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Help. i got a girl I work with preganant. She deceived me and told me she was on BC.

Well, I'm glad you got out of unwanted parenthood. Nothing you're going through now would compare to that.

But lord, you are really in a fucked up situation. I would just find a way to walk away from this in the most efficient way possible. You both lived and learned, but you are obviously not meant for each other. Staying with someone out of guilt, and telling lies to assuade hurt feelings, is just a spiralling mound of bullshit that is only going to intensify with time. If you don't really want to be with her then eventually you'll crack, and when the ball drops she will be all the more upset for it.

Just stop doing damage control and leave if you don't want to be there. It might be hard at first with some hurt feelings, but better to acknowlege that there is no future here than milking an already-bad situation.

And in the future, NEVER EVER HAVE SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM. I REPEAT, NEVER HAVE SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM. It doesn't matter if she says she's on the pill or not - it's your job to wrap protect YOURself. If I were there in person I'd slap your wrist while saying it. :P

Best of luck to you.
 
Foreigner said:
And in the future, NEVER EVER HAVE SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM. I REPEAT, NEVER HAVE SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM. It doesn't matter if she says she's on the pill or not - it's your job to wrap protect YOURself. If I were there in person I'd slap your wrist while saying it. :P
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I would hope that the OP has learned his lesson, but yeah... definitely worth saying again.
 
Yes, you are. Sorry, I was just thinking he isn't responsible for the girl or what she does.

As for whether you can be responsible for an unborn child, that is for another thread.


Denver crew unite!
 
Foreigner said:
And in the future, NEVER EVER HAVE SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM. I REPEAT, NEVER HAVE SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM. It doesn't matter if she says she's on the pill or not - it's your job to wrap protect YOURself. If I were there in person I'd slap your wrist while saying it.
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'And if you do, make sure to pull out and jizz all over the bitch! happy trails, was glad to hear the outcome of this thread, I had read it a few weeks ago before you knew she wasn't pregnant.
 
Your only obligation is to that baby now. You knocked her up now here are the consequences. You can ask her how she feels about abortion but do not push it on her. You can ask her how she feels about adoption as well. Basically find out if she is keeping the baby or not and go from there. You don't need to be with her or start a relationship with her just because y'all are having a kid together. That is a very dumb thing to do and almost always never works out. If she does decide to keep it you can still have a successful life and career, it is just going to be a very very hard road ahead but YOU CAN DO IT! Now you can also choose to not be in the child's life and just pay her child support but would you really want to do that with your own flesh and blood? Best of luck to you, your future child, and your life. Oh and be kind to her.. if shes at all right in the head I am sure she is scared shitless just like you.
 
screw that, I get girls to the aborption center all the time man
if they can't take the pill properly, it's their fucking problem (if they are lying about it)

once she is aborpted, don't talk to he girl again EVER

that way, in 5 years, she will feel good about being aborted this day..
don't make her regret, ever!
 
rakeone said:
screw that, I get girls to the aborption center all the time man
if they can't take the pill properly, it's their fucking problem (if they are lying about it)

once she is aborpted, don't talk to he girl again EVER

that way, in 5 years, she will feel good about being aborted this day..
don't make her regret, ever!
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I hope that one day soon, you grow up.
 
This has to be one of the most messed up and argumentative threads I've seen on Bluelight. I don't see the point of laying into the OP any further. It's clear they both fucked each other over and sure as hell learned from this. I feel no desire to comment on his situation, other than saying that staying with this girl out of guilt, especially given the manner this whole ordeal was carried out in, isn't going to benefit you OR her in the long run. You can drag it out as long as you want but it won't improve and you'll need to cut her off eventually. I don't think you'll ever be at the point where you can be on speaking terms after this. Cut her off, set her up with a friend, give her the number of your friendly neighbourhood shrink, whatever. You gotta deal with it mate. And any consequences that arise from it... That's my opinion. If there's a more supportive alternative that will work out better for both of you then do it, but that kind of relationship only goes downhill, and has a lot more momentum behind it when it crashes into something.
That aside, I feel for ya. Sounds like a cunt of a lesson learned. I feel kinda bad for that chick too in a way, and I hope she gets through this and learns from it too. It sounds like you did. Trust me, I'm sure anyone who read this will sure as hell be wrapping it up really fucking tight from now on. I know I will... Best of wishes mate.
 
she should not keep it but when she does you better do everything you can to make the life of that baby wonderfull

my father never wanted me,never supported me and my life is one big fail,children needs both parents....


people always say keep it but I tell you,dont summon a soul into this world if you cant make its life good,its better to not live that go trought this long hopeless nightmare and die and be right where you will be if you wasnt ever born except without years long bad trip
 
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