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Have you ever cheated on someone or been the other person who someone's cheating wit?

I've never cheated, but I've been the other guy multiple times.
One woman was married. >.<
 
I have been cheated on. I have cheated. I haven't exactly been the other guy, but i've messed around with girls who where either aunts or cousins or sisters from friends/friends of friends. I have to say that the first two (cheating and being cheated on) suck. But being the third person, the outsider who comes in and then is out of the whole mess, it's kinda exciting and I like it very much. The thrill is amazing. I know it's very very wrong but what the hell...
 
Never cheated and never will but I have been cheated on, was my first ever relationship so hurt a lot but to be fair I saw it coming, she got close to a guy we both know, started getting closer and making up lies how her phone didn't work round his house (which turned out to be BS) going round his most days until she called me in tears saying she was gonna cheat and for me to break up with her, I refused, she cheated.

A week later I forgave her but things were never the same and we split a year later, although in my eyes we split the day she cheated, god knows why I let it go on a whole year, think it was just the sex and norm of being in a relationship.

Learned a lesson: after they cheat on you, break up with them coz things will never be the same. (advice my mate gave to me at the time but I ignored it)

Dodged a bullet though coz she is really unattractive and overweight now (karma?)
 
I was in an online long distance relationship with my boyfriend for around 4 or 5 months when I cheated and slept with someone in real life.. I felt so horrible during and after. I do not even really know why I did such a thing.. I was literally either crying or throwing up the next few days because I had hurt my partner. I will never cheat again nor do I want to ever experience being cheated on.
 
yes. but only because he cheated first, and at this point, the relationship was dead. also, wanted to hurt the little fucker. ;) but i'm not a cheater. if someones gonna stay loyal to me, so will i.
 
DrunkardsDream said:
Have you ever cheated on someone who you were in a relationship with?

Or have you ever been single and knowingly been with someone who was in a relationship but cheating on their partner?

If so what were your reasons for cheating, or for being the other man/woman on the side?

I never have cheated on anyone who I was in a relationship with but I've had friends of mine some who I dated in the past want to cheat on their partners with me, in some cases I was tempted but I didn't do it but if the one guy seduced me I might go for it.

Maybe I'd feel bad afterward but maybe I wouldn't since his partner sounds like a total dick to me since he can get controlling/manipulating of my friend and calls him a "whore" just because my friend had sex with other men before he got with his current male partner (my response 8) my friend's partner was with other people but somehow this is OK or excusable while it's not OK for my friend to have had a life or sex life at all?), and they haven't had sex in a very long time.

I would not expect my friend to leave his partner for me or anything like that, and I would worry about getting hurt since this friend and I did date when I was younger and I did have feelings for him then.
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Just an update on this. I no longer talk to the guy I dated in the past who I posted about.

At the time when we dated I thought I was in love with him but at the time I didn't see how shallow, narcissistic, and selfish this guy is even though my friends were basically telling me this and saying things like "this guy cheated on his ex if you get into a LTR with him he will only cheat on you!".

Also this guy I dated in the past wanted me to help him cheat on his current partner and he wanted me to fuck him without condoms and I told him that was never going to happen. If he wants to become HIV positive or get an STD he's going about it the right way.
 
I've played both roles.

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I was also the rebound for this guy.. whenever things weren't working with his g/f, he'd come to me and we'd see one another for awhile before things got better with her, then he'd tell me he couldn't see me anymore. They'd get in a fight or things would fall apart again, and he'd come crawling back. This repeated many times.
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A decade ago, I was in a similar situation as well. Except this douche never had the courtesy of even breaking up with me when he got back together with her. He would just fall off the face of the earth, and I wouldn't hear from him until they broke up again.
Funny story though. I think we both got our revenge on him. We became really good friends and would get white-girl wasted and hook up with each other. Looking back on it, she was waaaay fucking cooler than he ever was.
 
I've never cheated on anyone I was dating or married to.

