Morrison's Lament
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Dude... my persanlity is like.... totally... like... electric. dude....
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has pot killed your personality?
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Visionimpy
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Said very well. I agree.
I think weed has helped me take a step back, look at the 'big picture', and develop my self, my mind, and my imagination. I also use it for health reasons, so although I do at times feel social anxiety and awkwardness around large groups of people, I feel its a small price to pay to be happy in myself to start.
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yea ive never smoked so much ona regular basis untill i moved.
where i use to live we would always get stoned after school and what not.
now we get stoned before and after. yes moving does suck. give it a month or 3 and see what happens. it takes a while for people to trust the new kid
galintojoints said:
yea ive never smoked so much ona regular basis untill i moved.
where i use to live we would always get stoned after school and what not.
now we get stoned before and after. yes moving does suck. give it a month or 3 and see what happens. it takes a while for people to trust the new kid
sexualhealing
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i think the thing about being funnier before weed happens because when you are high things are alot funnier, even if they wouldnt be funny when sober. so you tend to say more stupid shit, which to sober people makes no sense and to other stoned people it isnt always funny.
but weed just gets my funny bone, people will say serious things but i will hang on to one word and associate it with something funny and then keep associating and associating til the point what im thinkin and what we were actully talkin about is so far from being the same thing.
thats when you get the weird, what the fuck are you talkin about look?
happens to me all the time....but i just laugh....
but weed just gets my funny bone, people will say serious things but i will hang on to one word and associate it with something funny and then keep associating and associating til the point what im thinkin and what we were actully talkin about is so far from being the same thing.
thats when you get the weird, what the fuck are you talkin about look?
happens to me all the time....but i just laugh....
melancholic
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yes, yeS, yES, and YES.
The first nine posts in this thread describe almost exactly how I'm feeling. I like to think that weed is good for stress relief and to just mellow out and forget my problems, but sadly, I'm mellowing out into nothing, and forgetting everything.
Social anxiety is at an all-time high, whereas motivation has hit rock bottom. I love to think that weed allowed me a brighter and wider perspective on people and the world around me. But nuh-uh. It has offered me a new perspective, but this view is dull, and its overridden any others I may have had.
2003 will be the end of the reign of weed. Its been over a year since I started smoking at least 3-4 days every week, and fuck me, the only time I ever see a sign of the old me left is when enjoying music, or when its busy at work and the adrenalin returns me to my normal speed. I feel like a social outcast in any situation unless I'm with regular friends, or I'm drunk.
Drugs do change people, but they more or less just expand the person thats inside. I'm naturally analytical, introverted, and shy. Plus, I have the tendency to be obsessive-compulsive. Weed has killed almost everything good about me and let the bad run free. So maybe I'm being too harsh on my precious. Many a night has she quelled my pain. I still long for her, even now, as I speak of her devestating nature.
Its a love-hate relationship, through and through. Maybe one day when I've reformed all the parts to my life, we can co-exist. But in the present, its well and truly time to STOP FUCKING SMOKING!
The first nine posts in this thread describe almost exactly how I'm feeling. I like to think that weed is good for stress relief and to just mellow out and forget my problems, but sadly, I'm mellowing out into nothing, and forgetting everything.
Social anxiety is at an all-time high, whereas motivation has hit rock bottom. I love to think that weed allowed me a brighter and wider perspective on people and the world around me. But nuh-uh. It has offered me a new perspective, but this view is dull, and its overridden any others I may have had.
2003 will be the end of the reign of weed. Its been over a year since I started smoking at least 3-4 days every week, and fuck me, the only time I ever see a sign of the old me left is when enjoying music, or when its busy at work and the adrenalin returns me to my normal speed. I feel like a social outcast in any situation unless I'm with regular friends, or I'm drunk.
Drugs do change people, but they more or less just expand the person thats inside. I'm naturally analytical, introverted, and shy. Plus, I have the tendency to be obsessive-compulsive. Weed has killed almost everything good about me and let the bad run free. So maybe I'm being too harsh on my precious. Many a night has she quelled my pain. I still long for her, even now, as I speak of her devestating nature.
Its a love-hate relationship, through and through. Maybe one day when I've reformed all the parts to my life, we can co-exist. But in the present, its well and truly time to STOP FUCKING SMOKING!
weed used to do that to me... i was always shy though and later found out i had add (really, ive always tested off the charts but never could manage anything but remedial classes) concerta keeps me awake and more willing to socialize and be active. not for everyone maybe try a beer
trippinspirals
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frizzantik said:
agreed
Pot isnt very harmful IMO, but for gods sake do other things. Just smoking pot all the time gets boring as hell. And (for me) it definitly loses its spark.
smoke pot some in your freetime, but go do other things-dont become socially mal adjusted.
