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Has your significant other forgiven you after you have done terrible things to them?

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ovenbakedskittles

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Im going to try to not provide much detail to my situation...

I mainly want to hear your guys' experiences

Ive done terrible things to a person who didnt deserve it (lied, with held information, disrespected) and i feel terrible and i feel like they will never forgive me...

Have you ever done bad things to your significant other and they forgave you? how bad was it and how long did it take for them to forgive you if they ever did?

please

i need this more than you know...

thank you
 
I've forgiven for worse things than I can even post on here, but nothing was ever the same. It ultimately ended the relationship later on. She felt so guilty even after I had forgiven her that she withdrew and everything was just fucked.
 
Sure. True for my partner, too. Never forgotten, tho. Ive been "forgiven" and provided forgiveness but in this relationship as well as my last long term one... things were never the same and trust takes a LONG time to develop. Especially the case once trust is broken. Its shitty. .
 
I had an affair which my wife found out about we had a marriage that was not in the best place. It has taken over 2 years but we have come out the other side stronger it was real hard work lots of talking and listening and space when needed
 
Love is forgiveness to a certain extent. :)

I was struggling with drug addiction and treated my bf pretty poorly, just got high all the time and withdrew. He forgave me.
 
Thank you all for responding...

Im at a terrible point in my life. I dont want to live anymore. I feel like a disrespectful piece of crap for doing the things that ive done to the person that i love. She didnt deserve it. I want her back so bad. And the crappy thing is the fact that even if by some miracle, some off chance that we do get back together things wont be the same at all. She wont treat me the same and she will look at me differently. And i feel like there is certain habits that im not willing to let go even if we do get back together! But if i have to then i will try my best because i dont want to feel like this anymore! i dont want her to feel like this anymore! i just want things to go back to normal. back to the way it was! but i know that there is no chance of that happening now! ive done too many things! ive hurt her too much! i know i should let her go but i cant get myself to do it! its too painful! i dont know what to do! i dont know whats gonna happen!
 
:( That sucks. All you can do is show her you've changed... but you've made your bed... now you have to lie in it unfortunately.
 
So what are we talking about here? Typical cheating stuff? I don't think I could forgive cheating. I'd probably try but the trust would be gone. Once trust is gone, it's so hard to get past that.

I can forgive a lot though. I would have a hard time with cheating. Probably wouldn't be able to do it. I'd tell him I forgive him, but then I'd obsess over it. It's one of those things where I'd love to get over it but I don't think my personality would allow it. Brain says yes, heart says no kind of thing.
 
Lysis said:
So what are we talking about here? Typical cheating stuff? I don't think I could forgive cheating. I'd probably try but the trust would be gone. Once trust is gone, it's so hard to get past that.

I can forgive a lot though. I would have a hard time with cheating. Probably wouldn't be able to do it. I'd tell him I forgive him, but then I'd obsess over it. It's one of those things where I'd love to get over it but I don't think my personality would allow it. Brain says yes, heart says no kind of thing.
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No i didnt cheat... but i did lie to her about a few things and i kept a lot of secrets and i did things behind her back that i shouldnt have but nothing flirtatious or sexual... And i basically went back on my word with a couple of things... and i told her my fantasies... and i told her something else that i dont want to say on here
 
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