When I was 18, I was spanking a 28 yo married co-worker. Still feel bad about that.

Been cheated on and that sucked.
 
I've done some really low down cheating...I fucked my best friend's (a guy who has literally saved my life and put himself at extreme risk of death or catastrophic injury in combat with me while deployed) girlfriend behind his back. :/ Not cool.

I've fucked my ex girlfriend's girlfriend (while we where seeing each other still...polyamorous relationship) behind her back...but because it was polyamorous and because we both came clean to her together and stuff, she forgave that incident pretty well.

I was banging my Ms.Gallium behind her Ex BF's back...but, like, fuck that guy anyway. Plus, this was a bit different because I *loved* her and she me, and it was not just trying to get a nut off...

Blah, I've been cheated on many times..like it hurts, it stings, but to be perfectly fucking honest, it never devastated me, and I've never ended a relationship over it. I'd probably only do that it was particularly egregious, like if she was withholding from me in preference of whoever, or if she was unsafe about it (both STDwise or otherwise, like dangerous situations or stuff like asphyxia play BDSM scenes) or if she did it frequently and repeatedly such that I was getting hurt too much/too often vs the amount of pleasure I otherwise derived from the relationship.
 
I have a theory about this. The majority of women tend to focus on one guy, while men are usually more inclined to want to sleep with as many women as they can. (Of course there are lots of exceptions to this.) It makes sense if you look at it in terms of reproduction. Women have one egg & they want to find the best choice to fertilize it. Men, however, have billions of sperm and the natural instinct to reproduce makes them want to put each one somewhere different. Once people get older, though, we all get tired of playing mating games & find someone we feel comfortable with to keep around for awhile.
 
Yes, I have. Several times. Almost every time I was wasted and almost every time it was with my boyfriends "good" friend. All of my b/f friends would hit on me and get a few drinks in me and I would give in. It was horrible. Now that I am married and think back to that I would never do anything like that again. It's not worth it. If you really love someone, be with them, care about them...if you really don't love them...just move on, don't hurt them, don't carry them along with bullshit ya know...
 
mylittleneedle said:
Yes, I have. Several times. Almost every time I was wasted and almost every time it was with my boyfriends "good" friend. All of my b/f friends would hit on me and get a few drinks in me and I would give in. It was horrible. Now that I am married and think back to that I would never do anything like that again. It's not worth it. If you really love someone, be with them, care about them...if you really don't love them...just move on, don't hurt them, don't carry them along with bullshit ya know...
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I've been on the reverse side of this...my S/O...almost all her friends are male, and it seems almost all of them want to bang her. They hold parties in their residences, and altho it's BYOB...it seems for her, she is welcome to as much of their booze as she wants. Then she gets wasted and does something (usually just making out, not a BIG deal to me, just a little issue) with them. Or rather, she use to do that kind of stuff...but she is much better now. :) But yeah, it's kind of not cool and it hurts, and I think if they where genuinely her FRIEND, they would not try to get her to cheat on her fiance, and indeed, one big party, I was specifically not invited, which does not seem to me, how one treats their FRIENDS fiance... but I digress.
 
I have tried being a little playaaaa and having multiple men at my beckon call and I can't do it.

I just don't have it in me at all. Sometimes I wish I did. I'm such a 1 man girl to my own detriment I think.

I had a couple of friends who were heartless little cunts. lol I loved them, and the one was cheating on her fiance and i was her alibi a lot. I am NOT a good liar either, so it was so fucking hard, but it wasn't my business. She took me to a lot of the parties, and the guys would think I was the same way, and I'd have to tell them "whoooa slow down bullet. It ain't happening with me." What I liked about her is she really did cheat like a man. Wam bam thank you ma'am and she was out. God I miss her.
 
I've cheated and have been cheated on. it sucks sometimes. I'm currently "seeing" a girl I guess but never agreed to monogamy so I still see other women. I ain't slept with anyone else... yet. I'd definitely cheat though with a few bluelighters I've seen pics of ;)
 
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