getting my shit back together. By then, admittedly, I was annoyed to have had to take the workshops, but it meant going back to school.

In all seriousness, though. I would speak to an advisor. They're going to be the ones to help you get where you need to be, if at all possible, and tell you a better course of action. Also, you may have to attend another community college to prove that you're serious. I was fortunate enough to not have to do this, but I was dismissed from even applying to a college or university for 4 years.
 
Like Rogue said, do you have any other colleges? In my area, there's several colleges to choose from. Do you have another community college to start at and then matriculate to a four year different from the one you got booted from?

Getting into med school is very very hard and you're going up against people who have 3.9 GPAs and never flunked out....twice. :\

If you could somehow start over, going into schools that are new, you can clear your slate and work towards straight A's. I definitely would try to avoid any schools that have your flunk out record.
 
yeah, medical school is no joke man
read up about the MCAT

what exactly are you interested in? chemistry? or helping people?
maybe something in social work..?
 
GOOD medical schools are hard to get in.

Try the American University of the Caribbean School of Medicine, or any of the caribbean schools. They're not accredited the same, but they'll probably let you in no matter how shaky your hands are and how bad your memory is. (klonopin)

But you could still face the problem of where you'd get a residency. Somewhere in Haiti?
 
I fucked up in community college and still made it into a pretty good program on a recommendation from someone inside the school.

Start looking at schools and just don't say shit about your previous failures. Get some loans and go to a cheap but decent state school. Man up and do it. You're going to need a cosign for your loans.

Why try to prove your father that you can do something if he'll pay for your schooling?

Make a deal with him that if you maintin your grades he'll pay your tuition. It can be very expensive to pay tuition.
 
My father and I came to an agreement:

I remain off opiates and do not relapse
I deal with my klonopin addiction and get it under control
I wake up early in the morning and get a job
take a class or 2 at the community college this summer, get As.
then, in the fall, if all goes as planned, my spoiled, undeserving ass will get ANOTHER chance! I am so excited to get back to a Uni you have no idea! I am going to ace every class and go to med school and make my father proud.


I am afraid of my klonopin addiction/epilepsy, however. Pretty dangerous, but I have a steady supply on the clonaz so I think i'll be able to taper down to 1-2mg qd
 
I hate you.

Be glad you aren't spoiled like me. I am 21 years old, live with my parents, have no real friends (not in Virginia at least), and I contemplate suicide every day.

Being spoiled sucks if you're smart enough to realize that you are a spoiled worthless little bitch. Paris Hilton has the luxury of not realizing she isn't worth a shit. I assure you, if it donned on her that she is a stupid spoiled whore who couldn't go 24 hours without a dick in her ass, she'd be suicidal too.
 
Man i feel for ya im in the same boat... almost. Im 21 have sever physical medical problems due to DUI caused wrecks and failed outta school twice. My parents still love me and i have plenty of friends but i feel like such a fucking failure because of it. I just cant get motivated to do the homework. I attend class and do good on tests but i just cant bring myself to study or do homework on my own.
 
Dude, the best thing is to accept the past, move on and instill some form of confidence and pride in yourself.

So what, you fucked up. That's in the past. You are worth something, everyone is. If you ever feel depressed go outside, go for a walk. Working also helps, less time contemplating/feeling sorry for yourself, it also helps study related work ethic.

You can do it.
 
Your really fortunate to have such understanding parents
Can I ask why you wanna be an MD?

Also, good luck . . . but don't screw it up
 
I said it before i'll say it again

You can get into one of the med schools of the caribbean... They're not accredited the same, they're basically the pay to play league.

Also you could still be a "doctor of osteopathy" or DO in the states... they're the 'doctors' that didn't get into med school and they're in clinics across the country fucking people's bodies up or alternatively helping in some cases.

So chase your fu*king dream like it was smoke rising off tin foil, cuz where theres a will theres a way.
 
1) Go to a different community college and bust ass for 2 years for a medical-related Associates.

2) Apply to a decent state school, major in bio or chem and bust ass for the last two years.

3) Apply to medical school with a kick-ass essay about how you beat the odds to get back on track. Admissions love an interesting story with a happy ending. If you are honest and contrite at this point, it can work to your advantage.


Alternatively, you might want to reconsider being an MD as the stress and risks of falling into depression and drug-use are statistically high for this profession, There are medical-related academic alternatives such as medical or biological anthropology, public health, or clinial social work. Think about those...
 
It's hard at first if you're older. At first you feel like you totally don't belong ESPECIALLY if you start off in a new subject. You really feel like an old fart amongst a bunch of high school kids, but you get over it.
 
Sometimes people need a little encouragement, even if it's from people online. Deciding to go back to school is a very big decision in a person's life. :|

I thought I was giving him encouragement. Maybe if he gets pissed off at me, he might say ; "I'll show that asshole but incredibly cool and handsome PottedMeat, I can do it."=D
 
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