Gym Etiquette For Flirtting or Hooking Up???

[Larr_E]

... I hit the gym a few times a week and most of the time I go I see the same group of people. In this group there is a nice looking older lady that hangs near me before her class. We've always smiled at each other but i've never thought anything of it. When I go there I like to be left alone and listen to my ipod so people try not to talk to me. The past two times I had forgotten my earbuds so ended up talking to one of the regulars. This guy had asked if the cougar and I had dated because he was thinking of asking for her number. I said no and asked why he had thought that. Apparently she had only been lifting weights on days I was there and always near me. Then he also noticed that when i'd move she'd move to be near me. I cracked a joke to him being gay because he was tracking my movements too and we laughed but he said he was bi (awkward silence) and not into me just really into her. He also said she's fair game from what he had heard. 20 mins later guess who shows up and starts working out near me? Now I really like my gym but this cougar is a natural beauty and that is right at the top of my list but if I do something about it i'd be breaking my own rules of being left the fuck alone at the gym AND if shit goes south then my comfort level goes right out the window and it would be harder for me to zone out. Plus I don't want to be as creepy as this weirdo that's been tracking the cougar like a freakin' hound to a fox...





Thoughts???

 

[Care]

Just start up a conversation and see where it goes. Make it casual at first. Im sure you'll be able to tell very early if she is interested.

I personally like to be left alone at the gym but it sounds like you've got an opportunity on your hands here.

 

[Biovail]

Why are you asking us this? Weigh your options and make your own decision. Assuming you know how you would talk to the lady.. You're in a much better position to make this call than anybody on this forum. Is pursuing something with her worth risking being uncomfortable at the gym? Sound to me like you already gave that other dude the go-ahead with her though, and though you'd still be in the right by flirting with her I'm not sure what his opinion of you would be. But that isn't really your concern. If she seems to be into you then do whatever seems best.

 

[mr.buffnstuff]

just wait till shes on a tread mill and get on the same one running behind her!

ger her to do some heavy bench press, offer to spot her, THEN when shes at full reach pull your shorts to the side and tea bag her! (iv seen a group of lads do that to each other - :/ )

if shes quite stacked, ger her to spot you or offer to spot each other on a couple of sets? get talking?

i always think the 'spotting' way is easiest

 

[LuGoJ]

Go for it but if shit gets weird you are going to have to see her at the gym all of the time, unless one of you changes gyms.

 

[Cyc]

Just a word of fair warning.

Some people hate being bothered at the gym and are very particular about their gym time being a form of 'me' time.

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

Just start up a conversation and see where it goes. Make it casual at first. Im sure you'll be able to tell very early if she is interested.

I personally like to be left alone at the gym but it sounds like you've got an opportunity on your hands here.

Do this.

I'm OK with casual conversations with people at the gym but even if I'm friends with someone I don't like to talk for long periods of time since I'm there to exercise.

 

[Larr_E]

Just a word of fair warning.

Some people hate being bothered at the gym and are very particular about their gym time being a form of 'me' time.

That's exactly how I am. I guess if the situation presents its self i'll talk to her. I'm not gonna go out of my way for this one though...

 

[Perpetual Indulgence]

I agree with Cyc. Gym time is my time. I avoid talking with anyone unless it is to work in with them using equipment. I will smile at familiar faces being polite. I am not there to hook up. If she is interested in conversing with you, let her make the first move. The cougar tracks you. You do nothing.