Sadie baby, (and you sham) don't feel bad. I am fucking glad she finally carked it. Its great news.
And sham...wow, how do *I* become a supermanly, mannish man like you, my big man?


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On the topic of spiders though, I recommend black (or brown) widow spiders as pets, they are lovely wee ladies to keep, very gentle, nonaggresive spiders. They will do their best to bite you if roughly handled, yes, or especially if the mother has just laid egg sacks, they get grumpy then. But bearing in mind that they would be in fear for their life if accidentally badly handled, or the web gets a huge shock through it, and if guarding hundreds of ikkle baby spiderlings-to-be then of course they are going to give a defensive bite.
If someone got you in a headlock and you saw a fist draw back or knife flick out, wouldn't YOU defensively, say, stamp on the ankles then drive your knee into the groin and ram your fingers into their eyesockets, even more so if that assailant were several thousand times your size? One of my brown widows, and one of the black widows both, at different times got me, for both reasons, and whilst it was agonizing, full body miserable, shockingly painful and generally fucking awful, leaving me the next day shaking, barely able to move and feeling like I'd just been sideswiped by a drunk-driven battle tank, I don't hold it against them, because they were acting in defense of their lives and that of their hundreds of young. THEY were unaware that the big huge biped was in reality, caring for them, giving them a home to call their own, making sure they always had what food and water they needed. They just bit me because they had no means to retreat, which defending young aside they will almost always do first, they are shy, retiring creatures. Made lovely pets actually
