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Got my eye on one girl, but i'm starting to have feelings for my mates fling...

doppelganga196

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I've had my eye on this waitress for months - she's quite shy & mysterious, & HOT, the other sunday we really hit it off, chatting, laughing, flirting y'know. I bumped into her yesterday & i'm pretty sure she likes me but like i said she's all cute n shy & did i mention 18! Cor blimey!

The other girl has been all over my friend who i've known like 10 + years - they've had sex a couple times but he's thinking of breaking it off cos she's always phoning him & he's been very adament that he's not in for a relashonship.

She's been ringing me now & then too & i've just started to have feelings for her, not major ones, but feelings.

She crashed at my place on the weekend & nothing happened - neither of us were going for it, but the next day my friend seemed suspicious of her spending the night at mine & even though i could tell he knew we hadnt slept together he was a bit "off " with her & was without a doubt jealous. On some level i know she likes this...

However i've hung out just me & my mate since & he's cool with me 7 is on about ending it with her cos now she's texting him with "love yous" & such.

I dont want a relashonship with her either & i'm much more attracted to the other girl & i really wanna get with her.

However i neeed me some loving ; ) I should wait until things have ended with " them two " before pursuing anything with girl number two right? :?:?:?

Ah, shucks, when it rains it pours it really does.
 
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why not ask him how he feels about it? communication is key to any manner of relationship. if he says he has no qualms, then the obvious solution is to fuck both women. if he has a problem, either trap him with Platonic rhetoric into believing he is a territorial primate and proceed with the former solution, or, have him openly admit he does have genuine feelings for the second girl and have sex with the first one secure in the notion that there are still somewhere around 3,500,000,000 women in the world to move onto next.

/end lipschitz accent
 
I can't believe you are actually contemplating stealing your friend's girl. Even if he's not that interested, that's still a major violation of the bro code.

If you were my "friend" I'd kick your ass.
 
That part of the bro code is there to make you a bitch or someone who rises above being an animal - it's fine to contemplate it, BUT going behind his back isn't cool...coz bro's don't do that - bros talk and then bros let their friend have the girl if they've done with them.
 
Wow Jerry, internet tough guy! Impressive. Yeah, did i say i was actually thinking of acting on the "feelings" ??? TWIT!

RoughJack, i appreciate the wisdom dude; ive since spent some time with my "mates fling" & those "feelings" i've decicded were pretty fleeting. However i still very much have feelings for miss adoreable waitress. Much more "my type" too.

For the record, my friend is not into this other girl & is a hair away from cutting her loose, & as Jack said i would indeed talk things over about whether he was cool with me "fooling around" with janice, whoops! (joke, not her name) if they were over, & believe me they weren't together in the frst place, just a friends with benefits type thing which got o.t.t on her part.
 
Whatever, dude. You're a shitty friend and obviously you don't know the first thing about women otherwise you wouldn't be asking strangers on the internet for advice.

Pathetic really.
 
SO, you wanna fuck this waitress, but a mate is seeing a girl that you find somewhat attractive. SO, you start a thread just double checking that you shouldn't make a move on your friend's girl behind his back while their still together?

Answer: No. Do not fuck your friend's girlfriend.

This 'issue' of yours really seems like a non-issue to me. You do not appear to have any real feelings for either girl in this equation. Go out and pick up at a bar to tide you over until (if) this waitress is ready, and stay away from girls that are taken..especially those taken by your friends. Also, perhaps you should consider learning what it actually means to be a friend to another person.
 
^^ What a good attitude for a mod. ;)

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Does somebody need a hug?
 
Christ, a guy comes home drunk & starts a thread aiming to get some non judgemental thoughts on this n gets a load of hostile bs... Hey jerry, do what mods do best & close this thread if it bothers you so.
 
Leave the girl with the baggage alone. You're asking for trouble. You even picked up on the "trying to make the friend jealous" angle, and it's probably what she's doing. It's the stereotypical girl is into guy. Guy isn't that into girl, but sleeps with her for something to do. Girl realizes that guy isn't that into her, and girl goes for guy's friend to incite jealousy. You said yourself you felt like she liked the jealousy when he found out that she just slept over. IMO, she's playing games, so avoid this girl to avoid the baggage and drama.

Spend your energy on the cute waitress. IMO.
 
^Thanks man.

Posts number 3 & 13 on here were genuinely helpful; the ones from that petty testy mod were just nonsense.

FYI, last night i saw em both amongst other friends & not only has my "feelings" for her gone from "crush" to an enjoyable new friendship but i was smoking up with my friend & he was talking of her & whether or not he should cut her loose or become a couple i shared my thoughts that although he is irritated by her being too full on for a casual thing, he has seemed happier since they hooked up & he seemed genuinely pleased to hear that. So i guess he kinda " hates liking her".

I'm glad for em both & bloody glad she hasnt managed to tease my cock into a hopeless battle. ; )

I may post more on the waitress if all goes well in the next week or two.

Happy lovin everybody
 
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