Yes, it generally takes 2x as long as you have been together before it gets easier. You will never forget the first to=ho. I was with my ex for 5 years senior year of HS nall the way through college. I went away to school, tried the long distance thing for a semester, then i started doing risky shit that would either make me a lot of dough and keep me numbed out on all the pot or ocs i wanted, or I'd get in trouble and get kicked out (parents wouldn't let me switch schools cause of scholarships, etc) and get to be back with her.
So basically i got thrown out on purpose to be with her. It wasn't worth it. From HS to college, to getting/starting a career after, it changes people, if it's meant to be then u'll find each other after u've both changed/grown up, and if ur both still interested, then u hit the lotto. Date other girls, don't look for a "replacement" or "the one", just have fun. Let her know that You only want Her, but you think its best to not try long distance, which will end up with u hating her and her hating u, which would make any future relationship impossible.
Don't wait for her. Its been 3 years since we broke up for me, i've dated a bunch of girls, all cool, but nothing like how i felt when I was with her. Don't look for the same feeling with others, different is ok, maybe even better. Nothing will be like the first real rela. IDK what true love is, and I hope I find it, but if not w/e. If my ex finds a guy who makes her happy and I never find a girl who does the same for me, thats ok.
I used to think w/o her I was nothing, but thats not true. Being alone is fine, you just have to get straight with urself (co-dependency is bad). Maybe try seeing a therapist, tho i had other stuff to deal with, but it helped.
TIME, acceptance, letting it go, is what needs to be done.
Also if you end things well and say you just want whats best for her, that she can have you whenever she wants, like she is you're drop everything (new g/f etc) when/if she is ready. She will respect you for that and if she's going to NYC for school, she can get a a taste of what most guys r like and how you handled it vs how most ppl do, esp like 80% of nyc college guys.
There are plenty of great girls out there, just remember it took time for you to feel about ur current/newly ex g/f, so if u go on a few dates w/a new girl u rlly like and rnt in love, dnt panic, it's normal.
I wanted to die for like a year after my breakup (did hard drugs that I never would have considered before, took big risks w/myself nd my health), as an alternative to suicide. I wish I hadn't, but I had people telling me what I'm telling you and it didn't matter to me.
It's not that bad, it will get better, and you will be fine ( i hope you aren't as stubborn as I was), at the very least try not to get a benzo, or IV dope habit. Cause once you do get over it you will def not be able to get her back, as well as whatever else you lose by going down that path. I promise you'll regret it. I do. When you are in pain like this, iv dope takes it all away, and feels like love+all (and more) euphoria than a full body orgasm when making love, not just sex.
Sorry if this is a bit long or if i repeated myself, I just saw your post and can 100% relate.
So basically i got thrown out on purpose to be with her. It wasn't worth it. From HS to college, to getting/starting a career after, it changes people, if it's meant to be then u'll find each other after u've both changed/grown up, and if ur both still interested, then u hit the lotto. Date other girls, don't look for a "replacement" or "the one", just have fun. Let her know that You only want Her, but you think its best to not try long distance, which will end up with u hating her and her hating u, which would make any future relationship impossible.
Don't wait for her. Its been 3 years since we broke up for me, i've dated a bunch of girls, all cool, but nothing like how i felt when I was with her. Don't look for the same feeling with others, different is ok, maybe even better. Nothing will be like the first real rela. IDK what true love is, and I hope I find it, but if not w/e. If my ex finds a guy who makes her happy and I never find a girl who does the same for me, thats ok.
I used to think w/o her I was nothing, but thats not true. Being alone is fine, you just have to get straight with urself (co-dependency is bad). Maybe try seeing a therapist, tho i had other stuff to deal with, but it helped.
TIME, acceptance, letting it go, is what needs to be done.
Also if you end things well and say you just want whats best for her, that she can have you whenever she wants, like she is you're drop everything (new g/f etc) when/if she is ready. She will respect you for that and if she's going to NYC for school, she can get a a taste of what most guys r like and how you handled it vs how most ppl do, esp like 80% of nyc college guys.
There are plenty of great girls out there, just remember it took time for you to feel about ur current/newly ex g/f, so if u go on a few dates w/a new girl u rlly like and rnt in love, dnt panic, it's normal.
I wanted to die for like a year after my breakup (did hard drugs that I never would have considered before, took big risks w/myself nd my health), as an alternative to suicide. I wish I hadn't, but I had people telling me what I'm telling you and it didn't matter to me.
It's not that bad, it will get better, and you will be fine ( i hope you aren't as stubborn as I was), at the very least try not to get a benzo, or IV dope habit. Cause once you do get over it you will def not be able to get her back, as well as whatever else you lose by going down that path. I promise you'll regret it. I do. When you are in pain like this, iv dope takes it all away, and feels like love+all (and more) euphoria than a full body orgasm when making love, not just sex.
Sorry if this is a bit long or if i repeated myself, I just saw your post and can 100% relate.