I was in the same exact situation after smoking nightly for quite some time. Even when I wasn't stoned, I would struggle socially. Before I ever started smoking I was a pretty good socializer.
What I did that seemed to help GREATLY, was take about 3 months off. When i moved home from my university for summer, I quit smoking and after a while my social confidence grew TREMENDOUSLY. Now that I'm back at school I try to keep my smoking down to like 2-3 nights a week, usually by myself or with a few good friends. I have noticed a little social anxiety start to come back, but definitely not at an unmanageable level. If i keep my habit down to this level, I think I will be fine.
To make a long story short, take a break from smokin.
What I did that seemed to help GREATLY, was take about 3 months off. When i moved home from my university for summer, I quit smoking and after a while my social confidence grew TREMENDOUSLY. Now that I'm back at school I try to keep my smoking down to like 2-3 nights a week, usually by myself or with a few good friends. I have noticed a little social anxiety start to come back, but definitely not at an unmanageable level. If i keep my habit down to this level, I think I will be fine.
To make a long story short, take a break from smokin.
StuffedTiger
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Personally I don't think it's fair to say that weed 'killed your personality' or even that it makes one less social.
I say this because I had the same problem as you guys, intense anxiety whenever in social situations high. But instead of looking at it as a problem with the pot, I saw it as a problem with myself and my view of life. I saw it as an obstacle to overcome.
Now, 2.5 years after starting to smoke daily, I feel like weed has helped to teach me an important lesson. I feel that it's taught me to love myself.
I say this because I had the same problem as you guys, intense anxiety whenever in social situations high. But instead of looking at it as a problem with the pot, I saw it as a problem with myself and my view of life. I saw it as an obstacle to overcome.
Now, 2.5 years after starting to smoke daily, I feel like weed has helped to teach me an important lesson. I feel that it's taught me to love myself.
alostlittlebird
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StuffedTiger said:
Yeah, but remember - everyone else's situation is different than your's, and each other's.
now dance kirby, dance.
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killed my personality? Hell no, it played it big part in my development over the years and I'm very thankfull I started smoking this wonderfull plant. I met a lot of people through canabis and it can really be a very social factor to me. It gave me inspiration to some wild ideas that greatly changed my life. I love every aspect of this plant. I even enjoy the rough edges this plant can have. If weed "killed" your personality, you probably weren't a very strong personality before you started smoking. Don't blame the weed, stop feeling sorry for yourself and give yourself a good ol' kick in the butt. That's really the only answer.
alwayshigh
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smoking pot has given me a better personality, and has made me a better person. I used to be shy before smoked pot. But know its all good
melancholic
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Stuffertiger, I was referring to the way it affected my personality overall, not only whilst high. Anxiety in a social situation seemingly has little to do with whether I'm high or not. Being high does marginally lower my inhibitions but in this context, thats about it.
Kankor, I'd be the first to admit that weed is not the cause of my problems, it has simply amplified them. Considering the issues being discussed, my current lifestyle isn't in any way productive. Discontinuing cannabis use is not the solution to all my problems, and I never intended to mean that I blame the weed. I do already know that I am the problem here, and you are correct in saying I need to kick myself up the butt.
That said, reducing the amount of weed I smoke to only a couple of times a month, I hope, will gradually mend the damage it has done. Do I want to stop smoking weed altogether? No, I love weed, and do intend to be a smoker in my old age. However the point is, it isn't helping me at the moment, it has affected my personality, and I need to cut down until I find a happy medium. It may well be that a lifestyle change will allow me to continue smoking as I do. Yet somehow, I doubt it will
Kankor, I'd be the first to admit that weed is not the cause of my problems, it has simply amplified them. Considering the issues being discussed, my current lifestyle isn't in any way productive. Discontinuing cannabis use is not the solution to all my problems, and I never intended to mean that I blame the weed. I do already know that I am the problem here, and you are correct in saying I need to kick myself up the butt.
That said, reducing the amount of weed I smoke to only a couple of times a month, I hope, will gradually mend the damage it has done. Do I want to stop smoking weed altogether? No, I love weed, and do intend to be a smoker in my old age. However the point is, it isn't helping me at the moment, it has affected my personality, and I need to cut down until I find a happy medium. It may well be that a lifestyle change will allow me to continue smoking as I do. Yet somehow, I doubt it will
two fathomz
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ok look at it like this... u can sit there in the corner n try n glance away when i stare at you... or u can realize thats its all just a mental fuck-up like getting high in the first place... and if u just work on relaxing and realizing hey i can do this.. YOU WILL BE FINE.
ive always suffered from (what i considered)severe anxiety.. been on zoloft and paxil even tho ive always been a popular kid. but when i get around lots of people or someone important ... especially after getting high, i sweat like crazy... my friend and i call it pitting asF.. but newayz.. ive learned that if i tell myself "hey man.. chill the fuck out.. you can handle this.. done it plenty of times before" i always calm down.. its just about being self confident.
i think if you just talk it takes away a lot of the nervousness.. dont be afraid to be social.. just dont do idiotic stuff like smoke right before seeing moms or going to school stankin like skunk...
i've put myself in waay too many awkward situations where ive had noone to blame but myself.
NO i do not think marijuana has changed my personality. im still the same mofo as before.. i think it definately supresses motivation... but the mind can talk itself into almost anything
ive always suffered from (what i considered)severe anxiety.. been on zoloft and paxil even tho ive always been a popular kid. but when i get around lots of people or someone important ... especially after getting high, i sweat like crazy... my friend and i call it pitting asF.. but newayz.. ive learned that if i tell myself "hey man.. chill the fuck out.. you can handle this.. done it plenty of times before" i always calm down.. its just about being self confident.
i think if you just talk it takes away a lot of the nervousness.. dont be afraid to be social.. just dont do idiotic stuff like smoke right before seeing moms or going to school stankin like skunk...
i've put myself in waay too many awkward situations where ive had noone to blame but myself.
NO i do not think marijuana has changed my personality. im still the same mofo as before.. i think it definately supresses motivation... but the mind can talk itself into almost anything
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Pot has changed me in many ways - good and bad but
most of them bad - permanent anxiety and paranoia -
this is the result after one year hard weed abuse
about 5 grams per day.In that period I was only
thinking on getting high drinking and rolling.
Not reading not learning only movies and pc games.
Not even getting out of my room - just smoking
with my roommate.It sux.
But after last summer I stopped smoking it on daily
basis only weekends on partys but it sucks too.
My pointview on pot has changed since the problems
I get from it.I don't like it anymore.
My advice to everybody is - if you have internal problems don't get high.
I'm goin to get some beer right now.
most of them bad - permanent anxiety and paranoia -
this is the result after one year hard weed abuse
about 5 grams per day.In that period I was only
thinking on getting high drinking and rolling.
Not reading not learning only movies and pc games.
Not even getting out of my room - just smoking
with my roommate.It sux.
But after last summer I stopped smoking it on daily
basis only weekends on partys but it sucks too.
My pointview on pot has changed since the problems
I get from it.I don't like it anymore.
My advice to everybody is - if you have internal problems don't get high.
I'm goin to get some beer right now.
MyDoorsAreOpen
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I've always had self confidence issues. so have my father and grandfather and all the men on his side of the family -- it must be hereditary. (Think the McFly family). One day, I said to myself I was going to learn to assert myself no matter what, and take whatever comes. It's been a struggle, but I've never looked back.
Then I met Mary Jane. For a long time, I could totally relate to what you guys are talking about. She made me want to hang out inside my own head. People told me I acted positively AUTISTIC when stoned, and was certainly no fun to be around.
But then I noticed that most stoners could act totally normal when stoned. So I made a special effort to learn to act normal and confident when high, and NEVER panic or think too much. I found this actually BOOSTED my social skills and assertiveness when sober, the same way running with a parachute on your back will make you run all the more fast without one! Weed was my social training parachute, and it worked.
Socializing and being assertive and spontaneous still takes more effort and concentration for me when I'm stoned than sober. But I can do it. It just takes practice. Awhile back, some buddies of mine jokingly pointed out that I act exactly the same whether high, drunk, or sober. They can't tell the difference, except if they look at my eyes or smell my breath. That was the greatest compliment I've gotten in some time.
FWIW, I find that the social skill weed fucks with the most is being in sync with a conversation. When stoned, I have a hard time anticipating when is the right moment to pipe up. So I'll inadvertantly cut people off, say too much, or say something about a topic that's already been dropped minutes ago.
Then I met Mary Jane. For a long time, I could totally relate to what you guys are talking about. She made me want to hang out inside my own head. People told me I acted positively AUTISTIC when stoned, and was certainly no fun to be around.
But then I noticed that most stoners could act totally normal when stoned. So I made a special effort to learn to act normal and confident when high, and NEVER panic or think too much. I found this actually BOOSTED my social skills and assertiveness when sober, the same way running with a parachute on your back will make you run all the more fast without one! Weed was my social training parachute, and it worked.
Socializing and being assertive and spontaneous still takes more effort and concentration for me when I'm stoned than sober. But I can do it. It just takes practice. Awhile back, some buddies of mine jokingly pointed out that I act exactly the same whether high, drunk, or sober. They can't tell the difference, except if they look at my eyes or smell my breath. That was the greatest compliment I've gotten in some time.
FWIW, I find that the social skill weed fucks with the most is being in sync with a conversation. When stoned, I have a hard time anticipating when is the right moment to pipe up. So I'll inadvertantly cut people off, say too much, or say something about a topic that's already been dropped minutes ago.